Approaching Women Successfully: Why Pick-Up Lines WON'T Work For YOU

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Any Woman, Anywhere

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Learn the top reasons why guys don’t approach the women they want--and what YOU can do to turn around your success with women. - Based on the ebook "Any Woman, Anywhere..."

OK, today I'm absolutely, positively NOT going to tell you the perfect thing to say to a woman when you first approach her.

You heard me right.

I'm NOT going to tell you exactly what you need to say to a woman to have her smiling and giving you her number within just minutes of meeting her. But if you're like most guys, this is PRECISELY what you want to learn most.

I can't tell you how many emails I receive each week that go something like this:
“What's the best thing to say to a woman I want to meet?”
“Can you give me the best examples of opening lines?”
“How do I start a conversation with a woman without looking like a loser?”

I get these emails ALL THE TIME. And like I said, I'm NOT going to give you the answer.

Why?

Because sometimes in life, you have to learn how to WALK before you can RUN. And if you TRY to run before you can walk, you know what happens? You guessed it. You fall flat on your face.

So how will this help you have more success with women?

Before you learn what to say to women, you must FIRST get several fundamentals in place. Without taking care of these fundamentals FIRST, even having the PERFECT words to say to women won't help you.

Because there are no “perfect” words. In a moment I'll tell you why there aren't.

But first, let me ask you a question:
What's one of the VERY BEST places to meet women?
A place that has one of the best “ratios” this side of the Playboy Mansion?
If you guessed the shopping mall, good for you.

Why do women LOVE to go to shopping malls?

Because women LOVE shopping for CLOTHES. They LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it!

Clothes are like the essence of life for women. And they spend ridiculous amounts of time and money picking out just the right outfits to show off their, well, assets.

But how much time do GUYS spend on picking out their clothes?
Usually our only concerns are: Is it clean? Does it smell?
If it's clean and doesn't smell, we think we look great.

Well, fellas, it's time to wake up.

If the best thing you can say about your clothes is that they're clean and don't smell, you have ALMOST NO CHANCE AT ALL of scoring with the ladies.

And it doesn't matter if you know THE BEST PICK-UP LINE IN THE WORLD.

Why?

Because “Actions Speak Louder Than Words.”

So even if your words communicate that you're an attractive, interesting, masculine man, if what your clothing communicates is that you have absolutely no clue about women, then:
GAME OVER.

Last night I was walking by the beach with a date on our way to grab some food. I saw a typical guy. Not bad looking, not good looking. But I knew that no matter what “pick-up lines” or other fancy approaches he might use with women, NOTHING would work for him.

How did I know this? It was clear to me he knew nothing about FASHION.

And believe me, if a guy like ME could tell he was an idiot in the fashion department, you'd better believe that a woman would realize it ten times faster.

So one fundamental you must get in place, BEFORE conversation-starting techniques will be useful to you, is CLOTHING.

Don't worry: you don't need to become a fashion expert. You just need to have some basics mastered. Rather then going into the details here, let me just share with you a very interesting email:
“Hey bro ... I had to tell you about how one of your tips helped me a lot. In your book you said something to the effect of 'You need to dress nicer, at least make sure your shoes and belt match' (or something). Anyways, I thought about that, and (being a jeans and t-shirt kinda guy) I realized that I had never even considered the way I dress to have anything to do with my confidence, or the way girls perceive me. I just always felt that if I'm comfortable ... so be it. Well, I spent a week out in NYC visiting a friend a little while ago, and we went out to some of the trendy shops in Manhattan ... he knows a lot more about style than I do, so with his help, I got a whole bunch of new clothes and DUDE. It has seriously done more for my confidence than any other thing I've tried. I feel like I'm looking sharp, so it's that much easier to go up to girls with confidence. I had a date last night, I have another date tonight with a different girl, and yet ANOTHER date on Thursday night (with a 3rd different girl). Plus, I have about two other girls that I'm working towards asking out. WTF?? How'd that happen?? It's crazy!! Thanks again for a winning tip. -C.”

Clothing WORKS with women.

If you don't get this handled, in about .01 seconds most women will not give you a second chance. And it doesn't matter what magical words you say.

This is just ONE reason why so much of the advice you'll read on the internet about the best pick-up lines or the best approaches simply WON'T WORK FOR YOU.

Because before you can learn the words, you must get the fundamentals handled. And clothing is just ONE of these fundamentals. (The other fundamentals you can find in my book).

And if you're reading this right now, thinking that if you only knew the right thing to SAY to a woman, your situation would really improve, then you CLEARLY need to invest in your dating education.

You need a well thought out, step-by-step plan that will enable even an average guy to achieve success with women, maybe even beyond what he's hoping for. And one that destroys the myths most guys buy into.

Because as you might already know, it's very easy to spend a lot of money on products that promise you the world with women, but when you get them you realize you fell for a fancy website with no quality product to back it up.

You must put key fundamentals in place before you can change your situation. And I know clothing may not be the most interesting subject to focus on, but I do it because it's ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY for your success.

It's one thing that works. And that's why I share it with my clients.

By now you know that I've written an entire book on what works with women. Beyond what you must take care of BEFORE you open your mouth, my book includes how to walk away with numbers and dates in about a minute, how to stop being seen as just a friend, how to make women laugh, how to get physical in a natural way, and a lot more.

All the details are below. You may even find a few free samples from the book: www.anywomananywhere.com

In the mean time, get out there, apply these ideas, and I'll speak to you again in a couple of days.