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How To Cure Your Fear Of Women

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The REAL problem, though, is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they'd like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they've become nervous, insecure, and upset.

I'm sure you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren't exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren't useful at all for what we'd like to accomplish.

Here's something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women... I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that I was really thinking "I don't want to screw this up" and "I don't want her to think that I'm a dork"...

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:
IT DOESN'T MATTER.

It doesn't matter what happens, and it doesn't matter what she thinks of me. I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality. So I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn't happening because there was any kind of danger... and that my objective in a particular situation wasn't to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing something because it's important vs. doing something to LEARN.

So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet, instead of thinking "OK, I have to say something charming and original so she'll like me... and if I screw up I'm going to be embarrassed" I began to think things like "I'm going to learn how to get a woman's phone number within a few minutes of meeting her... and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren't going to work... but in the end, it's all going to even out because I'm going to have the SKILL that I want."

See the difference? Well, let me tell you, that attitude change made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up...

All because I had the attitude of "I'm going to learn something from this and improve my skills... and it doesn't matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation" I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women... from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:
Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman. I don't care if she's attractive or not. But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING. In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can't date any of the women that you meet that day. See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say "Hi" to every woman that walks by... how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away... and how to end a conversation "too soon", so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself...

That's one good idea for dealing with your fears.

If you'd like to read more of my personal secrets for overcoming fear, including specific mental exercises and physical drills, then I'd recommend that you download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating". It's full of all my very best thinking on this and many other subjects about success with women.

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