A lot of relationships with guys start off with being friends, sharing
life's secrets and getting closer to the point of being boyfriend and
girlfriend in every way but the commitment.
friends" with a guy allows for a real closeness but there is the
ever-present danger of creating the relationship atmosphere that
does not allow the relationship to move beyond being close friends.
If the guy won't commit, you end up being the
person he relies on to be with him with no commitment needed, a
"friends with benefits" type relationship whether sex is included or
I have seen many times these types of relationships
fail and end in heartache for the woman because the guy said to her
what he wanted, which was no relationship but to just be friends
(and the unsaid fact that he's just waiting for Ms. Right to come
along and you're not her) and she hung on in a desperate attempt to
get him to change his position about the relationship.
If you want to "Catch Him" you have to allow yourself to be not
taken advantage of.
Bringing some "space" into
the relationship, by not being there every time he needs a shoulder
to cry on, or feels horny and wants to make out, then you give the
relationship you did have time to find it's own path.
have to allow this "being unavailable time" to give him time to
decide how important you are in his life so that you yourself can
better understand where the both of you are going.
Catching Him is all a part of finding out if he is "good
enough" for you to catch and want.
Wanting a guy and
catching a guy are two intertwined but distinctly different emotions
and actions that you have to allow to lead you, emotionally, into
the real relationship you want. But lead the emotions don't let them
Innermost feelings of attraction and love are
hard to master to your command, and you shouldn't let that be your
goal, but rather understanding how these emotions affect your
actions and reactions to the men around you.
change him, not at first... and if he rejects attempts to move the
relationship past where it is, your answer has been provided. He's
not the catch you thought he is.
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Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.