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by author of 'Any Woman Anywhere' [www.anywomananywhere.com]
Have you ever wanted to
meet a woman you saw somewhere, but by the time you figured out what to
say... she was gone? If you want to learn how to approach any woman,
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Have you ever had a
woman seem like she was interested in you, then all of a sudden her feelings
turned cold...VERY cold, and you had no idea why?
I'm about to introduce you to a concept that most guys never think about
when it comes to building attraction...and yet it is one of the BIGGEST
reasons women lose interest in men.
The Importance Of Status
Humans are continuously sizing each other up, deciding whether or not the
people we are interacting with are at our level, below our level, or above
our level.
When I say “level” what I mean is level of SOCIAL STATUS. In other words,
where we fall in the social hierarchy.
We size each other up based on a variety of characteristics that may include
profession, intelligence, physical attractiveness, wealth, communication
style, etc.
For example, if we’re looking at professions, “doctor” would probably have a
higher social status than “garbage collector.” (I’m not saying there’s
anything wrong with being a garbage collector. The fact is that most people
BELIEVE being a doctor has higher status than being a garbage collector.
It’s all about perception.)
In terms of attraction, we tend to be attracted to others who are at or
above our level. We tend not to be attracted to those we view as being below
our level of social status.
When we communicate lower social status to a woman, we are basically telling
her, “I'm a loser," or more accurately, "I'm more of a loser than you are."
We are telling her we are BELOW her.
This obviously kills attraction.
So how do we influence what women perceive our social status to be?
It's not so much that we need to ADD behavior that communicates high social
status. It's more that we need to STOP behavior that communicates low social
status.
Some other authors recommend doing tons of visualization exercises to work
on improving your self-image, and “acting as if” you believe you have high
social status.
I don’t recommend using these strategies. To the extent they work at all,
they risk making you come across as fake; like you’re trying too hard.
Most women don’t dig this.
Although insecure, abused, or inexperienced women will might respond to you
walking around with your chest puffed out, “acting as if” you’re a rock star
or something, QUALITY women will see right through it.
Instead of being fakely confident, focus instead on being a cool, secure
man.
You don’t have to be a pompous prick to be secure, confident, and masculine.
Quality women aren’t attracted to pompous pricks anyway.
High Status Beliefs
But while we're on the subject, there IS something very interesting to learn
from pompous pricks, a.k.a. jerks:
Not communicating lower status is actually something jerks do very well.
They never act as if they are undeserving of a woman, that a woman is
“better than them” or “out of their league.”
Why not?
Because this is what jerks sincerely BELIEVE.
When a jerk believes a woman is NOT above him, is IN his league rather than
out of it, this tends to make the woman he’s around believe it too.
And…
When a nice guy believes a woman IS above him, is OUT of his league, is too
good for him, guess what?
This tends to make the woman believe it too. Even if initially she wouldn’t
have thought this.
So the first area to focus on is your beliefs. Stop believing that the women
you interact with are above you.
Easier said than done, I know.
But let's look at the evidence:
If you have a fair amount of dating experience, you know that MOST of the
women you date you will disqualify, even if they're a raging hottie (in
other words, even if they are a very attractive female).
Maybe they have psychological issues.
Maybe they nag.
Maybe they're boring as hell.
Maybe the sex isn't that great.
Maybe they'll cheat on you.
Maybe they're religious, and you're not. Or vice versa.
Maybe they have raging bad breath. Or bad odor somewhere else.
Whatever it is, you simply cannot tell if you're going to be really into a
woman when you first meet her. It takes time for you to really get to know
her to decide if you want to hang out with her...EVEN if what you're looking
for is something casual or physical.
In other words, many women you will decide you do not like, even if the
package they come in is quite attractive.
Consider this the next time you find yourself believing that the woman
you're interested in is above you. It'll help.
High Status Behavior; The "Breaking Plans For Her" Mistake
The other half of the equation is to start looking for things you do that
communicate lower status, and stop them.
Consider this simple example:
Perhaps you recently met a woman named Diana.
Two days after getting her number, you call her suggesting to go out on
Friday.
Unfortunately Diana already has plans on Friday, so she asks you if you
could do Saturday instead. But you already have plans with your friends on
Saturday.
You ask yourself, “What’s more important, seeing my friends on Saturday or
seeing Diana?”
The answer your horny brain gives you is: “Diana, for sure!”
So you tell Diana that you have plans on Saturday, but you’ll see if you can
get out of them. You think you're being "nice" or "considerate" by doing
this.
Diana’s attraction to you has just taken a major hit, even though she can’t
explain why.
Do not break other plans to see a woman. If you already have other plans,
giving them priority over her will actually HELP YOU land her in the end.
Let me explain:
If you break other plans to see a woman during the first several dates, you
risk appearing needy.
After all, only a needy guy would break his plans to see a woman he barely
knows, right?
Maybe it’s because you never have dates. Or maybe it's because you're a
loser and this woman is way out of your league.
This is what women will be asking themselves, either consciously or
unconsciously.
Either way, you’ve just put her attraction to you in serious jeopardy. So
don’t break your plans for a woman.
And consider the alternative:
If you DON'T break your plans, women will probably be thinking, “Well, this
guy obviously has more going in his schedule than just me. He must have a
complete life. What a break from all the needy losers I’ve been dating
lately!”
Not breaking your plans for a woman helps a woman see that you have
backbone. She'll respect you for it. Respect and attraction are CLOSELY
related.
Not breaking your plans helps a woman see you as a bit of a CHALLENGE.
You're not a wimpy pushover that most of the other guys she's dated have
turned out to be.
And not breaking your plans is simply the right thing to do from a human
perspective. If you're willing to turn your world upside down for some woman
you've just met, then you may have some work to do on the current quality of
your life OUTSIDE of the world of women. Women are attracted to men with
balanced lives, after all.
And I know that if you haven’t had a date or been with a woman in a while,
or if the woman is really, really cute, you’re going to feel a strong
temptation to break your plans for her, even if you do have a balanced life.
I know your feelings are going to be telling you to flake out on your
friends and go on your date.
But don’t do it! You’ll be shooting yourself in the foot if you do, and
you'll make it LESS likely your interaction with her will be a success.
She can wait a day or two to see you. Trust me.
A Trap...
Oh, and one more thing:
Don't make a big deal out of not breaking your plans for her. If you're
using this as some "strategy" to win points, and you make a big deal out of
it to help a woman see what you're doing, all you're doing is showing her
how big of a loser you are.
Don't make this mistake.
Don't break your plans, and don't make a big deal about not breaking your
plans. Be cool.
Let her figure out for herself that you won't break your other plans for
her. If you have to spell it out to her, it will lose all impact...AND
you'll be seen as a loser.
As much as possible, do it for yourself.
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Copyright 2008 Robert
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