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When your heart bounces around it becomes easy to hold onto whatever type of relationship you can get. But this isn't a healthy option, physically or emotionally.
Dear Rob,
My name is Susie and I'm writing to you for advice.
The guy I'm telling you about is not my boyfriend he already has a girlfriend, and isn't looking for another relationship. We been friends for 4 yrs.
He already told me he just wants to be friends but I want more.
I was recently engaged to the father of my 2yr old daughter but we broke it off a week ago.
I felt hurt and decided to call my friend John and I got together with him and his brother last night. John and I had sex 4 times in all, once before I had my daughter, then the rest of the three times were about either a year apart from one another or 6 months apart.
The third time we had sex I noticed he didn't call me afterwards, so I called him a day later. We spoke for a brief moment then he told me that he's busy at work and that he would call me back.
For days I've been the one doing all the calling until he just stop answering his phone. He has been on my mind ever since, that is why I decided to call him 3 months ago.
When I called he didn't answer so I left a call back text. He called me back 2 days later. Ever since then we have been friends again, the only problem was that every time I called to see him he would stand me up and then call the next day, but last night he didn't stand me up, probably because his girlfriend went away for 2 weeks to visit family.
Last night after we had sex we slept for 2 hours then he took me home, he said that he would call me but he didn't. I want to know why he hasn't called as yet. I know for a 2 facts I wasn't boring in bed and I don't have any sort of body odor, so what could be the problem. I'm wondering if after I had my daughter does my vagina feel a little less tight could that be a reason why he haven't call as yet?
Susie
Hi Susie,
I hate to be the one with the bad news, but he is only using you for a “booty call”, sex when he wants it, otherwise no relationship exists.
He already has a long term relationship with his girlfriend and he’s cheating on her with you.
He is still with his girlfriend and there is nothing it what you’ve told me that he has any interest in you other than SEX.
It’s time to face the true facts: He’s just not into you. No matter the history of what you had with him before.
You are SEX for him and that is all, otherwise he’d be behaving totally different, right?
This has nothing to the fact that your physical attributes may be different after childbirth. He has a girlfriend! Get that into your head.
You've just broken up with your fiancé, you have a daughter, now you need to make some good decisions that will follow you for the rest of your life.
I am sure if you put more time into your 2 year old daughter there will also come a time when you’re as comfortable with yourself as you can be and you’ll find a man that treats you like a woman, not an object or a puppy dog to play with when he feels like doing so.
Move on.
Start over.
Best wishes,
Rob.
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