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Any Woman, Anywhere

Article Courtesy 'Any Woman Anywhere' [www.anywomananywhere.com]

If you've ever wanted to be able to just walk up and start talking to a woman you're going to find this week's article very interesting. - Based on the ebook "Any Woman, Anywhere..."

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Have you ever got your nerve up to talk to a woman you liked...
you started the conversation...
she was smiling at what you were saying...
everything was going GREAT...
...but then suddenly your mind when BLANK and you ran out of things to say?

And you got that sick, sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach....
nervousness swept over you...
and you instantly became ACUTELY self-conscious...

Your mind raced for something to say... ANYTHING...
but you came up with NOTHING.

The uncomfortable silence continued... but there was nothing you could do. And you knew you were blowing it - BIG TIME.

An UNCOMFORTABLE smile spread across her face - to cover up her disappointment, as she watched you turn from "Hero" to "Zero" before her very eyes. You could SEE that she was quickly losing interest in talking to you. You could FEEL the last drops of your confidence evaporating...

As she walked away, you knew you would never see her again...

You fell victim to what my high school debate teacher called, "The Pause Of Death."

And you wondered, "Why is it with my friends I'm never at a loss for words, but when it comes to talking to a woman I like - when it really COUNTS - I always bumble... stumble... then crash and burn?"

This used to happen to me... A LOT.

I'm going to tell you about the secrets I figured out that help me ALWAYS have fun and interesting things to talk about with women - but before I do you need to know a "fundamental" that will help you get 10 times more out of those secrets.

You need to get crystal clear on what your goal is before you start a conversation with any woman.

I suggest that your goal should be to create 2 specific FEELINGS in a woman when you first meet her.

If you know what these feelings are, you'll understand the underlying dynamics at work when you're talking to a woman - and how to hit her "hot buttons."

These 2 feelings are:
1) Trust
2) Attraction

WHY TRUST IS CRITICAL

Have you ever met someone - maybe a business acquaintance, or a friend of a friend - and although on the surface he seemed "cool" or "nice," there was just something about him that you didn't TRUST?

You got a certain feeling from him - a "vibe" - that just wasn't right?

When a woman doesn't trust you, she has this same "suspicious" emotional reaction about YOU - and that's not what you want. I looked up "trust" in the dictionary here on my desk, and it defines trust as "reliance on the integrity of a person or thing."

So when you first meet a woman, some of the questions she's asking herself is "Can I rely on this guy? Does he have integrity?"
"Or is he a creep? A liar?"
"Can I TRUST him?"

If she trusts you, she feels warm, relaxed, and open to your advances. If she doesn't, she feels closed off... and she gets that pit in her stomach that tells her you're up to no-good.

The only way a woman will give you her number or email is if she gets the sense that you're a trustworthy guy... someone she can let her guard down with.

This is one reason why most "lines" DON'T work.

If you use a line that you believe is manipulative or misleading, a woman will pick up on your own "incongruency" - and her TRUST ALARM will get triggered, signaling her to ditch you immediately.

GAME OVER.

This is why I recommend using an Opener that is congruent with who are you - something you feel comfortable with, and that you don't believe is dishonest.

The more authentic you can be, the more she'll get the sense that she can trust you.

THE NEXT STEP:
So... let's say you've opened with something authentic - now... what do you say to continue to build trust AND avoid the awkward silence, the dreaded "Pause Of Death," in your conversation?

The fact is - the more you SPEAK like a normal guy, and ACT like a normal guy, the more she'll trust you. You can do this by introducing yourself, and asking "plain jane" small talk questions like "You come here often?" and "Where you from?"

In fact, right now write down 2-3 "default questions" you can ask almost any woman, in almost any circumstance, to keep the conversation going and build her trust in you.

Go ahead and do that right now. I'll wait.

Great...

Now, although Trust is necessary to get a woman to give you her number or email, there is a HUGE and lethal DANGER to focusing on this. It doesn't make sense on the surface, but it's true... and you need to know what it is.

THE "TRUST TRAP"

Let me ask you a question:
Have you ever had a conversation with a woman that went nowhere? The two of you talked and talked and talked, but you never got a sign that she was feeling any ATTRACTION for you... and you never got around to asking for her number or email?

The conversation was GREAT - if really "flowed" - but nothing ever became of it?

Of course you have.

Most men have conversations like this, most of the time, UNTIL they figure out how to REALLY talk to women. Next to not starting a conversation at all, this is the #1 MISTAKE GUYS MAKE WHEN INTERACTING WITH WOMEN.

When you first meet a woman, you probably spend most of your energy building trust by doing tons and tons of small talk.

Why?
Why is it so TEMPTING to keep your communication on this "Trust" level?

The answer is:
Because on this level, you do not risk REJECTION. Since you're not trying to move things forward - beyond just a "friendly" conversation - there's really nothing for her to object to.

You're in the safety of the "friend zone". But without risk, there's no reward, either. Don't get me wrong, this is a GREAT strategy - if you want to be "JUST FRIENDS." Because when most guys do small talk, they do it in a way that builds tons of TRUST - but not an ounce of ATTRACTION.

Remember when I said before that you have 2 objectives when interacting with a woman you just met... 2 feelings you want her to feel?

The first is TRUST.
The second is ATTRACTION.

Most guys focus so much on Trust that there's no time or energy left to build Attraction. Here's a formula for you to remember:
ALL TRUST + ZERO ATTRACTION = "JUST A FRIEND"

So how do you build Attraction - not just Trust - when you first meet a woman?

There are MANY strategies to do this, but I'll give you just one right here.

NOTICE HER AS A WOMAN:
You need to show that you notice her as a woman - not just as a "friend."

Again, there are many ways to do this, but one of my personal favorites is to comment tastefully on an aspect of her looks (her eyes, her smile, her "energy," or her beauty in general).

Don't go overboard by going on and on about how gorgeous she is. Just one comment is all it takes... then don't let her walk away without attempting an email or number close (Step 3 of my 3 Step Approach).

This is one reason why OPENING with a comment on her looks can be so powerful. Done the right way, it shows you have "huevos grandes"... you are a very confident guy who is comfortable with his sexuality and doesn't have a problem going after what he wants.

Opening with a comment like can spark Attraction in her INSTANTLY. Half your work is already over. Just follow it up with some simple small talk to establish Trust, and then go for the email or number close.

As I said, there are many other ways to spark Attraction during the small talk phase - including ball busting, innuendos, kino, and more - and if you want the full story, you should check out my ebook "Any Woman, Anywhere..."

You'll learn how to walk up to women in every day situation, walk away 2 minutes later with a number and an email... even if you normally get shy around women. You'll get access to word-for-word dialogs of actual pick ups with analysis of what worked, what didn't and WHY.

You'll learn a step-by-step plan to help you relax and be "cool" when you speak to a woman you just met - no matter how HOT she is.

You'll see the behaviors you're probably guilty of that women interpret as "needy" - and how to replace them with more powerful behaviors instead, INSTANTLY.

You'll learn how to structure dates so moving things to a "physical level" is a natural, accepted progression of events - even if she usually doesn't get intimate like this so quickly with other guys. And much, much more.

Listen to what this guy had to say about his results:
"Your work has brought much more confidence in my dating life ... I went from being a wallflower to approaching a dozen or so women in a given night. Your perspectives on the whole dating process have been very empowering, greatly increasing what seems possible for me, and this has really improved my dating life! Thanks again, and I'll be looking forward to your future offerings!" -JR, Boston

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