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LETTER FROM A NEWSLETTER READER:
Hi,
I'm just writing to you to share with you an experience of mine that I had
because of your book.
Last week I was at work (a large store in a mall) and noticed there was an
attractive girl in line with her friends.
However they were back a few so I thought I'd be nice and open up my line.
Upon doing so the girl and her friends immediately came over with their
items.
I said Hi and they all said Hi back. After standing there for a few minutes
listening to their conversation I spoke up and said, "Wow you did that badly
in bowling? I don't think anyone as pretty as you has ever bowled that
bad..."
Her and her friends laughed and then walked out afterwards. I was kicking
myself for not asking for her number.
However just yesterday I noticed the same girl and her friends standing in
line again. Well I thought heck I'll do it again. So I opened my line and
sure enough they all came up and I asked if she has bowled any better since
last we met.
She laughed and I told her she has the prettiest laugh I've ever heard,
after which I asked her her name and so forth (step 2 thanks Man) and
figured out she lived only 10 minutes from my apartment.
I then asked if perhaps sometime she'd like to get together and she said
yes. I got her number, and feeling already impressed with myself I went over
to talk with a fellow female employee only to get tapped on the shoulder and
have 2 of the girl's friends saying that if I ever wanted to get to know
them better to give them a call.
I was so shocked.
Not only that, but later that night I had a female co-worker who is very
attractive give me her number, too.
So I got 4 girls' numbers in under an hour and I only had to ask 1 girl.
Needless to say I have 4 dates lined up for next week already.
Thanks Dude. Your advice is priceless and life changing.
Thanks Man!
Chad, Michigan
Comments:
Uh, well, what can I really say?
Oh, I know:
NICE WORK, Chad.
You ask out 1 girl, and you get 4 numbers. You killed 4 birds with 1 stone.
Incredibly efficient, dude.
Let me point out a few things about what you did that any guy can learn
from:
1) You illustrated the difference between being a wuss, and being a
gentlemen. Opening a new line for the ladies was being a gentlemen, it was
NOT wussy in the least.
2) Your comment "Have you bowled any better since we met last?" was a great
teasing comment. Women laughing is always a sign you're doing something
right.
3) Your small talk (Step 2 of the 3 Step Approach I teach) built some trust,
which was great.
4) The words you used weren't as important as the PLACE YOU CAME FROM.
Asking a woman, "Would you like to get together sometime?" isn't exactly
creative or interesting, but guess what?
IT DIDN'T MATTER!
The lesson is don't worry about the words you choose as much as doing the 3
steps I teach.
5) Social proof is powerful. I'd be willing to bet the reason the female
employee gave you her number was either because she was feeling your mojo
(or "heightened sense of confidence") from having the success with the other
girls, or because she saw your ability to connect with these other girls and
make them laugh and this established "Social Proof" of your worth.
The instant a woman sees a man succeed with another woman, that man's stock
INSTANTLY SKYROCKETS in her eyes.
In summary, you took action, mixed in some humor and even some chivalry, and
it paid off big time.
Nice work!
By the way, if 4 dates is too many for you to handle, and if the girls were
cute, make sure to send me their numbers.
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HOW TO GET A WOMAN TO SEE YOU AS A "CONFIDENT GUY"
You may have read in other places that if you want to succeed with women,
the most important thing you should AVOID is coming across as "needy."
Now, the common wisdom is simple:
DON'T BE NEEDY.
But, like most ideas, the truth is a bit more complicated than it seems on
the surface. And if you have an overly simplistic view in this area, it
ABSOLUTELY will STAND IN THE WAY of your success with women.
Let me explain:
When you read something like "Don't Be Needy," or "Don't Be A Wuss," what
happens?
Well, most guys realize that there's a little part inside of them that IS
needy, that IS a bit of a wuss.
You know why?
Because we are all HUMAN. We ALL have insecurities in certain areas. And
just telling you not to be needy isn't going to help.
In fact, it may even make you SELF CONSCIOUS about the fact that you are
more "needy" in certain areas that you'd like.
But so what. Everyone is more "needy" in certain areas than we'd like,
myself included.
