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Article Courtesy 'Any Woman Anywhere' [www.anywomananywhere.com]
If
you've ever wanted to be more than just a friend to a woman in your
life, you're going to find this week's article very interesting. -
Based on the
ebook "Any
Woman, Anywhere..."
A very interesting topic in conversations about success with women is
the idea of "being needy."
Now, the common wisdom is simple:
DON'T BE NEEDY.
But, like most ideas, the truth is a bit more complicated than it seems
on the surface. And if you have an overly simplistic view in this area,
it ABSOLUTELY will STAND IN THE WAY of your success with certain women.
Let me explain:
When you read something like "Don't Be Needy," or "Don't Be A Wuss,"
what happens?
Well, if you were honest, you'd realize that there's a little part of
you inside that IS a bit needy, that IS a bit of a wuss. You know why?
Because we are all HUMAN. We ALL have insecurities in certain areas. And
just telling you not to be needy isn't going to help you.
In fact, it may even make you SELF CONSCIOUS about the fact that you are
more "needy" in certain areas that you'd like. But so what. Everyone is
more "needy" in certain areas than we'd like, myself included.
EVERYONE included. It's no big deal.
RELAX.
So that's step 1. Stop worrying about being a bit "needy" or a bit of a
"wuss" in certain respects.
Step 2 is to realize that women differ in their NEED FOR SPACE.
For example, a friend of mine was dating this woman who was smoking hot.
He found out through a friend that she was already dating some other guy
(like most smoking hot women are), but that this other guy was turning
her off.
How was he turning her off?
By calling her every day, wanting to talk for hours on the phone, and
basically coming on "too strong."
It had reached the point where she actually stopped returning his calls.
(Have you ever had a woman stop returning your calls, just out of the
blue? If you've dated at all, I know you have. Well, you may have been
coming on too strong, acting all needy and wussy, and not respecting the
woman's need for space.)
But my point here is that I'm sure this poor other guy who was dating
this smoking hot woman REALLY LIKED her.
In fact, he was just following his heart, just following what his
feelings were telling him to do when he called her all the time and came
on "strong."
Hell, since his feelings were strong, shouldn't that mean his behaviors
should be strong too?
WRONG!
His problem (and probably yours) is that his behavior (which seemed
"natural" to him) was ruining any chances of his success with this
woman.
But the very interesting point here is that DIFFERENT WOMEN ARE
DIFFERENT.
For example, I was dating a wonderful woman recently. It just so
happened she had a very LOW need for space. In fact, the more I was
around and communicated with her, the better.
If I called her everyday and wanted to talk for hours, she'd be as happy
as a clam. If I wanted to see her every single day, man, she'd be in hog
heaven (but believe me, she definitely was no hog. Quite the contrary,
she was very, very cute and extremely fit).
Here's
the point I want to make:
Had that poor soul who was blowing it with the smoking hot girl had been
instead dating the woman that I had been dating recently, she would have
had no problem with his behavior that the smoking hot girl saw as needy,
clingy, and "too much too soon."
But he wasn't dating her. He was dating a DIFFERENT woman.
And that's why he's doomed to fail with her.
And the sad thing is that he'll probably never understand why. Maybe
he'll get all critical on himself, trying to analyze what's wrong with
his personality or who he is as a person that turned off this woman who
he REALLY wanted to be with.
And of course, not only would that be a complete waste of this time, but
would only serve to make a serious blow to his self-confidence and make
it even harder for him to succeed with the next woman he finds.
What he doesn't realize is that it has less to do with HIM, and more to
do with HER.
It's was HER NEED FOR SPACE that made his behavior a turn off. However,
you never know how much need for space a certain woman has. So my
message to you is to always err on the side of being a bit less clingy
than you normally would.
For example, NOT calling a woman you're interested in every day is a
great idea. It's an insurance measure.
Same goes for NOT having super long conversations on the phone, and NOT
buying her tons of flowers or gifts, and NOT telling her over and over
again how much you're into her.
With practice you'll begin to see if the woman you like has a high need
for space, a low need for space, or somewhere in the middle. But if
you're unsure, back off just a bit with your amount of communication.
Don't make the mistake I've blindly "following what your heart tells you
to do" and communicate way too much with a woman you like early on.
DON'T DO THIS!
Oh, and don't worry if you think of yourself as being a bit insecure,
needy, or wussy. We ALL are in certain areas.
Realizing this is a huge step in just accepting yourself as you are,
which is a HUGE turn on for women. Plus, it just feels great.
Listen, if you've been getting
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It's a fact:
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additional material you'll get in my eBook is how'll you'll make the
real big difference in your success with women. Stop making the mistakes
that are holding you back from what you truly deserve with women.
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