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Dating After Divorce - Your Guide To Quickly Getting Back Into "The Dating Game" After A Divorce Or Breakup By Ken Kennedy
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This article: Getting back into the dating scene and making your first date successful, despite your nervousness.

It doesn't take a genius to figure out it's probably been a good long while since you had a date.


Look, the simple fact is that you're rusty because you've been out of the game for a long time, and you're going to completely HUMILIATE yourself on your first date or two unless you get some help.

Sound extreme?

OK, OK... let me re-phrase that:
"Your chances of making a woman feel that feeling of ATTRACTION for you on your first date are very low...
unless you get your head on straight, which I'm about to show you how to do."

Is that better?


Listen, getting back into the dating scene after not meeting or being with a woman other than your ex for God-knows- how-long is HARD and PAINFUL... and nowhere is this more true than on your VERY FIRST DATE.

I remember when I got back into the dating world, my first couple of dates were DISASTERS.

I remember feeling like I pretending to be someone I wasn't... and I was afraid that eventually she'd figure this out and also figure out that I had no clue what I was doing...
excuse herself to use the little girl's room, and never return....
leaving me with the check - and a bottle of red wine to finish all by myself.

It never turned out to be quite THAT bad, but I do remember driving home after those first few dates and feeling like I just had the wind knocked out of me.

I felt disappointed. I had wanted the evening to go well and add some excitement to my life... but all I felt was sad and alone.

In fact, I felt MORE sad and alone after those uncomfortable first few dates than I did BEFORE them.

It's embarrassing to admit, but I guess I felt sort of hopeless.

If this was dating, I didn't want any part of it.

Then of course, things would get WORSE:
The next time I saw an attractive woman, the first thought in my head would be "Why even bother trying to talk to her? She'd probably just reject me like the other one."

So I started putting a shell around myself so I wouldn't feel like such an idiot again.

Weeks passed... I'd begin to get a little bit of my confidence back, and I'd start to pursue a woman I really liked... but because I was SO out of practice by this point, I'd fail miserably... and EMBARRASS myself in the process.

Which put me right back in my shell again, etc, etc.

Can you see now why so many guys get stuck in an endless cycle of failure after a divorce or break-up?

I don't want this to happen to you. In fact, the whole reason I'm "talking" to you right now is to make sure it doesn't.

Whether you already had your first date and it turned out to be a complete fiasco, or you haven't yet and you want to be sure it goes extremely well, I've got what you need to know.

In a moment I'm going to share with you a CRITICAL tip that'll give you the power to impress ANY woman you go on a date with.

But before I do, I need to share with you a couple of important concepts that'll help you get 300% more out of the strategy I'll share with you in a bit.


Most guys who haven't dated in a while indulge in the naive assumption that dating is easy these days and that everything will go just fine without any mental preparation on their part.

Yeah, right.

Then they get fed to the lions, and limp home with their tail between their legs.

But I know YOU are different.

You know how I know?

Because you're reading this right now, which means you're looking for information on how to improve your situation.

You understand it takes preparation, and that there's stuff to learn that will give you a MUCH better shot at success.


Let me ask you a question -

If you had a date TONIGHT with an incredibly attractive and downright SEXY woman, would you be ready?

Would you think, "Alright! Bring her on!"?

Or would you feel at least a twinge of nervousness, and have just a sliver of doubt that you may not be able to pull it off?

Again, the fact is that you're looking for info - that's why you're still reading this - means that you realize you're not 100% ready... and you need some additional strategies or ideas.

So let's get into the meat and potatoes, shall we?


The bad news is that women are like 9 times better than men at figuring out the emotional state of the person they're talking to.

What's so bad about this, you ask?

Well, for the guy who's getting back into the game after a long hiatus - that's YOU - if mentally you don't have your game plan all sorted out, you have doubts, and you're feeling like it's the first game of the season and you haven't practiced all summer long... she's going to know.

In other words, if you're feeling insecure - she's going to know.

If you're nervous, she going to know.

And if you can't stop thinking about what her breasts look like under that silky blouse of hers... she's going to know.

You need to get your head on straight - and it's more than just calming your nerves and not thinking about sex for 2 1/2 hours. (Is that even possible???)


When you meet a woman face to face, she magically forgets about all your previous charm and personality.

You may have gotten her number by luck, you may have impressed her on the phone because you have a natural knack for it... but when you meet up face to face it's like starting COMPLETELY OVER.

None of what you said to her before matters.

All her previous feelings toward you instantly disappear the moment you start talking to her on the date.

You're starting over from scratch.

