We all know about the “obvious” woman and how she can easily attract any
Show a lot of cleavage.
Be forthcoming in physical contact when meeting men, long touches
on his arm and leg. Close talking that allows her breath to cross
And, quite simply, just being “easy”. Hooking up.
That’s how the obvious woman attracts men.
Of course the trouble with these encounters is that, for the most part,
they are shallow, short-lived and empty.
I remember reading about
a survey how blondes attract more men than brunettes. You
know the old saying “Blondes have more fun”. It’s true if you think
that attracting men strictly through physical attraction is the way
to go. Men, the survey surmised, prize blondes. The general male
feelings toward brunettes is that they are not “trophies” but family
oriented women. Brunettes were understood to be more dependable,
more geared towards marriage, more the “settle down” type.
Blondes were the height of the excitement factor,
bringing out the caveman, the instinctive man, and the reactive man
towards ownership of a woman.
Blondes were the “obvious” catch for a man.
And as a side survey the blondes were asked how
they were treated in their relationships and they reported that they
were indeed treated as if the man they were with owned them.
Men reacted towards blondes with purely physical attraction traits
and the dating cycle was short-lived, often sexual in nature earlier
The brunettes reported that they had a harder
time to get initial dates but their relationships lasted longer,
were more intellectual and more forward-looking. Men generally had a
longer term picture of relationships with brunettes.
We can surmise from these surveys that indeed, blondes have
more fun and more initial dates, but brunettes catch “The Man”
more often and have more stable relationships.
if you are blonde I’m not suggesting you change your hair
color to attract a “settling down” type of man.
And should you be brunette (or redhead) I’m not
saying for you to dye your hair blonde to get more dates.
The part of female/male initial attraction qualities
overlooked the sexual responses in a man that obvious women put out.
Catching a man is easy if you use your physical
traits as a lure. But the problem is that you catch a guy that is
interested in a purely physical relationship. A hookup. And no
So, what is the key to not being obvious
and still “Catching That Man”?
This “Intellectual Attraction” is when a man can see you as an
equal, as a woman with compatibility towards his interests and his
acceptance of yours.
This is not the guy that can’t look up past your chest as you talk
This is the man that can open up to you as an equal, can accept that
you have ideas of your own. He is comfortable in conversations that
Drop him like a rock if he’s a complainer, a “momma’s boy” or shows
signs of a controlling personality.
How do you find and
attract these catchable and keepable men?
They are all
around you. Often they are overshadowed by loud-mouthed jerk
friends. Separating this type of man from his “pack” so you can
attract him can usually be accomplished by a simple short smile his
way which invites him to talk with you.
The “catchable man” can be met singly in
grocery stores, malls, night school classes: wherever men are not a
part of a pack. Bars and clubs are not the ideal places to meet the
“right man” because the environment does not often lend itself to
intellectual attraction but rather the reverse: the man’s caveman
Libraries, museums, art shows, hobby stores,
heck, you can even spot guys in Home Depot and Sears that are
single. And active in their life.
not slutty. Keep your hem stylish, your pant leg in season and
your thong in your dresser drawer. You’ll have time enough for sexy
dressing once you’ve been dating for a while. This shows your caught
man that you dress sexy “for him” not for the world.
When a girl shows her thong, Marriage is usually wrong.
When a girl first shows her smarts, She often has all the
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