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If it isn't love now,
what do you expect is going to grow in the future? Te guy that makes
you wait is usually the guy that's waiting for something better to
come along.
Dear
Rob,
Five years back I got in touch with my old 8th grade friend from
back home.
We got in touch through emails and became really good friends. He
used to be affectionate and used to tell me its only as a degree of
affection as a friend. I was like ok.
I visited him and we met a couple of times when I went back home.
Then also he used to say I love you and I miss you. But every time
he used to say it's only as a friend. I got back and again we were
in touch through emails. Suddenly he changed, started flirting with
me so much. The flirting became so deep that he asked me if I can
wait for 2 years, then he will marry me. I always told him I cannot
commit without my dad's consent and asked him to talk to my dad.
But I clearly showed back affection and interest towards him. He was
like "ya..I'll talk to your dad and we can marry". For 5 or 6 months
this continued. He talked almost like we were in a relationship One
day, suddenly he changed and started saying that whatever he did to
me is all "legpulling". I was so shocked, cried and asked him why
did he all this to me.
All he was saying is he just leggpulled. he said he likes me but
didn't think beyond that (like going for a long-time relationship or
marriage). He asked me if I seriously wanna get into a relation with
him. He gave a few days time to think and tell him. I told yes, and
after I told him yes, he was like I also need to think and decide.
He suggested me to wait for 6 to 8 months, and he told me we can
understand each other for few months and then decide. I told him ok.
After 6 months, He is still not sure about anything, and now he is
saying destiny will decide in the future. I told him clearly lets
quit everything and be good friends.
For that also, he is not so ready to quit me forever. He still wants
me to hang on to him and saying lets be friends now with out any
expectations and destiny will decide. But I clearly told him to quit
everything. He said he will decide about the quitting and will tell
his decision soon.
I simply couldn't understand this guys intention? Is he playing with
me? Should I quit him forever? I'm confused.
One thing he tells me he might not have pulled my legs if he knew
that I liked him in that sense. Did he really do legpulling with me
for 5 months? I cannot believe how some one can pull legs for 5
months continuously? Is he lying about legpulling? He also said he
pull his other close female friend legs and those gals never
misunderstood him.
Thanks,
Tina
Hi Tina,
Guys like this act the way they do for two reasons:
1. See how far they can “get” with you when you’re with them, and;
2. It’s comforting for them to experience “love and affection” when
they are really just waiting for someone better to come along.
This guy has been playing you, whether he really meant to or not.
It’s time to not only give him space, but to leave him be.
This is the type of guy that would cheat on you, break up with you
and come crawling back, over and over.
He’s the type that would take you for granted, because you really
would love him and he really hasn’t experienced “love” for you.
Dump him.
Don’t contact him anymore.
Look for someone that will treat you with respect and real love.
Best wishes,
Rob.
Dear Reader,
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and women. Please take a moment and visit these suggested websites, where applicable:
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