This article could also be titled "How to NOT have sex
and keep your man interested in a long term relationship" but it was just
damn too long for the space I have in the title area.
And it's true, I'm sure you are aware, than men put
"sex" on the top of the mountain (analogy of their main goal in a
relationship) and they want to reach that top as quickly as possible.
Now, if you've dated a few of these mountain climbers I
know that you know that things just didn't work out afterwards. He lost
interest. The anticipated journey was cut short because the mountain wasn't
as high as first suspected.
You relented (or were also so excited of the idea of
being together) that sex happened earlier in the relationship than it should
have and he lost interest. And now you know what a big mistake that was.
So maybe you swore off men for a while, or you decided
to remain "man-free" for a while… however it turned out for you, there comes
a time when you'll be dating a guy again. And you'll be confronted by the
same set of circumstances, the same urges and hopefully not be making the
same mistake about sex again.
You can read many men
like a book as far as sex and relationships go. They're interested in you,
they're interested in a deep relationship or they're interested in "getting
the deed done" and moving on to the next warm body.
Who said I couldn't be blunt?
The idea here isn't to protect you from every man, that
is something you have to do for yourself... the idea is to provide the tools
so that you can not only protect yourself but understand not only why you do
the things you do but why men do the things they do and in particular why
you let men do the things they do to you!
When you've found a man that you'd like to date
seriously, see how well things can go for you both, how the relationship can
progress, whether or not he's "The One" then why rush anything?
If a guy is a player
then there is one other thing he also is, without fail: he's impatient.
When a guy is committed to a relationship sex is not the
stepping stone that gets him there. Usually it's the exact opposite: waiting
for the intimacy that sex involves provides a woman with a deeper
understanding about the man she is with and allows the man to understand his
involvement with the woman.
Waiting should not be irritating.
If you have a great first few dates, if you sense a
great "connection" with him, why rush?
Now that I've seeded your consciousness with deep
thoughts it's time for you to answer this question as well: If you were
provided the tools to make your relationships better, whether you are in one
right now or soon to be, would you use them?
You might want to check out what could be the world's best collection of ideas, strategies, insights and research on the subject of how to avoid the Big Mistakes, and other big mistakes in my ebook, "Catch Him And Keep Him".
It's full off specific ways to communicate with a man that will instantly amplify the attraction he feels for you and help move things quickly and smoothly from "casual" to "committed" in no time flat.
I've spent the better part of the last year making sure my ebook will give you REAL WORLD ANSWERS and solutions to the things you're dealing with when it comes to men.
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Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.