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If
you've ever wanted to be able to just walk up and start talking to a
woman you're going to find this week's article very interesting. -
Based on the
ebook "Any
Woman, Anywhere..."
Guys need to have the ability to look at things as they are, not as
they wish them to be.
*** Advice Article Feature For Guys ***
Whenever
I'm helping guys to meet women, I always ask myself, "If I was in the
position of guys trying to learn how to approach and date quality women,
what would help me the most in really learning these skills?"
If I was in your position, I would want to have ACTUAL DIALOGS of these
sorts of conversations.
Not theory - but actual, word for word dialogs.
And not conversations other authors may make up in their imagination,
but dialogs of REAL pick-ups.
That's exactly what this article contains.
The one lesson I hope you learn from reading these dialogs is that
approaching women and getting number can be REAL simple.
WARNING: Getting women's numbers requires MORE than just using some
specific words. If you don't have your "inner game" up to par, the words
you say won't make a difference because women will see right through
them.
They'll see you don't have your game together yet, and you'll get shut
down... even with the cleverest pick up lines.
That being said, if you're the kind of guy who can keep his composure,
knows something about fashion and grooming, and knows the fundamentals
of attraction, then having a conversational "template" to follow can
help reduce your anxiety of starting conversations with women and give
your mind a set of directions to focus on.
Here's the first example:
A friend of mine was at an apartment complex when he saw a woman taking
her trash out to the dumpster. She was pretty, had a great body and dark
hair.
This was about 11am on a Saturday morning.
As she was walking back from the dumpster, my friend started walking
toward her and said:
Him: "Excuse me, can I ask you a question?"
Her: "Sure."
Him: (Smiling) "Well, it's not EXACTLY a question... You are absolutely
gorgeous."
Her: (Clearly pleased) Thank you.
Him: My name's Fred.
Her: My name's Sara (name changed to protect the innocent).
Him: Nice to meet you Sara. What are you up to on this Saturday?
Her: Oh, I'm going to be leaving pretty soon for a baby shower.
Him: Mmm, I haven't seen you here before. How long have you lived here?
Her: I just moved here a couple of months ago. What are you doing?
Him: Oh, I'm helping a friend move.
Him: Well listen, before I go I'd like to get your number.
Her: Okay, I'll go to my car and get my business card. (She goes to get
her business card, returns)
Him: Great. Have fun at the baby shower.
Her: Thanks. Bye.
Now, what is so difficult about that?
If you
notice, my friend did all three steps of a basic approach:
Step 1: Open (in this case with a compliment).
Step 2: Small Talk (all that normal talk about what she's up to, how
long she's lived here)
Step 3: Close.
This was on a Saturday. He called her on Monday evening, and since he
had dates set up Tuesday and Wednesday he suggested they meet on
Thursday.
During the phone call he had a normal conversation, with a little
teasing thrown in for "good measure."
At the end of the phone conversation he asked if she was competitive,
she said yes, and he said "Good, I have a competitive little surprise
for you on Thursday evening. Dinner not included, but drinks and fun
are."
She agreed.
He picked her up at 8pm at her place. She continued to ask him where
they were going, to which he repeatedly replied that it was a surprise.
(Most women like surprises: it builds anticipation. It's interesting -
NOT boring.)
He continued to tease tease tease her in the car on the way to this
really cool bowling alley he knew of. They got to the bowling alley, and
there's an hour wait for a lane (this happened to be a REALLY cool
bowling alley: lots of hot college women work and go there. It's very
upscale. If you live in a big city, try to find a place like this).
So they sit down and have a couple of drinks. When she says anything he
can bust her on, he asks for her hand, then takes one of his chicken
skewers and stabs her with it. He does this again and again.
She's smiling, having a great time. He teases her about being catholic,
and about how he LOVES catholic girls (the innuendo here is that
catholic girls are easy or naughty or something).
