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How is it
possible that the most important aspects of attracting a woman is something
that most men know nothing about?
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Advice Of The Week ***
Here's an interesting thought:
Ask 100 attractive women if they know what the words "Chemistry" and "Sexual
Tension" mean, they'll all nod their heads and say "Of course!".
Ask 100 guys off the street if they know what the words "Chemistry" and
"Sexual Tension" mean, and about 98 of them will give you a dumb look and
say "Uh, not really". A few will probably say things like "Um, is Sexual
Tension like when you and a chick are having sex in a weird position and you
get a cramp?".
The reality of this situation is that most attractive women know exactly
what "Chemistry" and "Sexual Tension" are and they can describe them in
detail but most men have literally no idea, they're completely clueless.
Think about that.
I'm talking about an incredible phenomenon here:
How is it possible that the most important aspects of attracting a woman is
something that most men know nothing about? And how is it that almost ALL
attractive are totally "in the know" about this stuff? Is there some kind of
strange conspiracy against men?
Are women keeping a secret from us guys just so we won't be able to break
the code?
Maybe.
I mean, think about it:
If you were an attractive woman, would you want to find a guy that you had
to teach the concepts of "Chemistry" and "Sexual Tension" to, or would you
want a guy who just "got it" on his own... "naturally"?
It's a no-brainer. The women want the guy who already "got it".
So more likely than a conspiracy against clueless men, women just naturally
respond to men who get it, and don't respond to men who don't.
So let's talk
about these concepts a little bit more. When a woman uses the word
"Chemistry", as in "There was chemistry between us" or "I want to meet a man
and have natural chemistry", she's talking about attraction.
Chemistry is about a woman perceiving that she and a guy are "naturally
compatible" because her emotional and physical sparks fly when she meets or
is around that guy.
I did not use the word "logical" here.
Chemistry is not the result of a woman meeting a man and then thinking to
herself "Let's see... he is six feet tall, has a good job making 37% more
than the medial salary, is the correct age for child rearing... I think that
we have a natural chemistry...".
No way. For a woman, Chemistry is either instantly apparent, or it isn't.
There's no two ways about it.
Unfortunately, most guys hear the word "Chemistry" and they think it somehow
equates to "The guy must be good-looking so the girl thinks he's sexy... and
since I'm not the most handsome guy alive, women won't feel it with me".
This is only because most guys don't get that you can make a woman feel
attraction for you no matter your looks, age, income, height, or anything
else.
So let me repeat:
"Chemistry is about a woman perceiving that she and a guy are "naturally
compatible" because her emotional and physical sparks fly when she meets or
is around that guy."
Now let's talk about Sexual Tension. Sexual Tension is about the interaction
following attraction.
It's that feeling you get when you're in the presence of someone you're
attracted to, but there are obstacles, anticipation, humor, and/or other
ingredients in the mix that both increase the attraction, and increase the
tension in the situation. Sexual Tension is the combination of being pulled
toward someone, but also feeling resistance at the same time.
It's about not knowing what's going to happen, but being on the edge of your
seat wanting to know what's going to happen.
Think of it this way:
If a woman knows that she has you right from the beginning, she won't be as
interested. This is why so many guys kill their chances with a girl
instantly by going overboard and doing too many things to demonstrate his
interest. But if she doesn't know whether or not you're interested, and you
keep the mystery up, while making her more and more interested, she will
think about you all the time.
This is creating Chemistry, and increasing the Sexual Tension.
Will a woman feel more attraction for a guy who always talks to her when he
sees her, always calls her, and is always available?
No.
She'll feel more attraction if he's more mysterious, challenging, and
unpredictable. Remember, Sexual Tension is good for attraction, not bad for
it.
So let's talk about some great ways to create Sexual Tension:
Methods that will naturally lead to that magical feeling of chemistry. Here
are a few of my favorite ways to create and amplify Sexual Tension:
Be Cocky and Funny
Being Cocky & Funny, or using Cocky Comedy, is a fun, interesting, enjoyable
way to create and amplify Sexual Tension.
The formula is:
Start with an arrogant thought, then add humor to complete. If you're
standing in line waiting for your coffee, and you notice an attractive woman
behind the counter, you could say "Hurry up, you're not working fast enough"
in a serious tone of voice. That's arrogant. It's cocky. But it's not at all
funny. You'd sound like a jerk-off if you said that in a cold way.
If instead you said "Hey, since you like me and this line is always long,
how about if I just walk to the front from now on and you give me free
coffee?"... Now that's a whole different story.
If that same girl behind the counter goes to take your money, and drops it,
you could say "You're a klutz, watch what you're doing". If you did, you'd
sound rude and stupid.
On the other hand, if you start shaking your head, roll your eyes, and
breath out through your nose loudly in a dramatic way like you're completely
annoyed with her (in a funny way), you're going to make her laugh.
Good thing.
These are examples of being Cocky & Funny, or using Cocky Comedy.
Wait To Call Her
What do most guys do when they get a girl's number or email address? Right,
they call or write three minutes later. "Hi, it was great meeting you a few
minutes ago... so, what are you doing?" Stupid move.
Calling or writing a woman immediately is one good way to destroy any
anticipation or Sexual Tension that was present in the moment.
On the other hand, if you call up two days later and say "Hey, what up? I'm
busy tonight, and tomorrow, but let's do something on Friday. Here's my
number, call me, I gotta go" that's a totally different type of
communication. By day two, she's already wondering why you haven't called,
wondering if you're getting back together with your ex- that she's imagining
being a model, and generally beginning to wonder if and when you're going to
call.
