A lot of women end up in a "Friends with benefits" relationship
because it's just so simple to have someone make love to you, and
not get deeply involved in your life.
The guy isn't expected to stay round, make up relationship rules...
it's just sex.
The problem with this arrangement, however, is that you really
cannot separate sexual intimacy from relationship intimacy. You
might think you can, and maybe in the early stages of a FWB
relationship it does work that way, but eventually the two
intimacies (sexual and relationship) come together.
And you, the woman, realize how much you have started to depend on
this guy for more than just sex.
But, you do understand that as long as you remain FWB there is no
relationship to be created outside of your sexual encounters with
this guy, even that now you are falling for him and expecting more
of him as becoming a boyfriend.
Maybe you start trying to push him into taking you on a real date,
or you start to have "relationship" talks in an attempt to find out
if he does like you more than just being a friend with benefits.
Often the girl and guy do have friends in common, they share group
activities, and the FWB relationship is in the open.
This adds complexity to changing the relationship from FWB to
boyfriend and girlfriend.
There are three rules you need to follow to turn your friend's with
benefits sex partner into your boyfriend.
1. Become unavailable for sex. Let him discover that he does like
you more than just as a sex partner. Continue to be included in the
group activities that include him, but don't get cornered at the end
of the night to be with him.
2. Open up communication. You need to tell him that you've gone from
being his "friend" to becoming someone that really cares for him.
Often this additional piece of information will seem to come from
left field for the guy, but after consideration he will realize that
he is really starting to want a more committed relationship with you
3. Don't give in. You've already given up that "mystery of sex" by
being with him. In step three you've ended the sexual intimacy
unless there is relationship intimacy too. This is where he decides
if he does want to really date you or if he's just wasting time with
you, and really looking for another girl. If this is the fact, then
he isn't, and never was, relationship material.
Having sexual freedom is a statement that is a total lie. And you've
been swallowed whole by this lie. There is only one way to get past
the fact that you can have freedom in a relationship without being
held back by someone else's rules.
And that is learning what is truly most important in your life when
it comes to relationships.
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