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Q: Dear April,
I date a lot—and yes, sleep with different women, too. I'm wondering:
Is there one thing I can do that will please all the different women
I'm with (because I do want them to be satisfied…and keep coming back
for more)?
Thanks for your help,
Don Juan Wanna-Be
A: Dear Don Juan Wanna-Be,
Paul Simon once sang about a "one-trick pony" who could only do one
thing and one thing only. Unfortunately for us women, the same can be
said about most men in bed. Learning how to sexually please your
woman—and any woman, for that matter—means putting her needs before
your own (at least initially), learning what turns her on, and not
being afraid to put your money where you mouth is, so to speak. Trust
me, you'll reap the rewards in spades for just putting a little effort
in now.
The universal truth.
While all women have their own sensual secrets, there are a few that
are universally erotic. The key to turning on any woman is to start by
making her feel good about her body, and then making her body feel
good. Once you've achieved this, she will feel secure and ready to
hand over the keys to discovering her own idiosyncratic secrets.
Beauty is in the eye (and lips and hands) of the beholder.
The single thing that all women have in common is that they want to
feel wanted and beautiful. To please a woman in bed, make her feel
beautiful when she's in bed with you. A good lover always does this.
Most women also want positive reactions, obvious delight, and
complimentary remarks—but no lies—about their bodies. Really, you can
never say too many nice things about a woman during sex…as long as you
mean them. But make sure that the words coming out of your mouth
aren't the only part of you doing the talking. Your body also needs to
communicate to her just how beautiful you think she is.
You can "communicate" this by finding out what she thinks is her best
physical feature, and then focusing all of your attention there. If
she isn't vocal about it, you be the judge. I guarantee that if she
has gorgeous legs, her body will respond in your favor to the kisses,
caresses, and playful nibbles you place from ankle to...well, where
her legs end.
But don't let the attention stop there.
Become a cunning linguist.
Become her sex slave—at least the first few times. Most people
concentrate on their own pleasure, so win her over by not being
selfish. Pay attention to her. The average woman is more interested in
a man who is interested in her, than a man—any man—with a well-endowed
body. Let her know that her pleasure is more important than yours.
How? By mastering the art of using your mouth for something other than
words.
Most women love oral sex when it's done right. And most men haven't
learned to do it well. And many of those who claim that they don't
like oral sex, simply haven't experienced a man who really knows how
to do it. If you are an oral sex artist, chances are, you will own her
soul. And as it turns out, men don't just perform oral sex for their
partner's pleasure. In one large US study, 90% of men said that they
enjoyed performing cunnilingus. I've also heard that the men who make
it into the top economic bracket are the ones who perform oral sex on
a regular basis! It's a well-known fact that a man's orgasm will be
intensified when the woman peaks at the same time. By pleasing her,
you are also doing yourself favor.
Ready for even more
bold, brutally honest, and always helpful dating advice? Visit my Web
site, www.Ask
April.com There, you'll find informative articles, expert
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to also check out my workshops, designed to help you find you real
"soul mate"!
© 2003-2007 April Masini
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