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Learn
the top reasons why guys don’t approach the women they want--and what
YOU can do to turn around your success with women. - Based on the
ebook "Any Woman, Anywhere..."
Probably the biggest myth we men have bought into is that if we are
“nice” to women they will like us in return; that is, they will be
attracted to us. The problem is that being nice is NOT ENOUGH to create
attraction.
If you are like the average nice guy, this is perhaps the biggest
point you must learn before you will ever stop being just a friend to
the women in your life.
You may go out of your way to be really nice to a woman you just met: be
considerate of her needs, really listening to what she's saying,
agreeing with her opinions, doing her favors, etc. What you're doing is
“nice”. The only problem is that this does nothing to increase
attraction.
A man who focuses only on being very nice to a woman will be seen as a
friend -- nothing more. If “being nice” is the only ingredient in your
recipe, you're missing the spice of attraction.
“I've dated Bob a couple of times now. He is SUCH a nice guy. He's so
considerate and sweet. But I just don't feel any chemistry. I'm not
attracted to him.”
Sound familiar?
Bob screwed up. He ONLY focused on being nice and considerate and a
gentleman, without ALSO focusing on building physical attraction in the
woman.
He didn't balance being nice with BEING A MASCULINE MAN.
So that's the first lesson of attraction we have to get clear on right
from the start:
Being nice is not enough.
BEING NICE HAS A DIRTY LITTLE REWARD
If you're reading this right now, there's a good chance you tend to be
TOO nice on your dates, and don't balance this with being an
interesting, masculine, sexually aware man.
Why?
Every behavior has some sort of reward, a payoff, and that's why we
continue to do the things we do. Underneath many men's niceness, what's
REALLY going on is that they don't want to risk REJECTION by expressing
their interests as men.
So being nice has a payoff:
IT'S A WAY TO AVOID REJECTION.
If you tend to have dates where nothing physical happens, ask yourself
if focusing so much on being nice may give you the payoff of protecting
you from rejection.
Think about it.
Women who go out with guys who are only nice quickly lose interest,
because these guys are rarely “man enough” to step up to the plate and
let women know very clearly that they are interested in them physically
and romantically.
And beware…once the woman's interest has faded, you have just entered
the dreaded “Friend Zone” from which very few men have ever returned.
BE NICE, JUST DON'T ONLY BE NICE
There's nothing wrong with being nice, considerate, and thoughtful as long
as it doesn't get in your way of building attraction and letting her know
you're interested. So sure, open doors, pull out chairs, be chivalrous, but
don't SUBSTITUTE doing these nice things for expressing interest and
building attraction.
Friends can open doors and pull out chairs. Wussies can open doors and pull
out chairs.
But only mature, sexually aware men will take the chance to do things to
build attraction, express their desires, and make their moves. Women EXPECT
men who are interested in them to do this. IT'S OKAY. It's part of being a
man who has a healthy relationship with his own sexuality.
Men who are okay with their own sexuality may express their interest in
women quite often. Men who aren't okay with their own sexuality feel that
there's something wrong about expressing their sexual interest. As if there
is something “bad” about doing it. As if there is something “un-gentlemanly”
about doing it. Nothing could be farther from the truth.
YOU NEED AN EDUCATION
And if you haven't already mastered these ideas, you're going to need to
educate yourself on how to get this part of your life under control. You'll
need to learn how to stop just being nice to women, and instead start
expressing the natural, masculine part of yourself in a way that women
respond to.
It's not difficult to improve. You just need to know exactly what to do.
And best place I know of to learn this, without having to muddle through a
bunch of lame-ass advice that's rampant on the internet these days, is my
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get a phone number in under two minutes, how never again to be seen as “just
a friend,” how to build attraction, get physical, and much, much more.
It's fully guaranteed to help you or your money back, and if you have a
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Every day I get emails from guys who are having more success with women
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