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Ask Rob! The
Advice General If you're not going to follow the rules of online dating and first meetings in the real world you'll never find your compatible match.
Dear
Rob, I me a girl through eharmony, she seemed to be a decent and smart girl also very hot. We went out on date on Saturday, we were having a good time (or at least so I think). While leaving I asked her if we could go out again and she said sure. I called her on Monday night, since she told me she was busy Sunday, to thank her for the good evening we had. I wanted to see her again so I called her on Wednesday and left her a message. She didn't call me back. I called her again on Saturday night and left a message on her voicemail but I didn't get a call back. I called again on Sunday night and got her on the phone. She said she was a bit sick, etc., and was going to watch a movie at home. She said she will call me the next day, on Monday . But its been two weeks and no call from her. I
haven't called her back since. Could you explain what is going on
with her and what should be my next step, attitude and strategy,
cause I think she is worth the wait. You had a first date on a Saturday night (mistake number one) and you didn't wait to call her as you should have. Instead you called her four times in the week after your date (multiple mistakes here!). Each call probably sounding more and more desperate, more needy. No matter how confident you may have seemed on your first date, all the calls showed how out of control you are when playing in the dating game. You may feel that she's worth the wait, but do you know what that means? Worth the wait means waiting for her to move closer to you, as in a long distance relationship. Or waiting for her to get over some personal issues while staying in touch with her. Saying she's worth the wait while you're sitting by your phone waiting for her call isn't waiting, it's stupidity. If you don't believe me, then in a week from now call her up and ask her out for a simple coffee date. If she agrees to meet you, then start over. If she blows you off again, forget her. She's not as compatible as you were led to believe. You've got your eharmony membership, use it again. She just wasn't your compatible date, that's for sure. Next time don't invest so much into your first date. The rule for first time meetings from an online dating service is a short date on a weekday afternoon or early evening. Or maybe Saturday afternoon but never a weekend evening. Take an hour to be together, to talk. No alcohol, no movies, no involved dinners. End this first meeting after an hour and tell her you'll call later to see if she arrived home OK. Keep this conversation short. Now is not the time to start long phone conversations. Call her the next Tuesday or Wednesday asking her out for Friday or Saturday night. Then have a nice dinner and plan something the two of you can do together. Again, no movies. Your first couple of dates should be interactive. Museums, art galleries, bowling, even shopping. Stick
to the rules and you'll be more confidant, your self-assurance will
shine and you'll stop wasting time waiting for the ladies to call.
Dear Reader, For Women
For Men
* Rob is not a professional counselor, just
someone that wants to help. His advice and opinions are his own and
should be treated as advice that can be followed or ignored. He'll
give you the best advice his experience allows. And you'll have
someone that'll listen to your troubles without being too
judgmental. And if you don't like his answers, just delete them! *
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