Testing men is often an issue that women differ on.
"Is it fair, is it nice, will this type of behavior scare him
But, ultimately, will the tests and games you subject a guy to
help you to find out that he's a great, compatible person that you
can become committed to?
So, does a guy freak out when you:
- show up late for a date
- call him later than expected
- cancel a date to be with friends
- ask him to meet your parents
- ask him to join you and your friends on a night out
- tell him what to wear
- tell him that his behavior is childish (or otherwise not
what you want)
You may not even realize, at first, that you're testing him, he
may just think that you are. Does that matter?
Of course it does.
Everything you do is to:
- qualify him as a worthy match
- understand the "man inside"
- let him know that you are your own person even inside a
All of the above behaviors are done to show each other that you
have an interest in them but there are hurdles to cover before there
will be an "intimate understanding" between each of you.
There is no "laying your heart bare" in the early stages of a
relationship if you want to be able to "save yourself" from possible
So there are tests.
Are these tests actually manipulating men?
No, I don't think so.
Guy's play the same type of games. For them it may be
unintentional but it certainly is a control issue, who is the leader
and who is the follower, of the relationship?
You may even find that men are manipulative, that their
"psychology" makes them more prone to being harder to deal with and
that men, in general, play more games to get what they want from a
Which leads to the question:
Do men behave romantically just to get what they want or are they
This is a huge question to which there is no one answer. The
answer varies with each man, with each situation. You have to be on
If you have confidence to deal with a man and his behaviors then
you have the control you need to have that men actually seek in a
At the end of everything, men want a woman that is confident, has
her life together, and isn't afraid to speak her mind, short of
being a bully or antagonistic.
You can't convince a man to love you, but you can prove yourself
to him just as he needs to prove himself to be worthy of you.
This proof is in deeds, actions and how you hold your life
This brings control and calm to every relationship. Believe it!
The security of your relationship is what these tests and game
playing are all about.
So do not be afraid to test men. Just be sure that the test is
worthy of you.
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Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.