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Advice General Dating combined with intimacy should automatically lead to exclusivity unless she's not ready to settle for someone like you. Hi
Rob, Even so, when we discuss the issue of exclusivity and taking our profiles off of match.com, she says she is not sure and wants to keep our options open to see other people. I'm afraid that I'm turning into the weak man that all the relationship books talk about not to be. I'm trying very hard to be the alpha male with a detached attitude, but I must confess I think I'm falling for this girl and I'm becoming more confused as to why she is calling me everyday and wanting to see me and being intimate with me when she is not ready to be exclusive with me. Her previous relationship lasted only 3 months and she was willing to be exclusive with her ex immediately from beginning but she says its different now and she is not ready to make a commitment, not yet.
Anyway and tells me to be patient with her. I realize I don't have
any options but to accept this fact but could you help me understand
what things might be running through her mind in coming to this
present state and feeling from her perspective? Also what I can do
to truly be the alpha male I really am.
Hi Confused,
Let her miss you a bit and see how her attitude changes. This will
help you find out of she's just "keeping time" with you until
someone better comes along or if she's ready to make an exclusive
commitment to you. But I have a feeling that since she still has her
hook in the pond (she won't take her profile off of match.com) she's
not ready to "settle" for you. Any
relationship you have should be on your terms, not hers. And if you
are ready for exclusivity (which means you don't want to have to
compete for her attention with other guys) and she isn't, then it
really is time to move on. Don't let her make all the rules, not
until you've moved into the exclusive dating area anyways.
Dear Reader, For Women
For Men
* Rob is not a professional counselor, just
someone that wants to help. His advice and opinions are his own and
should be treated as advice that can be followed or ignored. He'll
give you the best advice his experience allows. And you'll have
someone that'll listen to your troubles without being too
judgmental. And if you don't like his answers, just delete them! *
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