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Hi Rob,
Alright, there's this girl, Diana, in my english class. We've
sat next to each other the entire school year. At the beginning
of the year we used to fight and argue ever minute we were
together, yet slowly over time we began flirting more and more
and the sexual tension just kept building up till it was through
the roof and she thinks I'm the funniest person alive. Did I
mention she's incredibly smokin' hot?
Alright so anyways, earlier this week, Wednesday to be exact,
she was sitting on my desk flirting with me like usual,
unbuttoning my shirt slowly. (even another girl, Susan, that
sits next to me, told me that it appears as though Diana's crazy
for me.)
So I asked her out. I said, "Hey Diana, I'm going to the movies
this weekend, you wanna come along?"
"Okay!" she said, with a big smile.
So I got her number and things were normal the rest of the week,
we just flirted like usual.
Then last night I texted her with this "Hey its M. Wanna meet me
at rancho tomorrow @ 630? I'd pick you up but my parents don't
like me using their cars."
About 15 minutes later she replied with:
"what are you talking about?"
I replied with a "um, going to the movies? member?"
She didn't respond anymore after that.
Now I really don't know how I should feel or how to go about
handling the situation. I'm really confused. The only
half-reasonable explanation I can come up with is that maybe she
thought I was jokingly asking her out. I always joke around
saying stuff like "hey, lets get married!" and the like.
But you're the expert, any ideas on how to handle this
situation?
Thanks,
M
Hi M,
Your come back should have been,
"Like you promised me, to take me to the movies" when she told
you she didn't remember.
Since she brushed you off, I'd just keep going the way you are,
but now, she owes you a date since you can tell her that she
"stood you up".
But, I don't like this:
I texted her with this "Hey its M. wanna meet me at rancho
tomorrow @ 630? I'd pick you up but my parents don't like me
using their cars."
That's really more information than she needs, ever... any girl.
When you make a date you have a plan, you don't include any
excuses in your plan, so you don't offer her any excuses to say
no to you.
And confirming a date through text messaging is a big NO NO!
Always, if you're confirming a date, call.
Always!
So, ask her again on Tuesday... not Monday, not Wednesday...
about her taking you to the movies since she stood you up.
Try to get your parents to pick her up with you, drop you both
off at the movies and take the both of you home after.
Or get money for a cab.
You can save a few dollars for a date, right?
Have a plan and stick to it.
And if she says no, go down your list of girls you'd like to
date and pick the next one.
Don't become all wussy and chase her.
Let her know what she's missing by asking someone else and
taking the other girl.
Jealousy may just work in your favor and is, as I suspect, this
girl is a flake, you'll be better off.
Best wishes,
Rob.
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