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He began to peruse me after that had happened, and needless to say, got with me and had me round his house to stay on two occasions, I had dinner with his family once; he'd broken up with his girlfriend of 11 months by this point, and a week after I stayed there and we kissed etc. he was going out with someone else and I only found out through myspace, broke up with her after 3 weeks. This scenario was over the space of months, most of the flirting he did on msn, he was very good with words and charming me, but he was always hot and cold, he'd tell me he wanted me and I'd shoot him down as I always knew he had a girlfriend, once he didn't even speak to me for a week because I told him I thought he was a manslag.
Anyway, he also had kissed
my friend from work again and got jealous of her boyfriend. He ended up
playing us both again over summer, and then ended up getting with her best
friend as well, telling me he wanted her; id been on holiday and just before
that he was saying he wanted me. He still, however, managed too get me to
stay there a night after that declaration claiming he didn't know what he
wanted, whilst I was there he told me he'd go out with me if he wasn't going
to uni. Then I found out through my work friends friend that he'd also been
saying that kinda stuff to the work friend over the summer!
This flirtation went on for
about a month, then he had sex with my friend (who he'd done stuff with
before) the night when I didn't let him in my room, we'd kissed but he
expected more and I wasn't going to give it, he didn't seem dismayed though,
he knew I was different to my friends already, he however after he'd done
it, admitted to me he didn't like her, slagged her off as she'd done some
bad stuff etc. After that he still would flirt with me and R on the same
night out, but be a little more discreet with my friend, make sure I didn't
see everything. He never asked for my number, told me he wanted another
girls number although he knew I liked him, I just never admitted it, he'd
been told through friends, kissed me and stuff again, and then that was it
really. Don't see him much anymore out yet I still like him, he's still hot
and cold even now. I'm getting over it now. I thought he probably just
wanted sex, am still not sure though as when I stayed round those few times
he never pushed it. He once hadn't flirted with me all night at all, and
still stroked me on the sofa, got up eventually saying he couldn't sleep and
was going upstairs, in this time I got the free bus back home.
He'd done everything he said, looked at me and hoped I'd be looking back etc. He offered to drive me home although he lived in a different town and had work at 9am, it was 4am by this point; so he did, and when we got back we kissed for a while in his car, I was gonna leave but he told me not too yet, he was really sweet. He said he wasn't sure what was gonna happen before; said what should we do now? Exchange numbers or wait until we see each other out, and laughed and said that's how bothered I am; he offered to walk me back to the flat and I declined, he said he'd text me the next day.
He never did, and I text him a week later saying how are you, he never replied. Then I hadn't been out on a weekend for 3 months, leading to now, in the past week I've seen him 4 times and he's pretty much ignored me; the first 2 nights we blanked each other; and on the 3rd I tapped him on the shoulder, he put his arm round me, said you alright darling, then said he was leaving to get some food.
Saw him again last night
and he looked at me, so I waved and he gave a faint wave back; then he
looked at me later but ignore me, then I said hi to him at another area of
the bar, there was some girl walking behind him and so he ignored me; then I
turned round to see him kissing that girl whilst looking at me! So now I'm
officially over it, am never attempting to speak to him again, and when I
see him will just blank him completely.
No rushed sex, but small
steps of being led on.
You’re putting too much
emphasis on being with someone rather than being happy as a single woman.
* Rob is not a professional counselor, just
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should be treated as advice that can be followed or ignored. He'll
give you the best advice his experience allows. And you'll have
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