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If
you've ever wanted to be able to just walk up and start talking to a
woman you're going to find this article very interesting. -
Based on the
ebook "Any
Woman, Anywhere..."
How to be the man who owns his attraction and is able to express his desires to
the women he's attracted to without turning them off.
*** Advice Article ***
A Reader's Question:
Hey,
If you remember (which is kinda tough cuz you get so many emails), I had
said that I will be thankful to you for life! It was because of your
e-books that I had many dates and finally have a girlfriend for 2 months
now. But our relationship is in the 'all cozy n settled' phase now. Her
problem is since she works odd times (like me) she emails me less now
and she has a big family...so we get less time to hangout and we meet
once a week else mostly on 2-3 phones/week.
You said that one should not show very much interest and try to impress
the girl. But my question is how do i keep the love alive...I'm playing
cool....but how do i keep the 'spark' ignited without showing love or
interest in her??
Can you please suggest to me anything or any chapter in your book that i
may have overlooked??
Thanks a lot,
Vick.
Reply:
I included this email because it includes a very important idea, an idea
that is a bit subtle, but if you don't get it it's going to hurt you big
time.
When I talk about being careful of how much interest you show, I never
said DON'T show ANY interest.
What I said was be CAREFUL about how much interest you show, because if
you're like the typical Nice Guy you're going to go overboard and scare
her away like a big tiger trying to pounce on a little butterfly.
It just won't work.
So, things like showering with compliments, buying gifts, calling every
day, etc., are definite no- no's. But I didn't say DON'T SHOW ANY
INTEREST AT ALL.
You just have to EASE UP from what you'd normally do, and be thoughtful
about it.
For example, the occasional and specific compliment, with slowed speech
and eye contact, can really make an impact on a girl. In fact, when you
get good at it, it can MELT HER HEART
And that's a good thing.
But SHOWERING with compliments has little impact except to confirm her
suspicions that you are a hopeless, needy Nice Guy who can't spark her
fire.
Get it?
The trick is to not go overboard with showing Interest, while at the
same time being a Sexually Aware Man. That is, be a man who OWNS his
sexuality and is able to express his desires to the women he's attracted
to without getting all weird about it.
Like so many things in life, a little knowledge is dangerous. Don't make
the mistake of over-simplifying what I talk about.
But thanks for the question, and I'm happy my eBook landed you a
girlfriend. Now get out there and spark that damn fire, man!
A Reader's Question:
Hi,
I'm writing this to thank you for your best book. I've been reading it
and I feel more confidence in myself and it's been helpful. Now I need
to ask you something and i appreciate if you could help out here.
Well, before I read your eBook I made a big mistake by approaching a hot
girl in my class and started saying:
"Excuse me, hi.....Aren't you the one playing in the movie, Bold and
Beautiful,"
And she was like, "what?" and I asked her again and she was like no and
then she was shy talking to me.
She kept
on moving around and then I was like "maybe you're too cute to be in
that movie" and she gave me a look that was a little bit of smile and
shyness in it and she kept going around and playing with her cell.
I didn't have anything to say, so I kept asking about the class and
after that she left the class. I went after her and I said I was really
sorry about earlier and she was like "No, it's ok," and I left her....
The whole conversation that I had after I complimented her wasn't that
great and I wasn't very confident....
Now my question is what should do I do now, because I see her in my
class and I don't want her to have a bad impression of me.
Thanks.
- J.J.
Reply:
Believe it or not, there is something good, very good, that can come out
of this.
And that is:
You've just learned what NOT to do.
Don't approach a girl and give the same type of totally cheesy
compliment every needy, insecure guy gives.
Don't give this cheesy compliment, and then when that doesn't work,
follow it up with an even cheesier compliment!
And don't follow a girl around, continuing to try to talk to her when
she's rude and starts to play with her cell phone while you're talking
to her.
Don't do these things. But I'm serious when I say that learning these
things is a VERY good thing.
Because I've found that 50% of success with women comes from simply STOP
doing the things that are screwing things up for you.
Even if you don't know exactly what you SHOULD do, just knowing what you
SHOULDN'T do can probably double or triple your current level of
success.
And hey, remember, congratulate yourself for actually going up to her
and saying ANYTHING AT ALL.
I'd bet there are at least several other guys in the class that are all
googly for your hottie, but don't have the balls to take the action you
did.
So good for you. It's a good start.
Remember, this process of improving your skills is going to look like
this:
1) learn an idea
2) apply the idea with a woman
3) learn from the experience
4) take better action next time
5) learn from the experience again, and again
And if you're reading this right now and thinking, "Man, J.J. really
screwed up, I'm glad I'm not that much of a loser,"
I'd be willing to bet you're being even MORE of a loser by not taking
any action at all.
If not, my apologizes.
But you get my point.
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