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Any Woman, Anywhere
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 Article Courtesy 'Any Woman Anywhere' by
Kevin B. [www.anywomananywhere.com]
Learn
the top reasons why guys don’t approach the women they want--and what
YOU can do to turn around your success with women. - Based on the
ebook "Any Woman, Anywhere..." by Kevin Bates
In this article we're going to focus on the next step, which is
ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL:
How to get over your own hesitation to start conversations with the
women you are attracted to.
Some of you are thinking, "My problem isn't that I don't START
conversations, it's just that they seem to go NOWHERE. They are friendly
conversations. There is no attraction, no sexual charge."
Fine. These EXACT same principles apply. We're about to get a wee bit
psychological here, so hold on to your seats....(it won't hurt, I
promise)
Men's hesitation to start conversations and "ask out" the pretty women
they see is actually fueled by 2 emotions:
1) fear
2) shame
Most guys are afraid of getting REJECTED or looking STUPID. Other guys
deep down inside feel ashamed to approach women, like there's something
MORALLY WRONG with doing it. Or they want to avoid all possibility of
making the woman UNCOMFORTABLE.
When a man is feeling this fear and shame, what his well intentioned
brain does is fill him with REASONS/EXCUSES why NOT to approach.
Why?
Because his brain wants him to stay COMFORTABLE. It wants to help him
AVOID doing the uncomfortable, scary, shameful thing of talking to and
"asking out" a hot chick.
In fact, the last time YOU saw a pretty woman and did not approach her
and suggest a date, I'd be willing to bet that YOUR brain gave you
excuses why you shouldn't do it.
And here's the kicker:
You LISTENED to these excuses. Learning to NOT listen to these excuses,
and instead take the action you fear or feel shameful about, will change
EVERYTHING for you.
I'm telling you, this is the lynch pin for 90% of guys out there.
You must learn to start to stretch yourself out of your comfort zone and
begin to try new behaviors.
And the key, especially at the beginning, is to recognize which are the
specific excuses that YOUR brain gives YOU, so you can quickly identify
them as B.S. and take action in spite of them.
I'll share with you a partial list of the most common excuses:
"She's too hot for me."
"I wouldn't know what to say."
"I don't want her to think I'm a slime ball or pervert."
So here's your HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT:
Continue counting all the pretty women around you, and continue checking
out the Target Rich Environments in your area.
But now, as you see each woman, I want you to consider going up to her and
starting a conversation and asking for her number.
Or if you've had your eye on one particular woman, next time you see her
consider "crossing the line" and suggesting to get together.
I mean, REALLY consider doing this. And as you do, I want you to notice 1
thing:
What SPECIFIC THOUGHTS are going through your head?
THESE ARE YOUR "UNIQUE" EXCUSES.
Take note of what they are for you. In fact, if you have an extra minute
email me what yours are at:
stories@anywomananywhere.com
These excuses hold a CRITICAL KEY to motivating yourself to approach any
woman, anywhere. I mean, imagine having the ability to approach any woman,
no matter how HOT she is, no matter WHERE she is...
...and being able to CONNECT with her and have a good chance of walking away
with a date.
How would that feel?
I'll tell you how that'll feel:
PRICELESS.
You will experience a feeling of confidence that is BETTER THAN ANY DRUG on
earth.
In fact, just a day ago I got yet another email describing this feeling:
"Kevin, DUDE!!! 2 days ago I approached this attractive woman, in a 'THRIFT
STORE'. I started to lose grip on my nerves, so I simply couldn't care any
more and I said to myself; "f*@k fear", and approached. "Hi, I was looking
for something over there and I couldn't help noticing you" I said, "You are
so pretty, your guy must be really lucky." I started to walk away, (thinking
she would regard me and my compliment as an annoying distraction, huge
mistake!!!) She started laughing and gave me a very appreciative "Thank
you." I told her to have a good evening and she said so too, (smiling that
nice 'school girl blushing' smile). My sister saw me do that, and there was
a huge 'I can't believe my brother just did that' look on her face, making
me feel like hercules, Yessssss!!!"
-P.
No matter what your current skill level, this is that priceless FEELING that
you will get at EVERY STEP of the way of improving your success with women,
whether it's with the initial approach, getting numbers, building
attraction, taking things physical, hooking up with the most
beautiful/amazing woman of your life, etc.
And I've developed a step by step, proven system that helps guys just like
you have this feeling and this success over and over and over again...
It includes MANY more strategies for overcoming fear and shame, and several
VERY POWERFUL AND UNIQUE strategies for stretching your comfort zone.
It also includes ACTUAL DIALOGS of approaches (word for word), phone
strategies, where to go on dates, specific "moves" that build attraction and
make it easier to get physical, etc.
Check it out here:
www.anywomananywhere.com
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