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Q:
Dear April,
If a guy comes out and tell a girl he is not ready for a
relationship does he mean that he is not interested in being with
that person or he doesn't want to commit to that person.
Sincerely,
What’s He Really Saying?
A:
Dear What’s He Really Saying,
Sometimes a “no” sounds like “no,” and sometimes it looks like “no,”
but sometimes, it looks and sounds like, “I’m not ready for a
relationship.” Sometimes it looks like, “Gee, not tonight, but maybe
next week – ‘kay?” And your job as a young woman is to figure out
what is in your best interest. You do NOT want to be with someone
who doesn’t want you. You do NOT want to sit around waiting for
someone to figure out if he wants you or not. You do NOT want to sit
around waiting for someone who may or may not want a relationship or
not.
Every Action -- And Every Inaction -- Is A Decision
Indecision is a decision. A wishy-washy answer is an answer. Train
your ears to hear what he’s really saying – and grab my book, Think
& Date Like A Man, and take my “Man-Think” quiz so you can know how
men think and what they mean when they say things that confuse you.
Men and women are different, and when a man says something to you,
the same words out of his mouth often have different meaning than
the same words out of a woman’s mouth. The sooner you realize this,
the less time you’re going to waste, the less heartache you’re going
to have, and the more happiness you’re going to enjoy.
Know What Men Want
The Feminist Movement did a lot of women – and men – big harm by
allowing women (and men) to think it’s okay to ask a man out, to ask
him what his feelings are about you, to make the first move and to
propose to a man. You should no sooner be asking a man what his
feelings towards you are, then you should be eating fish food for
breakfast. And you’d better not be eating fish food for breakfast!
And you’d also better figure out quickly what a man does when he
likes you and when he’s really interested in a relationship with
you.
For instance: A man wants to feel butterflies in his stomach when
he’s around Ms. Right. He wants to feel fireworks. If you’re waiting
around for him, and he knows it, how is he ever going to feel
fireworks? You're too available. Fireworks aren’t something that
happen every day. They’re special, and if he doesn’t feel that
you’re special, then find someone who does. Because I guarantee you
that he will.
Second: A man is a hunter. Men want to hunt for a woman. They want
to chase you. They want to feel that when they win you – if they win
you – it’s a prize that they’ve conquered. If you aren’t a prize –
then what’s the point of him chasing you or even winning you?
If you’re sitting around waiting for him to figure out if he wants
to be in a relationship with you or if he wants a relationship at
all – you’re taking away the hunt for him, and wasting your time!
Think & Date Like A Man. Yes, it’s a sentence – and it’s the name of
my new book – and you need it! Pronto! Because you haven’t been able
to figure out what your guy is saying to you: He isn’t ready for a
relationship. You’re spinning your wheels trying to dissect his
meaning, analyze his motivation, and do his therapy for him – a sure
sign of failure in a relationship.
Sorry, but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. If he
did, he’d be asking you out. He’d be calling. He’d be bringing you
flowers and introducing you to his friends. When a man likes you –
you know. This one doesn’t. You need to accept that, and move on.
Now. Put your best attitude on. Make sure you look like a million
bucks. Get your confidence in high gear. Figure out what you want in
a man. And get out there and get it! That’s simple advice. My book
will take you by the hand and lead you through quizzes, advice, and
give you all the tips you need to get the man you want – and keep
him.
You can do it – IF you don’t waste time with men who aren’t
interested. Like this one.
Sincerely,
April
Ready for even more
bold, brutally honest, and always helpful dating advice? Visit my Web
site,
www.Ask
April.com There, you'll find informative articles, expert
columnists, interactive quizzes, and free giveaways! And don't forget
to also check out my workshops, designed to help you find you real
"soul mate"!
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BRIEF BIO
April Masini is a recognized and award winning producer, author,
columnist, motivational speaker, relationship and success expert—with
politically incorrect twist. Sure to raise eyebrows, generate buzz … and
INSPIRE RESULTS!
Standing 5 feet, 8 inches tall, with a lean 127-pound body, and 38-26-36
proportions, it's not hard to understand why April Masini's impressive
list of accomplishments is not the first thing that pops into a guy's
mind upon meeting her. But April is much more than a blonde bombshell.
Though she started off her career as a model and actress, April has
moved on to become a persuasive public speaker and President/CEO of
Masini Television & Film Enterprises, LLC in Honolulu, and Masini
Enterprises, Inc. in Los Angeles.
On January 26, 2004, April's no-holds-barred advice book, "Date Out of
Your League" hit the stands, causing controversy with her witty,
well-endowed, naughty alter-ego, High Voltage Blonde, her brutally honest,
uncensored advice, and her sometimes politically incorrect message.... But
controversy quickly turned into interest, and then followings, when the
most widely read newspapers, magazines, and Web sites, around the world,
began seeking out April's comments, opinions, and expertise.
In fact, April became so popular that in February, 2004, "Ask April" was
launched simultaneously on two of FORBES Magazine's "Best on the Web"
winners, MillionaireMatch.com, who not only won with FORBES in 2003, but
was also singled out by the WALL STREET JOURNAL; along with
aLoveLinksPlus, who took FORBES top award in 2001 and 2002. Then "Ask
April" jumped the Pacific with MyNippon.com the hugely popular Japanese
site devoted to romance techniques.
When April isn’t writing, this former model/actress is leading seminars,
guest lecturing, or dedicating her time to Masini Enterprises—her
multifaceted television and film production company whose accomplishments
have been recognized, record-breaking, and award winning, with strong
connections to everything from "Baywatch" and "Blue Crush" to "LifeStyles
of the Rich & Famous" and "The Miss Universe Pageant."
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