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Start A Great Conversation!

Starting great conversations is easy when you know what people are interested in hearing... and believe me, it isn't about the hard day you had at work or the jerk that cut you off on the drive home from work!

Wall flowerSo what do people want to hear about that starts an interesting conversation?

First off, let's start with things you shouldn't say:

  • Anything that starts with a "Did you know...", this is either elitist or talking down to someone, so don't do it.
  • Anything that needs a specialist or Ph.D. to understand, unless this is your audience, of course.
  • Anything that needs to be explained more than once... see above.
  • If it needs balls or boobies to understand you better know your audience.
  • I could go on but I'm sure you see my points, but I'll repeat it for you just in case, know your audience.

Now then, what makes conversations memorable, funny, repeatable and listen worthy is just a varied field, a tough conversation subject on it's own, I shall say.

But this doesn't mean I'm going to wussy out of an answer for you, actually I'm going to give you many conversation pointers, just don't rush me, OK?

Once you have identified your audience, and this does not matter if you know the person/people or not, once you have a grip on what they DO then you also have a good guess on what they like to HEAR.

So move closer and listen... what IS being discussed? What is the conversation of the moment?

If I talk about fish, do you talk about bears? Bears eat fish, don't they?

Or were they talking about fish that are in aquariums? Do you understand how important it is to be a good listener before you become a good conversationalist?

Yes, I'm sure you do.

So here we go... the best conversation starter tips for you:

  • Is that your favorite (drink, food, shirt, place, car, etc.)?
  • What do you think happens after this?
  • What brought you here tonight?
  • That is a really nice (ring, shirt, suit, dress, etc.), where did you find it?
  • What else do you do in your free time?

Remember, keep your questions open ended, not a question that will be answered with a simple yes or no answer.

Don't ever start with a negative question or sentence... no one wants to hear "I think the decor here is awful" and that might just get around to who invited you, or who runs the place... keep a civil tongue.

And always LISTEN to your audience... some of the best conversationalists have always been better listeners than talkers!



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