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Hi, There's a
concept called "opportunity cost." It refers to the loss of opportunity
one suffers when you are doing something you SHOULDN'T be doing. In your
case, the "opportunity cost" was all the women you COULD HAVE been
dating while you were wasting your time trying to get this ONE to go out
with you. And what's really sad, borderline tragic, is how very common
this is. All the time guys put "all their eggs in one basket," and then
get crushed when that one woman just isn't into them. And we've all been
there...myself included. So, this mistake is very NORMAL... I'll tell
you why: Partly it's because you don't YET have the skills to have a
full dating calendar. In other words, you're NEEDY. If you were
consistently having a couple of dates a week, you wouldn't be "trying"
to date this woman for a year. Now that I've ranted, let's get back to your question: "This lady seemed to like me and at first I thought me might go out. However when I finally asked her out she said that she was not dating anyone at the moment because of her son. She was divorced about 2 years ago. I recently found out through a friend that she was dating someone." SHE'S JUST NOT INTO YOU, DUDE. Most men
without tons of dating experience have not yet learned something
absolutely fascinating: Direct rejection ("I'm not attracted to you...
you're not my type...etc") happens VERY RARELY. Instead, most women
instead will tell you "I have a boyfriend." "I'm not dating anyone right
now because of my son" is a polite, indirect rejection. Oh, and the fact
you were slow and "finally" asked her out hurt your chances as well.
When you procrastinate asking a woman out, it's a big turn off. When
you're slow to ask a woman out, you start creeping her out. She'll sense
that you like her, and that you WANT TO ask for her number and move
things forward, but you're torn. Women
don't respect men who let fear get the best of them. And when a woman
doesn't respect you, it's next to impossible for her to be attracted to
you. Here's one more thought: "The early bird catches the worm..." Back one last time to your question: "Dude, this person only wants to be friends but she has given me signals in the past that I thought meant something else. I feel like I should move on and seek someone else because the longer I try the more my feelings get hurt." One of the best things you can do for yourself as a man is develop the ability to RESPECT REALITY. The
ability to look at things as they are, not as you WISH them to be. And
the reality is that now, despite the fact that she may have given you
positive signals in the past, she only wants to be friends with you.
That's reality today. So move on. Or, wait, I have a better idea...
Don't move on. Keep thinking about her. Keep obsessing about her. Keep
wishing you could have her. Right? Well,
keep doing the same things, and you'll keep getting the same result. But
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