Let's
get past the anxiety of approaching women with these east steps
In this article, we are not going to discuss how to get past the anxiety to approach women.
It contains 5 “easy-to-apply” steps on how to stop the habit of procrastination in the area of approaching women.
I got through many trials and errors before getting to this simple system. Thus, pay attention and more importantly: take action on what you read.
Yes, this is right: taking action is part of it. Test it for yourself, see what works and discard the rest. Get rid right now of anything that may distract you from getting the most out of this article.
Why is important to put to action these next 5 steps? They will help you get rid forever of your procrastination regarding approaching women.
If you master this part and you also master your fear to approach women then you are ready for lots of dates in the near future.
Get Cristal Clear & Make a Definitive Commitment
This and the last are the most important steps. Here, you get clarity on what you really want in life.
Take a sheet of paper and answer to the following
question: “What's your
deepest desire in life regarding women?” Give as many answers as you
can.
You will find that the more you write the more you get to the core of the real desire.
Based on this desire, write a short paragraph describing in as simple terms as possible your ideal scenario in this area. How an average day will be when you are living your ideal scenario? Describe it at the present tense and feel the meaning of every word that you are writing.
Pick a milestone that is aiming in the direction of your deepest desire. A milestone is your next level towards your deepest desire.
It feels achievable, it's out of your comfort zone but you still believe that you can make it happen. Another ingredient is that just by thinking about it you get really excited.
Now, write on a paper a commitment. Something like: “I'll do whatever it takes to achieve my ideal scenario.
I'm totally committed to make it happen.
The first step is achieving this milestone. And my ideal scenario and the first milestone are: [insert here your ideal scenario & the first milestone]”
Identify and eliminate what's in your way
Write what stands between you and your first milestone. Think of as many things that could go right and wrong.
The point is to acknowledge everything not to focus too much on the negative side.
Take every “I can't”, “It's impossible because[...]”, “I must do X before achieving my first milestone”, “I'm not ready to approach women”, “I have to dress cool in order to approach women” etc. and write them down.
If you feel anxious, worried, fearful or any other negative emotion just write down all of them including all the situations when you feel them. Even if they are many, write down all of them.
Take all the aspects that you wrote down and question them one by one.
The aim is to feel totally at peace with all of them. In other words, none will trigger anymore any bad emotion. You may utilize techniques to eliminate anxiety like this one.
Make it inevitable & Refresh it Daily
Making something inevitable means to make sure that you achieve your goal no matter what obstacles may come in your way.
Pick something that is more painful for you than approaching women. Use this as a negative motivator to keep you on track in doing what you know it's the best thing for you.
Example: Talk with a friend and say to him that you will give him 50$ for each day you don't approach at least 5 girls.
If giving away money away is not painful enough for you than say to him that you will do something that you would normally won't do it by any means.(Cleaning the toilets, eating dog food etc. Find your own that works for you!)
Daily think, feel and visualize your next milestone. And daily make sure that you are moving surely in this direction.
Burn all your ships
This simply means to not live yourself any plan B or any other escape root. Think about the things that make you stay in your comfort zone. It may be a sinking relationship. It may be your wanting to overly control how women respond to you when you approach them.
It may be your lack of results based on your past situations.
You need to let go of them forever. Don't base any of your future expectations on these second hand results and excuses.
Act before you are ready & Just Do It
When do I start? Right now! It doesn't matter if you feel ready or not. Take some action in the direction of your deepest desire.
If some emotions and bad internal dialog comes up in your head you can apply techniques like this one.
You will notice that when you are totally free in your mind everything is much easier and you simply just do it.
When you still have doubts then you may sabotage yourself from time to time. However, having these doubts is not an excuse for taking action.
As a resume: Get Cristal Clear, Eliminate your Emotional Obstacles, Make sure you will inevitably get what you want, Burn All or your ships & Just Do it!
However, you may have no procrastination but if you cannot approach women with confidence it doesn't help too much. I can help you to be able to approach women with confidence quicker that you may imagine.
Start by applying the following quick technique to eliminate any anxiety with it, Click Here & Start Applying it.
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