What prevents men from being successful with women?
Well, the list goes on and on... but one of the elements that TOPS the list is FEAR. There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I'd like to talk about some of the most common ones... and what to do about them.
First of all, I'd like you to be honest for a moment about this topic. Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?
Have you ever seen a woman that you'd really like to meet, but you started to feel fear, and didn't do anything about it?
Or maybe you were on a date, and you wanted to kiss a woman... but you felt
too afraid because you didn't want to make a mistake and screw up your
Or maybe you even got a woman's phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn't know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?
Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman's number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her...?
Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best...?
Me too. Many time, in fact.
By the way, it's not exactly FUN to admit that you're afraid of things.
I'm sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women. Of course, this only makes matters worse...
If you don't admit that you have the problem, then it's hard to get help and answers to it. Well, the good news is that you're not alone. Almost every guy I've known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.
So STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you're afraid. Just admit that you're afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you're human... STEP 2 is to admit that you'd like to get this particular thing handled. STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Once you realize that it's not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you'll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women... which, of course, won't lead to any REAL improvement.
I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to
situations with women is:
PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.
To put it in different words, most guys don't take action because they're afraid that they'll screw up or that the woman (or others around them) will judge them to be stupid.
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