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Walk and talk. Move
forward with getting her info and planning a fun time. Why are you
stopping yourself from being with her?
Dear
Rob,
I need some help.
There is this girl that I've seen in my local bar and she's HOT. She
keeps hanging out with these total jerks.
I've talked with her a few times and she's really nice to me. I buy
her drinks and we chat a lot all kinds of things but whenever her
jerk friends shoe up (guys!), she's hanging with them.
I don't have her email or number, I just meet her in the bar when
she shows up. I've been hanging out there more so I can chat with
her.
How do I get her more interested in me so I can date her?
LA Boy
Hi LA Boy,
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that she wants a
little "danger" in her life while what you offer is a comforting
person to talk with until her real friends show up.
She's either interested in you as a friend, as a bar drinking buddy
with an open wallet, or maybe, just maybe, she's waiting for you to
"man up" and ask her some personal questions and a date too.
The people she's hanging out with once they show up offer her more
fun than you do. I bet one guy busts on her all the time, teasing
her, calling her names, and she get's real excited in her answers to
all the teasing. This is classic "Bad Boy" techniques. Girls really
respond to this type of interaction. It's fun, a little dangerous,
and keeps them guessing about what's next. Their interest level goes
up, their anticipation for what's going to happen next spikes up and
they like the guy more and more. The "Bad Boy" is beyond the
"wussy-safe-guy" that you represent.
Take the step forward.
Get her email, chat with her online, (stop hanging out at the bar so
much, she'll think you're a drunk if you aren't already!), get her
phone number. Open up communication on a more personal level by
getting her info.
Search the local paper and see if there's anything interesting going
on, a car show, a craft sale, something where the two of you can
spend some time together, hanging out seeing stuff.
Heck, take her bowling or minigolf if she's into those things. Talk
to her and find out, the door is open, my friend, it's time to step
through it.
And for goodness sakes, bust on her once in a while. Get her
interest to increase in you, be "the Man" not the soft wuss you are
now.
Best wishes,
Rob.
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* Rob is not a professional counselor, just
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should be treated as advice that can be followed or ignored. He'll
give you the best advice his experience allows. And you'll have
someone that'll listen to your troubles without being too
judgmental. And if you don't like his answers, just delete them! *
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