You're going about your day, from place to place, get all of your errands
done quickly so you have some "me" time.
Then it happens, a cute guy smiles at you... then he
approaches you... he's a smooth talker and after a minute or
two of chit-chat you're offering your phone number or email
address to him.
Then the moment is over and he's gone... and you're just
a bit (well maybe a little more than a bit) smitten by
And the next day he calls you up, or emails you... and he
says that he's going to be at such-and-such a place, in your
neighborhood, and so do you want to meet for a coffee and
some friendly conversation?
Of course you agree, after all, he's cute, seems to have
his act together (well, at least his clothes were clean and
his fingernails weren't bitten down to their beds), so what
the hey... you agree to meet him.
And now you're having coffee with him... and a nice
conversation... but something is seeming to be a little off
about him. Then you notice it, he's checking out other women
over your shoulder, behind you!
Ugh... men are animals.
Now, this isn't an all-encompassing article about the
psychology of men. (If ever there is one, email me the link,
But this is an article of starter tips on finding a great
guy as opposed to wasting a lot of time on the jerks and
losers that seem to be so predominant.
You'll never find a great guy at a place where jerks hang
out. If you're somewhere... whether grocery shopping or out
for appies and drinks with the girls... if you spot a couple
of jerks, there will be more along shortly. And that means
it's time to change your "girl time" destinations and change
your grocery stores. If you're not in the same place where
the great guys are, then how will you find each other?
Understand the difference of "flirting" and "the
come-on". Guys usually are pretty bad at hiding their
intentions with their body language. Their "animal"
instincts always betray them. One big give-away is that if
he's looking your way, and his shoulders are a little
hunched forward, then he's in "game mode" and is likely
looking for names and numbers to puff up his little black
book rather than a real lady for a real date. A guy that is
seriously interested, then he'll be sitting up, shoulders
back and chin forward. He'll smile with his eyes, and maybe
be a bit hesitant, before he makes real contact with you.
Don't play games if you don't want to be involved with
games. I'm not saying that you need to beg him to love
you... or that you need to discuss passion and needs, and a
life together, all before date number three. But date as if
you're really looking for a guy to fulfill your needs and
future dreams. It's your life and when you're ready to share
that with a man you need to put the games away and be
upfront with what you do want out of your life... but don't
say everything all in one call, email or date... guy's are
Never be afraid to end a relationship that is going no
where. Remember, it is your life and you need to have the
power over how you spend each precious moment. When it's
time to end it, make it fast, quick and in a short amount of
time as possible. This is good for you and good for him.
Don't be afraid to look for help, with dating,
relationships, and how to manage your life. We weren't born
with the all the knowledge that we need to get through life,
so we need to ask people that have the answers to the
questions that perplex us about life.
A great place to start is with the ebook
"Catch Him & Keep Him - A woman's guide to finding Mr.
Right... and keeping him hooked for good."
Honest information about dating men... and even more
great tips on managing your life with or without men.
If you'd like to take your success with men and dating to the next level,
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always wanted, then go here.
Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.