 DATING TIP: Attracting
Women And Keeping Them Attracted
I often talk
about the concept of ATTRACTION, and why it's more important than anything
else when it comes to being successful with women and dating.
Well, one of the amazing aspects of ATTRACTION is that it can be turned up
and down. You can actually AMPLIFY an initial attraction... if you know how.
Of course, if you DON'T know what you're doing, you can also DESTROY a
woman's attraction to you as well. And, in fact, if you don't know how to
AMPLIFY ATTRACTION, then you're most likely GOING to destroy it whenever you
do create it.
In this newsletter, I'm going to talk about two of my concepts... one that
I've talked about a lot, and one that is relatively new.
Here they are:
1) TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACK.
2) NEVER LET THE LINE GO SLACK.
So let's talk about these concepts and how they relate to creating a
powerful emotional state of ATTRACTION inside of women.
TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACK
I realized a few years ago that women don't get "turned on" the same way men
do (duh). More importantly, I learned that men get turned on like light
switches, and women get turned on more like volume knobs.
A man can go from being not interested in sex (like that ever happens) to
completely ready and totally turned on in about 30 seconds. Hell, it's
probably more like 3 seconds.
Women, on the other hand, usually start out with a spark of attraction, and
if the situation goes the right way, she gets more and more turned on... to
the point where she's ready to have sex.
One technique you can use to actually AMPLIFY any initial attraction that a
woman feels is to use the technique that I call "Two steps forward, one step
back".
This simply means progressing a little bit (like maybe kissing her) and then
stepping back for a little while (maybe leaning back and holding her hand or
not touching at all)... and then moving two steps forward again (maybe
kissing her, then kissing her neck)... and so on.
A powerful ingredient of ATTRACTION for women is ANTICIPATION.
Women love to be given a little bit, then teased... so they are waiting in
anticipation of what's going to come next. Of course, since you keep taking
a step back each time, it even amplifies the anticipation and sexual tension
further.
NEVER LET THE LINE GO SLACK
Once you start to "get" how this process of women getting turned on works,
you're going to need a way to gauge how fast or slow to go... and to keep a
woman interested without turning into a wussy-boy who calls her 10 times a
day.
I call this concept "Never let the line go slack".
Imagine that you are holding one end of a rope, and the woman is holding the
other end. Both of you are pulling gently... enough to keep TENSION in the
line.
It's a little game.
If she starts pulling, you need to give her a little bit of slack... but not
so much that she gets it all. And if she starts letting go, you need to pull
a little more to take up the slack and keep the TENSION up.
This is a great metaphor for the concept of SEXUAL TENSION.
Most men haven't the SLIGHTEST IDEA IN THE WORLD what sexual tension is. But
all women do.
And that's what we're talking about here.
So imagine that you're out with a woman for the second time.
On the first date you kissed and held hands, and on this date you're walking
around in the mall together.
Let's say you've been teasing
her a little bit, and she's been hitting you and saying "stop it!", but
she's laughing so you know that she's having fun.
Further, let's say that you've teased her so much that you can tell that
it's actually starting to get to her. Maybe you were teasing her about her
shoes being ugly, and she stops after the tenth joke and asks "Wow, do you
really think my shoes are that ugly?"
At this point, she's letting go
of the line a bit... and you need to do something about it to keep the
tension up.
So you might say "Oh, no... they're not that bad... I'm just giving you a
hard time".
At which point she might say "Wow, good. I was starting to worry that you
really hated them and that it was bothering you".
And now you have the opposite situation... both of you are letting the line
go slack at the same time with this whole "No, I think your shoes are fine"
and her saying "Oh, I'm glad you were just teasing me" thing.
So you have to do something!
You might say "Well, if worse comes to worse you can always donate them to
the Salvation Army so a needy girl who doesn't care if her shoes are ugly
can have them".
You'll probably get hit, but it puts the tension back in the line again!
Of course, there's an art to doing this correctly, and you will improve with
practice.
You can use this in just about every area imaginable, from how often you
call a woman to being able to tell when it's appropriate to give a
compliment (and then say something to take it back in a funny way!).
The problem is that most guys let things to too far in one direction... they
call every day for a week instead of letting the woman call them back a
couple of times, and waiting a couple or a few days to call.
Or they hang on a woman's arm every minute when they go out together, rather
than giving the woman some space and letting her come find him.
Or they give a woman a compliment, which the woman appreciates, then they
start giving her one after the other after the other... which comes across
as ULTRA WUSSY KISS ASS BOY... and drives the woman away.
Don't do to much of anything... and never let the line go slack for too
long!
When you use these two concepts together, you will find that not only will
women become FAR more attracted to you, but they'll STAY THAT WAY for as
long as you want them to.
If you DON'T do these two things, then you're probably going to find that
women will do things that make no sense to you, and they'll RARELY want to
be anything more than "just friends", because they just don't "feel it" for
you.
Of course, these are two of literally dozens and dozens of the techniques,
theories, and ideas that I have developed for attracting women. All of my
materials fit together like a big puzzle, and they support each other...
they create a total framework for making yourself successful with women and
dating...
I have techniques for everything from changing your self esteem and self
image to techniques for approaching women in every kind of situation you can
imagine.
To get an introduction to my concepts and techniques, just go download my
online eBook. You can download it right now and be reading it within just a
few minutes. It's here:
www.doubleyourdating.com
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
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