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 Article Courtesy 'Any Woman Anywhere' [www.anywomananywhere.com]
If
you've ever wanted to be more than just a friend to a woman in your
life, you're going to find this very interesting. - Based on the
ebook "Any
Woman, Anywhere..."
Remember, if things are interesting, rather than boring and
predictable, you're halfway toward building attraction.
Hi,
I purchased your e-book about 3 months ago. It has changed my
perspective on the whole dating scene.
I recently met this girl through a mutual friend. She and I along with
some other friends went out one Sat. night. We went to a local club/bar.
On a scale of 1-10 she's a 7 or 8 (just for a visual mix Cameron Diaz
with Kirsten Dunst). She was approached by many guys all night, that
didn't think that I was with her. I just busted her on a few things,
gave her a compliment and busted some more. She tried to play mad when I
would bust her but I paid no attention. We later went to eat at a local
joint at 3 am. We sat together and talked some more. All along I was
combining my gentleman behavior with this new attitude (opening doors
and gave her my coat b/c it was freezing, but busted her for not having
her coat).
We all parted. She went and dropped some people off and I dropped a
friend off. The way I went home was on her way. I got behind her. She
sent a text to me to confirm this. Then she sent the biggest surprise of
the night. She asked "how crazy is it that I wanted to kiss you?" WHAT?!
I had no clue. I thought her interest level was below a 5.
Well "long story short" a few minutes later we were pulled over and
talking again. I asked if she wanted to try it (kissing), she ignored
and became nervous. A few moments later I said "you know what" and
kissed her. Then it was on. We just made out for 45 or so mins. I know
this b/c btwn kissing we kept watching the time slip by and start back
kissing. 6am we part ways.
Now if I have one question it is how do I keep it going when she lives
2.5 hrs away? I think this is better b/c it'll give her a chance to miss
me as long as I don't call everyday. What do you suggest I should do to
see her? When? Where? Your advice is much appreciated. She's an avid "texter"
too. Well thanks again for everything.
You're a big help.
-JM, S.C
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Reply: My Always Thought Provoking Commentary
Alrighty then...
There's a couple things you did really, really well...
Oh, by the way, one way to confirm you're doing something right is when
a woman tells you she wants to kiss you...
...and then you make out for like 45 minutes.
Yeah, that's usually a sign you're doing okay.
One thing you did right was mix the busting/teasing with more gentlemen
behavior, like complimenting, opening doors, offering you her jacket,
and then right back to the busting/teasing.
Nice.
When you can switch back and forth like this, you keep women on their
toes, which keeps things interesting for both of you.
Remember, if things are interesting, rather than boring and predictable,
you're halfway toward building attraction.
Also, if you ONLY bust, without establishing yourself as a SAM (Sexually
Aware Man) you risk being seen more as a great friend who is fun to be
with, rather than as a man she's interested in romantically/physically.
Get it?
So mixing up the ball busting with more sexual communication like
complimenting is great. And it sounds like you found the perfect
balance.
In fact,
if there were just two "ways of being" that every guy should remember on
his dates, they would be:
1) Be funny (teasing, ball busting)
2) Be sexual (comment on physical attractiveness,
sexual innuendos, etc.)
Mix 1) with 2), and you've got a recipe fo' some damn good cookin'!
Alright, but seriously...
Wasn't there a question in there somewhere?
Oh yeah, the whole long distance thing.
Tip 1: Yep, not calling her too much is a good thing.
Calling Too Much = Clingy Behavior = Buzz Kill.
Tip 2: Approach other women.
Even though you dig this girl, it's way early to stop having other
options. So approach other women, get their numbers, etc.
If what you're looking for is a girlfriend, keep approaching other women
until you and her
1) have talked about being "exclusive" and,
2) are having sex.
Having sex without talking about being exclusive means she's probably
seeing other guys, which means you should DEFINITELY be seeing other
women.
And being exclusive without having sex...well, that just doesn't seem
like any fun at all.
Plus, at that point there's a 90% chance that she's using the lack of
sex she's "giving" you as a way to control the relationship.
In other words, she's trying to "pussy-whip" you without, uh, even
giving you the well...you know what I mean. Don't allow THAT to happen.
I encourage you to have ZERO TOLERATION for games.
The instant you think a woman is playing games, manipulating you, or not
being upfront and honest, call her on it. And be willing to walk away.
Seriously, you DESERVE more than to have a woman play with you like
that.
Tip 3: See Her On The Weekends
She lives two and a half hours away, so just have fun weekends with her.
Visit her one weekend, have her come down and visit you the next.
Sounds like a perfect set up. You get your space, AND you get to have
fun on the weekends with a cool chick.
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Now, if you're reading this and you're thinking,
"Man, I'd like to have a success story like J.M."
or
"Man, this whole 'mixing teasing with being sexual' thing is something I
need to work on", then right now, I mean this very moment, you need to
go get yourself a copy of my ebook "Any Woman, Anywhere."
If you like these articles, you'll be BLOWN AWAY by how much more detail
there is in the book, like exactly:
-how to get over your fears of approaching
-what to do when a woman responds "I have a boyfriend"
-how to get a date once you have a number
-how to have your dates go so well that afterwards women are calling YOU
for a second date (this actually just happened to me TWICE in the last
24 hours)
-the best places to go on dates to make building attraction and even
getting physical a natural, NO-BRAINER
-and much, much more
Best of all, you can download the book for free right now for two full
weeks. Read the book, apply the principles, and if you aren't blown
away, email me and I'll cancel your order. No hassles.
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