Waiting builds tension. Do it. And do it after the first call as well. Learn
to become comfortable not knowing what's going on and waiting to find out.
It's much better.
Two Steps Forward One Step Back
This is the ultimate formula for increasing a woman's anticipation, arousal,
and interest in you. Moving two steps forward, and one step back takes
Sexual Tension, and it dials it up.
The idea is simple:
Every time you make "progress" in a romantic way with a woman, stop. Then
lean back. For instance, if you have been talking to her, and you start
holding hands, after a few minutes, take your hand back. Then lean back
physically, and move away from her for a little while. If you wind up
kissing a little while later, stop kissing her, and lean back again.
Get it?
Women don't get turned on quite the same way men do. Men are on/off
switches. Women are volume knobs that need to be turned up gradually. If you
show some self-control, make her feel good, and then go two forward, one
back you will give a woman an experience she'll really enjoy, and won't
forget.
Tease Her
Women can't resist teasing when it's done in the right way. Some people
think of teasing as "making fun of".
Now I do love to make fun of women, but I'm talking about a different type
of teasing right now. I'm talking about the type of teasing where you give
someone a little bit of what they want, then take it away so they want it
more. I'm talking about leaning in to kiss a woman, then stopping right
before you kiss her, so she can feel your lips just about to touch hers, and
then staying there for just a moment, and then leaning back.
You're teasing her. You know that she wants you to kiss her, but you're not
kissing her. You're in control, and she loves it, hates it, and wants it.
Teasing increases Sexual Tension rapidly. You can tease in many ways:
Next time you're buying something, when the girl behind the counter reaches
out to take your money, put it in her hand, then quickly take it away as she
grabs it.
That's teasing. It's fun, and you can use it almost everywhere for the
enjoyment of both you and her...
Another Real World Example
Let's say you and a woman are out together, and you're enjoying your
evening. She decides to throw out one of those types of questions that
you're not expecting, but that seem designed to throw you off:
She asks the question "Do you think we'll ever have sex?" Now, most men will
answer "I hope so" or "Why, do you want to?"
Sexual
Tension killed. She asks "Do you think we'll ever have sex?".
You answer "Only in your dreams, and calm down, just because I'm out with
you doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with you". This is Sexual Tension
amplified.
When she asked the question, she was testing you. She wanted to know if you
were going to bite down on the bait. She was finding out if you were really
as in control as it seemed. You either pass or fail those type of questions.
The more you
watch for, listen for, and pay attention to Sexual Tension, the more you'll
begin to notice it. And the more you notice it, the more you can start to
control it, amplify it, and direct it.
A Favorite Way To Create Chemistry and Sexual Tension
I'm going to share a fantastic technique with you right now, so turn on your
thinking cap, and remember this one. This is a great way to let a woman know
that you understand Sexual Tension and Chemistry, while at the same time
creating them.
Let's use a real-world situation:
Maybe you had responded to a few online personals, and some women have
written you back. And lets say that one of the women said "tell me more
about yourself", etc. Let's further say that in her online personal profile
she mentioned that she loved cats.
You might write her back, and say:
"Here's a little more about me, I'm sitting on my favorite chair, reading a
magazine. You walk into the room, and the air shifts, you slowly and
carefully walk up to where I'm sitting, and rub up against my leg. I look
down at you, and you look back at me. "Meow", you say. I reach down, and
gently stroke your head, and you go running away like a typical kitty cat."
If you are acting like a man, being Cocky & Funny, communicating that you're
in control of yourself and the situation, etc., something like this can be
magical.
A story like this one communicates so many things at once, things that would
take you literally weeks of "regular" communication to convey to her. A
little story like this one, at just the right time can create so much Sexual
Tension, and spark the Chemistry so fast that you'll often instantly take
things to a different level with a woman. Now, there's a very important
factor that you must understand:
You cannot do this, create a little story like this, and try to use this way
of talking to a woman if you're acting like a wussy.
This can only
be used in the context of you having communicated that you're a man. And a
man that understands attraction at that. If you try to do this kind of thing
before you've communicated that you're a masculine, powerful guy, you're
only going to make a woman run away.
So now that
you understand Chemistry and Sexual Tension and finally had someone explain
these amazing concepts to you, what's the best way to learn the other keys
to making women feel attraction for you?
Now,
there are all kinds of places like this where you can skip the "approaching
women" step, and just move right into the Cocky & Funny or getting numbers.
Put your mind to it, and do a little thinking. Look around. Opportunities
like this are everywhere.
Because I really feel that the "natural hesitation" that most men experience
around women is rooted in not understanding the situation very well. Once
you really understand how and why women feel that emotion called attraction
for some men, and not for others... and you understand all the little things
that trigger it... you'll start to feel differently. The understanding will
give you a "different perspective", and it will not only change the way you
see situations with women, but it will also change how you feel in those
situations.
...and if you're reading this right now and you haven't taken the time to
download your copy of my online ebook Double Your Dating, then you need to
do that now. It's the foundation of everything I teach in these newsletters,
and it will help make sense of all the different things discussed here...
For
more specific techniques and step-by-step systems for becoming all of these
things that I've mentioned above, including "overcoming shyness around
women", then I recommend that
you check out my online eBook.
My eBook "Double Your Dating" comes with three free bonus reports. One of
these reports is called "Sex Secrets", and it teaches you how to take things
from one step to the next when it comes to "getting physical" with a woman.
If you do these things, you will instantly make a woman realize and remember
that you are a sexy man. I absolutely guarantee it.
You can read some great free samples, and download it here right now:
www.doubleyourdating.com
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy. This book and the
three bonus ebooks that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women.
Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have
read the book.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
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