Finally their lane is available. He knows she's having a great time with
him because she's been smiling a lot, so pretty soon he begins the
Bowling Move that I talk about in my book. You can use this move if
you're playing ANY sort of game with a woman.
Basically he said:
"You know, it's kind of funny that we're at lane 12 tonight, because -
many people don't know this, and I didn't make this up - but there is a
rule at this alley with lane 12 that if there's a guy and a girl
playing, if either player makes a strike or a spare the other person has
to kiss the other player wherever he/she wants."
To this she laughs. Within 5 minutes she bowls a strike. So he says:
"Oh, no, does this mean I have to kiss you? What a bummer." (One of the
easiest forms of humor I know is to say the extreme opposite of what you
really feel. It's simple.)
So she says she's always been a sucker for neck kisses, so he starts
kissing her neck. Within minutes he bowl a spare, and she kisses his
neck. Pretty soon they're making out at the bowling alley.
Simple, simple, simple.
Things have continued with them since that date, but I just wanted to
walk you guys through how simple this process can be.
Will every woman you approach work out this well?
No, of course not. Yes, dating is in part a numbers game.
But when you're using the right mindset, and powerful techniques - and
you're taking enough action - the numbers begin to work in YOUR favor.
ANOTHER EXAMPLE:
Some of the women you want to approach are already in a relationship.
This, contrary to what you might believe, is NOT a problem.
(And no, I'm not suggesting "moving in" on another guy's territory.)
In fact, talking with these women can be totally comfortable - and you
can do it in a very classy way.
Here's how these sorts of conversations can go:
You: You are absolutely...gorgeous.
Her: Thanks.
You: My name is Bill. What's yours?
Her: Sara.
You: What are you up to Sara?
Her: I'm just on my way to lunch.
You: Yeah, me too. I'm going over to Kanpai to get some sushi.
Her: Oh, I love that place.
You: It's great, isn't it? Listen, I gotta go too, but before I go, if
you're comfortable with it,
let's exchange numbers.
Her: Actually I'm married.
You: Oh, wow. Well, he's a very lucky guy. I hope he knows that.
Her: I hope he knows it too!
You: Great. Well, hey, nice meeting you...
This takes about 1 minute. Simple, yes?
I hope you see that approaching women who are taken is no big deal. Just
be what I call an "Assertive Gentlemen" and you can get in the
conversation, attempt to close, and get out while still keeping your
dignity and your self esteem in tact.
It's easy.
I'll include just one more simple dialog.
A couple of days ago at a restaurant another friend of mine saw a really
cute waitress.
As he's eating his food, she walks by and he says:
Him: Excuse me, do you speak English?
Her: No.
Him (in Spanish): Are you from Mexico?
Her: Yes.
Him: What part?
Her: Vera Cruz
Him: Oh, I just went to Mexico to go surfing (which was true). Where is
Vera Cruz?
Her: Close to (wherever)...
Him: Oh. Listen, you are very pretty.
Her: Thanks (smiling)
Him: Do you have a boyfriend?
Her: No.
Him: Great, can I get your number?
Her: Sure. One moment.
She comes back in a couple of minutes with her number written on a
napkin.
Done.
What boggles my mind is I bet there are 10 guys who come into that same
restaurant every week, who think she's really cute, but can't get up
their nerve to ask her out like my friend did...
Maybe you're one of them!
Meanwhile, guys like my buddy will ask girls like that out on their very
first visit to the place.
I hope these dialogs help you to see how simple and easy getting numbers
and getting dates can be. These conversations were NOT complex. No
hypnotism necessary. No manipulation. No lies.
Of course, successfully executing conversations like this takes a lot
more than just memorizing lines...
90% of the work is done "behind the scenes", within your own mind, and
through the habits you cultivate on a daily basis.
If you're reading this and you're thinking that you're finally ready to
REALLY make a big improvement in your life with women, you need to check
out my eBook 'Any Woman, Anywhere', I suggest you go get it right now.
You can download it and be reading in it in just a few moments:
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