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Courtesy 'Any Woman Anywhere' [www.anywomananywhere.com]
Learn
the top reasons why guys don’t approach the women they want--and what
YOU can do to turn around your success with women. - Based on the
ebook "Any Woman, Anywhere..."
In the last article
your assignment was to start following up Step 1: Open with Step 2:
Trust/Small Talk.
How'd it go? Were you able to extend the conversations you are having
with women?
Remember that the first time you meet a woman you goal is to have MORE
than just a nice conversation. Your goal is to open the possibility of
walking away with her number. This article will give you a BRIEF
glimpse into precisely this concept.
STEP 3: CLOSE.
As I said in the last letter, most “normal guys” or “nice guys” may be
okay with having a conversation with a woman they're attracted to, but
they often hesitate or avoid crossing the line and actually CLOSING
(asking for a number or suggesting a date).
Why?
Because when you attempt to CLOSE you risk rejection. No CLOSING, no
rejection…
But also ... NO CHICKS!
And there may be a GREAT temptation in your mind NOT to close. Closing
may feel VERY uncomfortable to you.
Of course it does! And this is a big part of what separates the 90% of
guys who settle for women they're not happy with and who don't enjoy a
certain amount of control in their dating life, and the 10% of guys who
are confident with women and enjoy great success.
So I'm going to assume you want to go from the bottom 90% to the top
10%. Cool.
I have 1 piece of advice:
Take Step 3: Close, and make it your friend.
After you do Step 1: Open and Step 2: Trust/Small
Talk, it's time for you to grab some sack and close the deal. And
there's a variety of ways to suggest this:
“If you're comfortable with it, let's exchange numbers.”
“I'd love to chat with you a bit more over coffee or drinks. What's your
number?”
“Sara, I think we should meet this week. Could I get your number?”
“I'd love to meet you for coffee and some great conversation later this
week.”
“Something tells me you're more than just a pretty face. Let's chat
again sometime soon ..."
“How spontaneous are you feeling? Meet me at Starbucks in an hour.”
“Did you hear the news? You have plans with this smart, funny, oh, and
good looking guy on Thursday night.”
Although this list may get you started, what will work for you may be
something different. That's fine. Whatever it is, KEEP IT CONSISTENT. In
other words, use the same basic approach or wording for each woman you meet.
This will get you more and more comfortable with the words, and the most
comfortable you are the most confident you will come across.
If a certain phrasing isn't working for you, change it. Once you find one
that works for you use it again and again and again.
EXCHANGING NUMBERS is a great idea. So instead of just asking for her
number, suggest exchanging numbers. This way if you get too busy to call her
for some reason, and she calls you, you can be pretty damn sure she already
has high Interest Level in you. But certainly don't EXPECT this to happen.
SETTING UP A DATE ON THE SPOT is also a great idea. Rather than getting her
number and trying to reach her, dealing with voicemail, talking to
roommates, etc., just set up a date right there on the spot. Then exchanging
numbers is just a formality in case one of you needs to reschedule. I call
this the Man With A Plan Approach. Very nice.
Here's a nugget of wisdom:
DO NOT HAVE EXPENSIVE FIRST DATES!
Believe me, trying to impress a woman on the first date by having an
expensive one is the wrong way to go. If you feel compelled to do this,
you're probably feeling a bit insecure right now and trying to compensate by
spending money…
DON'T DO THIS!
Fact is, most first dates don't lead to a second. So if you don't want to
throw your money away, keep the first date cheap. And if you're worried that
your date won't like you unless you spend money on her, do you really want
to be going out with those types of GOLD DIGGERS anyways?
I hope not.
If you don't have any first date ideas of your own, consider going out for a
coffee or a drink. Somewhere with a view or interesting things to look at is
a plus.
Or if you're more into having fun, play some pool at an upscale pool hall,
or bowl, or miniature golf, or go carts. And then if the dates going well
you can make up rules, like whoever wins gets a kiss from the other person.
Or a massage. Or whatever.
Another first date idea is to watch the sunset from a cool place. Maybe
bring drinks. Movies are usually a bad idea, unless both of you LOVE movies
and you'll have time afterwards to talk about the film.
YOUR HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
The very next attractive woman you approach, attempt to close. I don't care
how much you fumble over your words, just do it. And the next woman you
approach after that, attempt to close her too. And the next one.
This will QUICKLY give you the experience of attempting to close 3 women.
And practice EXACTLY how you will close 10 times before trying it for real.
In fact, take 5 minutes right now and decide how you're going to close. Say
aloud a couple of different options right now, then pick one you like, write
it down, and say it 10 more times.
Then go out and try it on 3 women. You have no more than 48 hours. Better
yet, do all three closes today.
And if you are reading this
right now and you're getting excited about the possibility to be able to
approach any woman, anywhere, then I have a message for you:
THIS IS JUST THE BEGINNING.
My ebook and bonus ebooklets are over 170 pages packed with specific
strategies and step by step explanation of how to improve your success with
women. I include the biggest mistake guys make with women - and how you can
stop making it yourself.
I explain how to make approaching pretty women even EASIER than approaching
less attractive ones. I teach how to be an “Assertive Gentleman” who can ask
for WHATEVER he wants, and still be seen as “classy.”
I lay out a plan to help shy, introverted guys get over their fear of
approaching women. I describe how to stop being seen as just a friend by
using sexual innuendos - and include actual dialogs you can model.
I share how to talk to a woman to build attraction.
And much, much more.
Here's yet another testimonials:
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-C.S., San Francisco, California
Check it out here:
www.anywomananywhere.com
In the mean time, get out there,
apply these ideas, and I'll speak to you again in a couple of days.
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