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Dating doesn't always
speed through physical contact, but when you want a kiss you need to
know how to get it.
Dear
Rob,
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a few weeks now and things
are great but, whenever I walk her to her bus or anywhere we
separate all we really do is hug goodbye. Is this a normal thing or
is it wrong to sort of expect a goodbye kiss?
I mean
nothing really huge, just a quick peck on the lips.
I don't know
if it is ok to want that, and how can I let her know without sounding like
all I care about is the physical aspect of the relationship?
Thanks, Carl
Hi Carl,
Moves like a kiss goodbye are a special thing to share. But your girlfriend
may be uncomfortable showing this type of intimacy in public.
I'd let it be for a while but in another month just say to her "You know,
sometimes when we leave each other I'd like to get a goodbye kiss."
And go from there.
Couples always need to communicate what they like and don't like about the
actions of the other person, while not being petty about it.
This type of
intimate communication is hard to approach sometimes but it really can save
a relationship.
Approach
these things in a caring way, show that by bringing these things up your aim
is to strengthen your relationship, not complain or put down the other
person, the person you love.
It's OK to say:
I like to be kissed like this, not like that;
Sometime's you have bad breath;
What you just said wasn't funny to me;
Please hold my hand when we're out walking around;
You're mean to me in front of your friends and this is how I'd like
you to respect me now.
Of course I could go on and on, but you get the idea.
All these small issues really are solvable but only once the topic
is out in the open and you can talk about them in a mature,
reasonable and loving manner.
Best wishes,
Rob.
Dear Reader,
Over the years I've had the opportunity to read many "self-help"
books that deal with a variety of situations that occur between men
and women. Please take a moment and visit these suggested websites, where applicable:
For Women
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