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The Loudest Language Doesn’t Make a Sound ...
Learn the ins and outs of body language
Before you utter a word,
your body is saying a lot on your behalf. Depressed or anxious,
amorous or excited—it’s all out there for others to see…whether you
know it or not. This is why I think it’s so important to actually
understand—and be able to control—what it is your body is saying to
your date (and what your date’s body is telling you) through a mere
gesture, or tilt of the head.
To this end, let’s take a look at a few basic body parts, and whether
you’re projecting on the outside what you feel on the inside.
Show Your Interest
Face Forward—Your head should be facing the person to whom you are
speaking with, and be tilted and/or nodding to let them know you are
interested. Don’t get carried away, though. A slight nod will suffice!
Eye Contact—Direct and continual eye contact is key. But there is a
difference between that and staring your date down. Know the
difference, and do the former.
Body—As with the face, your entire upper body should be pointing
toward the person you’re speaking with. Leaning in just a bit with
your torso in is an effective way to let them know you are interested,
engaged, and flirtatious.
Legs—Our legs, and even feet, tell part of our story. If standing,
legs should be helping you lean ever-so-slightly forward, feet in an
open position. While sitting, it’s best to keep both feet flat on the
floor beneath you, or crossed low, at the ankles. Even though it’s a
common way to sit, an ankle resting on the knee can seem as though
you’re fidgety or eager to leave, so unless you’re ready to run, keep
‘em planted.
Gauge Their Interest
Caressing—When your date touches themselves, or an object (such as a
glass), it can mean they want to touch you, or that he or she wants
you to touch them. But tread carefully. There’s always the possibility
that it’s just an itch!
The Touch
Attention! Attention! No matter where, when, or how—even if it seems
accidental—if your date touches you, you’re being sent an undeniable
signal that they’re interested.
And Remember—Still not sure whether your date is digging you? Check
out whether they’re leaning in toward you, or pulling away. Are their
eyes directed straight into yours, or roaming the room? If it’s the
former, you know you’ve got them. And if it’s the latter, it might be
time to roam the room yourself.
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bold, brutally honest, and always helpful dating advice? Visit my Web
site, www.Ask
April.com There, you'll find informative articles, expert
columnists, interactive quizzes, and free giveaways! And don't forget
to also check out my workshops, designed to help you find you real
"soul mate"!
© 2003, 2004 April
Masini
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