EVERYONE included. It's no big deal.
RELAX.
So that's step 1. Stop worrying about being a little needy. Don't trip out
about it. Don't make a big deal about it.
Step 2 is to realize that women differ in their NEED FOR SPACE.
For example:
A friend of mine was dating this woman who was smoking hot. He found out
through a friend that she was already dating some other guy (like most
smoking hot women are), but that this other guy was turning her off.
How was he turning her off?
By calling her every day, wanting to talk for hours on the phone, and
basically coming on "too strong." It had reached the point where she
actually stopped returning his calls.
This is the typical thing that happens to most guys when they come on too
strong, act needy, and don't respect a woman's need for space.
But my point here is that I'm sure this poor other guy who was dating this
smoking hot woman REALLY LIKED her.
In fact, he was just following his heart, just following what his feelings
were telling him to do when he called her all the time, etc.
He probably thought that he was only acting "natural" and "following his
feelings."
This looks great on paper... but his behavior ruined his chances for getting
this girl to like him.
But it's also important to remember that DIFFERENT WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT.
For example, I was dating a wonderful woman recently. It just so happened
she had a very LOW need for space. In fact, the more I was around and
communicated with her, the better.
If I called her everyday and wanted to talk for hours, she'd be as happy as
a clam.
If I wanted to see her every single day, man, she'd be in hog heaven (but
believe me, she definitely was no hog. Quite the contrary, she was cute and
fit).
Here's the point I want to make:
Had that poor soul who was blowing it with the smoking hot girl been instead
dating the woman I've been dating recently, she would have had no problem
with his behavior that the smoking hot girl saw as needy, clingy, and "too
much too soon."
But he wasn't dating her. He was dating a DIFFERENT woman.
And that's why he's doomed to fail with her.
And the sad thing is that he'll probably never understand why. Maybe he'll
get critical on himself, trying to analyze what's wrong with his personality
or who he is as a person that turned off this woman who he REALLY wanted to
be with.
And of course, not only would that be a complete waste of this time, but it
would only serve to make a serious blow to his self-confidence and make it
even HARDER for him to succeed with the next woman he finds.
What he doesn't realize is that it has less to do with HIM, and more to do
with HER.
It's was HER NEED FOR SPACE that made his behavior a turn off. The problem
is that you never know how much need for space a woman has.
My message to you is to always err on the side of giving TOO MUCH space,
rather than NOT ENOUGH.
So... NOT calling a woman you're interested in every day is a great idea.
It's an insurance measure.
Same goes for NOT having super long conversations on the phone, and NOT
buying her tons of flowers or gifts, and NOT telling her over and over again
how much you're into her.
With practice you'll begin to see if the woman you like has a high need for
space, a low need for space, or somewhere in the middle.
But if you're unsure, back off just a bit with your amount of communication.
Don't make the mistake of blindly "following what your heart tells you to
do" and communicating way too much.
And as I said before, don't make a bigger deal about your insecurities than
you need to.
We're all insecure in certain areas.
Realizing this is a huge step in just accepting yourself as you are, which
is a HUGE turn on for women. Plus, it just feels great.
Now... if you want to get the WHOLE SCOOP of what it takes to attract almost
any woman, anywhere, there's no better place I know of than my book aptly
titled, "Any Woman, Anywhere."
I think the title just about sums it up. The material I share in my
newsletters and these articles is just the TIP OF THE ICEBERG.
In the book, I'll lay out easy-to-follow steps for every stage of the game:
You'll learn what behaviors attract a woman magnetically, whether she
CONSCIOUSLY WANTS to be attracted to you or not.
You'll learn how to meet women face to face in any situation - coffee shops,
bookstores, the mall - and I have an entire section devoted to the real
secrets of meeting women online.
(Most guys make the same typical mistakes online and wind up frustrated and
alone. Learn these secrets and you'll avoid this failure yourself.)
You'll also learn the best places to take women on "dates" that naturally
lead to having a lot of fun, and make it easy for her to feel attraction for
you.
And, of course, I'm reveal my time-tested moves for taking things physical
in a natural, smooth way that avoids her rejection.
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