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When To Tell A Girl You Like Her

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Hi Rob,
I have a question about something maybe you can help me with. I've seen your advice and it really seems like it works and you know what your talking about so here goes.

I'm 19 and I'm going to be going to college this fall 2006. I've started to talk to a girl who will be going to the same college as me. We've been emailing each other for about 3 weeks and were playing the question game where we ask questions about each other to get to know each other. It was her idea so we email each other every day and we've seen pictures of each other.

She's definitely beautiful and everything I could ask for in a personality type. She says she's super excited to meet me. And the plus is she hasn't had a boyfriend before so I don't have to worry about past excessive baggage or anything like that.

I'm confident enough to talk to her but I definitely want to tell her I like her. Although from what I've learned from experience is never to tell a girl you just like her it usually backfires and scares her away.

So I'd like to show her I'm genuine and real and are different from most other guys.

A direct quote she said was "Wow I can't believe how much we have in common" so guess I'm a bit lost on what my next step is.

If you could get back to me at this email I'd appreciate or any help you give me. Thank you so much for your time if you read this,
Dave.

Hi Dave,
I'm glad that you've emailed me.
So far you've been doing well, right up to the point where you turned into a lemming and started running towards the cliff.

I'm going to show you two sentences and I want you to figure out what the difference is between them:
1. I like you too.
2. I like you.

Can you spot the difference?

Yes, I know that it's fairly obvious, but this is where a guy screws up the beginning of what otherwise could be a great relationship.

Sentence #1 is in reply to her saying that she likes you. It's perfectly fine to answer back that you like her too. Then talk about what a hot day it is, or something in a safer zone of conversation.

Sentence #2 is where the guy, all horny and infatuated with his new (girlfriend) toy that he turns into a wussy puppy and says "I like you" in the hopes that these couple of words will make everything in the relationship even better, no matter what a dork the guy internally feels he is, no matter how amazed he is that he actually has a chance with the girl of his dreams. The guy is trying to overcome his insecurities with these few words.

Of course all that he's really done by blurting out "I like you" is given all the power of the relationship away to the girl, shown how easily controlled he can be because he's such a wuss, not the intelligent and confident guy the girl thought he is (up to the blurting out, that is).

Then she says back to him "You're a great friend" and that's the end of their dating. Of course the guy is blindsided, he never saw it coming. And for the rest of his life he'll never figure out the reasons why he messed up.

After all, all he said was how he felt about the girl, right?
Wrong!
In these few words he gave away a mountainful of information and every bit of it was BAD!

Girls need to feel attraction to a guy. And there are plenty of ways that this attraction happens and grows. And girls need to continually feel this attraction get stronger, for it to grow as the relationship progresses or it's over.
Ways that girls feel attraction:
1. Physical attraction - You're a clean, nice smelling guy that dresses well and has a better than average body type
2. Intelligent attraction - You're smart, capable and she instinctively knows that you'll be able to take care of her
3. Humor attraction - You're funny and using your humor you make her feel safe and all warm and fuzzy inside.

Of course there are many more ways for girls to be attracted to guys and I'm not going to cover all of them here, but you get my point right? Nothing above says that she feels more attraction when the guy is mooning over her saying "I like you". It's a relationship destroyer.

So Dave, don't do it.
Don't say you like her first. Follow what I say or you'll lose her.

Best wishes,
Rob.

 

Dear Reader,
Over the years I've had the opportunity to read many "self-help" books that deal with a variety of situations that occur between men and women. Please take a moment and visit these suggested websites, where applicable:

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