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** Question From A
Newsletter Reader **
I am a student and I wanted to know how to meet girls in the most
crucial areas with plenty girls. Here are the situations.
First :- The
Nightclub where the music is so loud, where there are too many
people with little or no space to move, and the girls are dancing
with themselves,. The main idea is that it is very hard and almost
pointless to start a conversation in these areas. How do I do it?
Second :- How do I meet girls who are walking along the street maybe
going somewhere. Like am in school, how do I meet a girl who is
walking down maybe to her dorm or somewhere else. The point is where
am from people do this to women all the time. But here in America,
its almost considered weird because you pop out of nowhere and she's
not expecting it.
Finally, what do you do when a girl tells you she has a boyfriend?
Should you leave her alone or continue your business on getting her.
What if she is totally in love with her boyfriend, how do you win
John M's Reply:
Okay, I guess I'll try tackling each question in order...
First, Nightclubs ARE very difficult venues. Unless you're specially
suited to the party-style nightlife, these venues will be a bit
daunting. And even if you are predisposed to this type of pick up,
you will still have to deal with lots of competition from other men.
That said, it's
not impossible to meet women in nightclubs. But it will require you
to be a little more outgoing and aggressive than other venues.
First off, when I'm
in a club, I tend to like to hang out in open-air areas where I can
talk to other people easier. Patios and right outside the club can
be good for this. Most clubs will have some form of outdoor area
where you can hang out -- especially places like New York and Los
Angeles where you're not allowed to smoke inside.
The dance floor can
also be quite effective. If you like to dance, go out there and try
dancing with the women who are dancing by themselves. If they're not
into it, move on. If they are, it's PLAY time! =)
Also, keep in mind the time at which you're going to the club.
Usually, the later it gets, the easier it is to pick up a girl (this
is because as it gets later, people are more pre-disposed to "hook
up" due to alcohol, desperation, boredom, etc).
Second, to approach
women on the street takes a bit of finesse. In America, people do
tend to be a bit more private than in other parts of the world. My
best advice in this respect is to actually follow the girl for a bit
and see where she's going. If she stops off at a coffee shop or a
bus stop, or whatever, THAT is the time to approach her! If it looks
like she's going someplace you can't follow her into (like her
home/dorm, for instance) then you'll have to take the chance and try
approaching her cold. But make it a quick approach and include a
time constraint ("I know you're on your way somewhere, this'll only
take a second..."), get her number as quick as you can, then move