Does Maybe Mean Yes? by Ask April - aLoveLinksPlus.com Advice Central

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Q: Dear April,
If a guy comes out and tell a girl he is not ready for a relationship does he mean that he is not interested in being with that person or he doesn't want to commit to that person.
Sincerely,
What’s He Really Saying?

A: Dear What’s He Really Saying,
Sometimes a “no” sounds like “no,” and sometimes it looks like “no,” but sometimes, it looks and sounds like, “I’m not ready for a relationship.” Sometimes it looks like, “Gee, not tonight, but maybe next week – ‘kay?” And your job as a young woman is to figure out what is in your best interest. You do NOT want to be with someone who doesn’t want you. You do NOT want to sit around waiting for someone to figure out if he wants you or not. You do NOT want to sit around waiting for someone who may or may not want a relationship or not.

Every Action -- And Every Inaction -- Is A Decision

Indecision is a decision. A wishy-washy answer is an answer. Train your ears to hear what he’s really saying – and grab my book, Think & Date Like A Man, and take my “Man-Think” quiz so you can know how men think and what they mean when they say things that confuse you. Men and women are different, and when a man says something to you, the same words out of his mouth often have different meaning than the same words out of a woman’s mouth. The sooner you realize this, the less time you’re going to waste, the less heartache you’re going to have, and the more happiness you’re going to enjoy.

Know What Men Want

The Feminist Movement did a lot of women – and men – big harm by allowing women (and men) to think it’s okay to ask a man out, to ask him what his feelings are about you, to make the first move and to propose to a man. You should no sooner be asking a man what his feelings towards you are, then you should be eating fish food for breakfast. And you’d better not be eating fish food for breakfast! And you’d also better figure out quickly what a man does when he likes you and when he’s really interested in a relationship with you.

For instance: A man wants to feel butterflies in his stomach when he’s around Ms. Right. He wants to feel fireworks. If you’re waiting around for him, and he knows it, how is he ever going to feel fireworks? You're too available. Fireworks aren’t something that happen every day. They’re special, and if he doesn’t feel that you’re special, then find someone who does. Because I guarantee you that he will.

Second: A man is a hunter. Men want to hunt for a woman. They want to chase you. They want to feel that when they win you – if they win you – it’s a prize that they’ve conquered. If you aren’t a prize – then what’s the point of him chasing you or even winning you?

If you’re sitting around waiting for him to figure out if he wants to be in a relationship with you or if he wants a relationship at all – you’re taking away the hunt for him, and wasting your time! Think & Date Like A Man. Yes, it’s a sentence – and it’s the name of my new book – and you need it! Pronto! Because you haven’t been able to figure out what your guy is saying to you: He isn’t ready for a relationship. You’re spinning your wheels trying to dissect his meaning, analyze his motivation, and do his therapy for him – a sure sign of failure in a relationship.

Sorry, but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. If he did, he’d be asking you out. He’d be calling. He’d be bringing you flowers and introducing you to his friends. When a man likes you – you know. This one doesn’t. You need to accept that, and move on. Now. Put your best attitude on. Make sure you look like a million bucks. Get your confidence in high gear. Figure out what you want in a man. And get out there and get it! That’s simple advice. My book will take you by the hand and lead you through quizzes, advice, and give you all the tips you need to get the man you want – and keep him.

You can do it – IF you don’t waste time with men who aren’t interested. Like this one.

Sincerely,
April

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BRIEF BIO
April Masini is a recognized and award winning producer, author, columnist, motivational speaker, relationship and success expert—with politically incorrect twist. Sure to raise eyebrows, generate buzz … and INSPIRE RESULTS!

Standing 5 feet, 8 inches tall, with a lean 127-pound body, and 38-26-36 proportions, it's not hard to understand why April Masini's impressive list of accomplishments is not the first thing that pops into a guy's mind upon meeting her. But April is much more than a blonde bombshell.
Though she started off her career as a model and actress, April has moved on to become a persuasive public speaker and President/CEO of Masini Television & Film Enterprises, LLC in Honolulu, and Masini Enterprises, Inc. in Los Angeles.

On January 26, 2004, April's no-holds-barred advice book, "Date Out of Your League" hit the stands, causing controversy with her witty, well-endowed, naughty alter-ego, High Voltage Blonde, her brutally honest, uncensored advice, and her sometimes politically incorrect message.... But controversy quickly turned into interest, and then followings, when the most widely read newspapers, magazines, and Web sites, around the world, began seeking out April's comments, opinions, and expertise.

In fact, April became so popular that in February, 2004, "Ask April" was launched simultaneously on two of FORBES Magazine's "Best on the Web" winners, MillionaireMatch.com, who not only won with FORBES in 2003, but was also singled out by the WALL STREET JOURNAL; along with aLoveLinksPlus, who took FORBES top award in 2001 and 2002. Then "Ask April" jumped the Pacific with MyNippon.com the hugely popular Japanese site devoted to romance techniques.

When April isn’t writing, this former model/actress is leading seminars, guest lecturing, or dedicating her time to Masini Enterprises—her multifaceted television and film production company whose accomplishments have been recognized, record-breaking, and award winning, with strong connections to everything from "Baywatch" and "Blue Crush" to "LifeStyles of the Rich & Famous" and "The Miss Universe Pageant."