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Courtesy 'Any Woman Anywhere' [www.anywomananywhere.com]
If
you've ever wanted to be more than just a friend to a woman in your
life, you're going to find this week's article very interesting. -
Based on the
ebook "Any
Woman, Anywhere..."
Question From An Ebook Reader
Hi, First of all, I'd just like to say that I've bought a few e-books on the
subject of women, dating and creating attraction and yours is the first
I've read that's told me from the first that I shouldn't feel like some
sort of loser because I have difficulty in attracting or talking to
women. So thank you.
So to my problem. There's a woman in my life whom I'm close to and I
would like there to be more than friendship between us. She's a bit
younger than me and we've known each other for a few years on and off.
Just over a year ago I told her that I was attracted to her and she told
me that she had been attracted to me in the past but saw us as friends
now.
Over the next couple of months, I didn't hear from her at all although I
texted her and tried calling her a few times but gave up. Then a while
later she got back in touch, said she missed me and could we meet to
talk. So we met and re-established the friendship.
In the meantime, she'd started seeing a guy who treated her badly and
eventually she dumped him. We still see each other regularly and
sometimes the conversations get intense. She frequently touches me on
the leg or arm during conversations and there's always a lot of eye
contact.
She knows I'm still attracted to her but maintains that she doesn't want
to go out with anyone just now. Spending time with her is great and
intoxicating but I always feel a bit depressed for a while after she's
gone.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. J., Scotland
===My Thoughts:
The reason I included this email is because it's one of several "themes"
guys write in about over and over and over again.
The theme is: "HOW TO BE SEEN AS MORE THAN JUST A FRIEND."
If you are like most guys, you probably have been seen as only a friend
by at least 1 woman who you would have like to have seen you as much,
much more than just a friend.
Me too, buddy, too many times to count.
When you first meet a woman, especially an attractive one, odds are you
put on a "good face." You act polite and friendly. You listen to what
they're saying.
You want to know why?
Because you mistakenly believe that this is the way to "get them" to
like you, to be attracted to you. So you don't do anything that might
"rock the boat." You're on your best behavior. And you get what you
want. They like you.
Sure they like you, but your behavior riggers in them the reaction,
"He's a nice guy," rather than "He's a guy I'm attracted to."
You see, the problem is, they only like you as a FRIEND.
I know most men have been taught that if we act like a "gentleman," and
treat women with "respect," that will make them like us.
But in reality, nothing could be farther from the truth. Because if you
act like a friend, you'll be seen as a friend.
If you act like a potential date, you force the woman you're with to
make a decision: Does she see you as a potential date, or not?
I NEVER,
NEVER, NEVER interact with a woman who I'm attracted to without letting
her know, directly or indirectly, that I see her as a woman, not just as
some friend.
Often, even the VERY FIRST WORDS I tell a woman I've just met suggest I
notice her as a woman, rather than as just some friend. And because of
this, it has been YEARS since I've found myself in a situation where I
was "just friends" with a woman I was attracted to.
It simply doesn't happen anymore.
You must decide for yourself if you're looking for female friends, or if
you're looking for something more. And if you're looking for something
more, STOP PRETENDING THAT YOU'RE NOT.
And be smart enough to know that the odds of a female friend becoming
more than a friend if she's not initially interested in you is about 1
in a 100.
One mistake that all the guys who write in asking for advice on how to
make a woman more than just a friend make is they don't establish
themselves as a SEXUALLY AWARE MAN from the very BEGINNING.
Making this mistake does 2 things: 1)Once a woman see you as a "nice friend," it's very hard to ever be
seen as something more. 2)The longer you wait to Cross The Line and let a woman know you're
interested, the harder it is to do it.
So most guys drive themselves crazy trying to get up their courage to
finally let a "female friend" know they're interested, and then when
they finally do they find out that in her mind they have already been
locked and sealed into the coffin of friendship.
Interestingly, the things you need to do to build attraction are often
the OPPOSITE of the things to do if you just want to be friends.
And guess what?
They are also much more FUN than trying to listen to what women are
saying, being nice and polite and appropriate, etc. By the way, most of
this "nice" behavior only serves to create in women the feeling of
BOREDOM.
Boredom is the opposite of attraction. Write that down on a piece of
paper. Hell, get it tattooed. It's that important.
And if you're honest with yourself, I bet you'd admit that this behavior
bores YOU as well.
So how do you stop boring not only the women you date, but yourself as
well?
How do you start mastering the art of attraction?
How do you get out of the "Nice Guy Trap?"
Well, you're going to need to get a new type of education. And I haven't
found a better education on this subject that the one you can get in my
ebook, "Any Woman, Anywhere."
Not only will you learn how to stop having female friends, but you'll
also learn how to meet new women and get numbers in less than 1 minute,
what to do on dates to build attraction, how to avoid the most common
mistakes guys make when interacting with women, easy ways to take things
physical, and much, much more.
Oh, and by the way, if you want the FULL SCOOP of how to truly master
not only the online pick-up game, but the entire "Success With Women"
game, then you should check out my ebook "Any Woman, Anywhere."
In it you'll also find specifically what to say to the women you meet
online when you talk with them either on the phone or face to face, so
you come across as a mature guy who has his act together rather than a
nervous wuss or a creep or a guy who's simply trying too hard.
You'll also learn how to motivate yourself to approach, what to do on
dates to build attraction and have fun, how and when to move things to a
physical level, and much more ...
Bust down those walls today by taking some sort of new action. Here's where
you should check out my eBook:
www.anywomananywhere.com
In the mean time, get out there,
apply these ideas, and I'll speak to you again in a couple of days.
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