 The 7 Mistakes You Make When Approaching
Women -- And How To Correct Them Immediately
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talk (verb): to communicate with spoken words.
gawk (verb): to stare STUPIDLY.
It’s a well known fact that 90% of the men in this world cannot walk up
to a woman they are attracted to and have a short conversation in which
they even simply SUGGEST to the woman that they’d like to see her again.
Don’t believe me? Take a look around you. Observe how many guys notice
when an attractive woman walks by. Now observe how many guys TALK to
this woman, compared to how many guys GAWK (“stare stupidly”) at her.
Isn’t this strange?
Isn’t this odd?
Now look at your own behavior. I’d be willing to bet you usually do the
same thing. Most guys are GAWKERS, not TALKERS.
So why do so many guys wuss out when it comes to talking to women?
And what can YOU do to stop making this critical error?
You're about to learn the seven most common mistakes guys make when
approaching a woman. Can you find YOUR errors below?
Betcha can...
Mistake #1: You talk yourself out of approaching a woman because you
think she is “out of your league.”
How many times have you seen an attractive woman somewhere and thought
to yourself:
“She’s out of my league. She wouldn’t go for me. She’s too hot.”
This is probably the biggest trick the male brain plays on us guys.
Because when you think like this what you’re actually doing is
PRE-REJECTING YOURSELF. You are fouling out before you even step up to
the plate. And it’s amazing how often guys who ARE willing to approach
women actually get phone numbers and dates from women they never thought
would be interested in them.
And consider this:
If you’re thinking she’s out of your league, then probably most other
guys are thinking the same thing.
Result:
Some of the hottest women are approached the least. And so they can be
very receptive to a guy starting a “normal” conversation with them. But
YOU must be the one to initiate the
conversation.
Mistake #2: You believe that if you approach a woman you'll make her feel
uncomfortable, and she'll think you're a jerk or a pervert.
Ah, this is one of the many “Nice Guy Traps.”
The logic goes like this:
“I’m a nice guy and I don't want to make women feel uncomfortable.
Approaching this woman MAY make her feel uncomfortable, so I'd better not.”
WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!
What’s really happening here ISN’T that you’re being nice. What’s REALLY
happening here is you’re scared, but you don’t see this yet. Instead of
seeing the truth (that you’re scared), you rationalize your decision not to
approach by falling back on your identity as a “nice guy.” You need to FREE
YOURSELF of this delusion.
Read this section again if you have to. I think you’ll find I’m right on
target.
As soon as you learn how to approach with class, no woman will think you’re
a jerk or a slimeball for approaching her. When you do it right, many women
will actually respond, “You just made my day.” You must get over this Nice
Guy Trap to get what you're looking for.
Mistake #3: You expect women to be rude if they’re not interested in you.
Almost every guy has created a nightmare scenario in his head of what might
happen if he approaches a woman, asks her out, and she’s not interested. You
may think she’ll laugh at you. Or tell her friends what you said and ALL OF
THEM will laugh at you. Or that she’ll say something rude to you that’ll
make you feel about 3 feet tall.
But you know what MOST women will tell you if they’re not interested?
Get ready….
“I’m sorry, I have a boyfriend.”
That’s it.
Sometimes they really do have a boyfriend, sometimes not. But even when it’s
not true, is hearing this really such a big deal? It actually helps you save
face and exit the conversation with your pride still intact. So a rude
rejection really isn’t doesn’t come up all that much. Sure, occasionally
(less than 10% of the time) you’ll come across a rude woman, but this is the
exception, not the norm.
And even then, it’s not that big a deal. Move on to your next approach with
a woman who isn’t rude, and you’ll soon forget about the bitchy one. It’s
all about learning the right mindset.
Mistake #4: You assume you
need to have a long conversation to get a woman's phone number.
Many guys make approaching women more complex than it has to be. That’s why
they rarely (if ever) do it. But truth be known, by the end of the FIRST
MINUTE women have already made up their mind. Either they’re available and
curious enough about you to give you their number, or they’re not.
You don’t need to have a 10-minute conversation that’s totally amazing,
mind-blowing, and earth-shattering to try to “convince” a woman to give you
her number. All you need to do is learn a sincere and direct approach that
lets her know you’re normal and interested in her. And best of all, this can
be done in usually under just two minutes.
It doesn’t have to be rocket science, guys. Isn’t that a relief?
Mistake #5: You shower a woman with compliments, thinking that's the best
way to get her to give you her number.
The internet is full of misinformation on the
subject of giving compliments
to women. If you believe what you read, you might think complimenting a
woman is the absolutely worst thing you could do.
So, let’s clear up the confusion right now:
If you SHOWER a woman you just met with compliments, she'll think you’re
needy. This kills any hopes of her feeling attraction toward you (unless
she’s very insecure herself). But if you give her JUST ONE compliment, you
will communicate in a non-needy way that you are a man noticing her as a
woman. Women will usually interpret this as a sign of confidence. Especially
since most guys don't yet have the courage to do this. Giving JUST ONE
compliment also prevents women from misinterpreting your conversation as
just a “friendly” one. They’ll see you as a sexually aware man, not as just
another sexually neutral wuss-friend.
First, remember to give just one compliment. Next, learn WHICH compliments
are the most effective to give and you’ll be on your way.
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