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When others interfere in your relationship, the adult reaction is to understand that they are jealous and immature. Or are you overreacting to the bad way you've handled your own relationship?

Dear Rob,
My name is Mike, and I have been with my girlfriend, Susan, now for 8 months. She has 3 sisters, which one of which I really don't get along with.. her name is Jane.

I'm not going to lie, I left my girlfriend, about 9 times, which was EXTREMELY stupid because I see now what a beautiful, wonderful person she is, (need I say the EXACT opposite of her sister, Jane, and her demonoid of a girlfriend, Jordan) but I don't know how much teasing, and meanness I can take from her sister Jane and her girlfriend.

I just don't see how two sisters can be born from the same mother, but be so different from one another. It's like one's Satan and the other is my God. Jane's tramp girlfriend, Anne, is another story, and is just as bad, if not worse than Jess.

One day, I will snap, worse then I have in the past, and it will be impossible to take me and Susan's relationship any further. They say things to me in front of Susan, and they try to play it off as "joking" in front of her, but it's not. It's mean teasing, its rude, and I really don't care for Jane or Anne, for that matter. They tell me I'm a dumbass, they tell me to shut the fuck up, their glad when I go to work, (but I am kinda hyper most of the time..) they tell me that I don't live here, and I know deep down that they feel as I'm just another expense to their father, whom is dying, and I feel bad because I probably am an expense to him, and to Susan.

What do you think would happen if I just didn't take the trash out, didn't clean up anything, and just left everything a big mess? If I just left my soda cans, wrappers, and everything right where it is??

I know I left Susan in the past, more than one time, and I probably do deserve to be tore down emotionally everyday in front of Susan, but I'm trying to prove that I love Susan, by keeping my mouth shut, because I do, but with that bitch Jane and her stupid girlfriend, Jordan splitting my emotions in two, it's getting really hard not to snap on them, because if I do, then Susan will get mad, and I don't think it's fair that I have to sit there and take the punishment that Anne and Jane dish out to me, but I can't dish it out to them, and say it how I REALLY feel.

I did like them at first when Susan and I first got together, but that quickly went away. I would joke back to them, whenever they are tearing me down, verbally, but how can you fight a mean, cruel remark with a harmless joke? YOU CAN'T.

I just feel like me and Susan are not going to last because one day, they are going to say something, in front of her, and it will be the last thing they say to me.

I realize that Jane, or the whole family doesn't trust me, because of the fact that I left Susan so many times, but they don't have to make my life a living hell, and, tear me and Susan apart at the same time.

I really wish I could just beat the living hell out of Jane and Anne, but it would be a waste. They're not worth my time, or energy, because they are so low, and I will not stoop to that level. (And plus, I'm not a woman-beater, but in their case, a Bull-dike-beater..)

The only thing separating Jane and Anne from a man, is a penis. So now you see how much hatred I have for them. I wish they would just leave me alone, and leave me and Susan's relationship alone. I can do without the redundant, stupid-ass immature cruelty from day to day. If they don't leave me alone, then I'm afraid I'll just have to leave the whole family alone, and then just be a secret.

So what do you suggest? Should I continue to take the verbal abuse from them, fake liking Jane and Anne as friends, and let them be the death of Susan and I??

Or should I stand up for myself, and tell them off? But then lose Susan's respect for me?

I'm so confused, hurt, and wanting to get revenge.
Signed,
-I just want this to stop.

Hi,
First things first:
You need to understand why you’ve broken up your relationship so many times.
I’m sure your girlfriend has lost a lot of faith in you.
And why are you living in her place?
Get a job and get your own place.
It’s time to be a man (even though you don’t say how old you are!).

Man up and do the right things.
Get your life together, even if it means breaking up for the tenth time just so you can get your real life started.

As far as what the sisters/friends say to you, you don’t have to take it but don’t let your anger get the better of you.

I think you really need some anger management classes to grow personally and maturely before you really do hurt someone.

And the next time they say something to push your buttons, look them squarely in the eyes and say “Why would you say something like that to me?”

Stay calm, collected and be the bigger person.

If you question them enough about why they do what they do, you’ll tire them out and they’ll end the mind games they’re playing with you.
Best wishes,
Rob.

Dear Reader,
Over the years I've had the opportunity to read many "self-help" books that deal with a variety of situations that occur between men and women. Please take a moment and visit these suggested websites, where applicable:

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