And at the end of the night, she decides whether she'd like to see you again... or if she's going to go home with you...

... or if she's going to vanish from your life forever.

So, yes, the first date really is that important.


Most guys are so worked up about how they are going to "perform" on a date that they look at things from exactly the WRONG perspective.

They worry about their receding hairline, their growing waistline, their conversation skills, difficult questions about their ex that she may ask, etc.

The question is... why?

Why do guys freak out and act unnatural and stilted and nervous when they're with a woman?

Here's my 2 cents on the subject:
How we feel in any situation is caused by our thoughts... in other words, our MINDSET.

So if we're feeling nervous, there's something about our mindset that's causing it.

What's the mindset of the typical guy on a date for the first time in years?

Here it is in a nutshell:
"I need to somehow impress her with who I am so that she'll want to see me again."

It's this mindset of wanting to IMPRESS her and get her to LIKE YOU that's the cause of the problem.

Women HATE IT when a guy they're with tries to impress them.

It's the opposite of being "cool and confident,"
and it's a huge turn-off.

A lot of guys try to impress a woman by talking about themselves a LITTLE too much.

They'll throw in the occasional comment about the expensive car they drive, or the expensive trip they took, or the famous person they've met.

But do you know what a woman thinks
when she hears you heading in this direction?

"Why is he trying to impress me so much?
He must be either insecure or just really materialistic. Or both. What a bummer - I thought he was cooler."

So when you say - "I got in an accident and my BMW is in the shop."

She hears - "My car is the most important thing in my life. I have no room for you."

When you say - "A friend of mine knows (insert here the name of some famous celebrity)."

She hears - "I'm so insecure that I get my self-worth from the people my friends know. I'm pathetic."

When you say - "I'm working on a real big project at work."

She hears - "I'm narcissistic and don't give a rat's ass about the big project YOU are working on. I'm all about me."

As you can see, women analyze everything to death.

Yes, it's a royal pain in the ass.

And yes, you have to deal with it.

Listen, I know it's tempting to let her know about the great things you've accomplished.

But if you do, she'll she you as just another loser like 99% of the other guys she's dated in her life.

Bragging doesn't help you build ATTRACTION.

It FEELS like it should, but it doesn't.

Trust me on this one...

Same goes for trying to impress a woman by being extra "nice.

Sure, be a gentleman - open doors for her, pull out chairs, etc. - but when you barrage her with compliments, put yourself down in an attempt to be humble, and agree with everything she says, you KILL ATTRACTION.

You BORE her - and you can't bore a woman and make her feel attraction for you at the same time.

Plus, tripping over yourself to be nice communicates that you've put her up on a pedestal, which gives her all the power and makes you lose "status" in her mind.

Again - deadly for attraction.

A woman wants a man who will make her feel different, make her feel something out of the ordinary, something exciting.

When you try to impress a woman, you do the opposite - because you're doing exactly the same thing that every other guy tries on her.

Think about it.

But... what would happen if you STOPPED putting pressure on yourself to "impress" a woman, and instead you saw her as just one woman in a long line of many more to come into your life?

What if you saw the next 10 women you meet as nothing more than "practice material" for you to work out the kinks in your game?

What if you saw the next 10 women you meet as part of your "learning curve" that every guy has to go through after a long relationship ends? And that it doesn't matter how it goes with any of them so long as you pay attention and LEARN?

If you feel nervous, it's because you're coming from the place of wanting to do things "right"

When you let go of the need to impress her, you'll feel much more relaxed and you'll enjoy yourself more. That's when you'll make the impression you're looking for without even trying.


Try this attitude on for yourself - put don't put pressure on yourself to get even this "right."

If you do, you'll put yourself right back in the same mental trap as before.

If you still get nervous and slip back into "trying to impress her" mode, no worries - just catch yourself, take a deep breath, and re-focus on sincerely enjoying the evening without concern about impressing her.

And if you're reading this right now and you're saying to yourself, "Man, I'd love to have first dates where I'm relaxed and confident and I don't have to worry about what she's thinking of me," then you really need to take a look at my eBook "Dating After Divorce."

It's the most comprehensive book available with this single, lazer-like purpose:

To teach men who are coming out of a divorce or long term break-up how to regain their confidence, start meeting women again, and enjoy a level of success with dating that they've never experienced before.

Whether you've been single 3 days or 3 years, this book will give you an in-depth education on how trigger a gut-level feeling of ATTRACTION deep inside almost any woman, and take your "game" to a whole new level.

To get all the details... and learn a simple move that will drive a woman CRAZY anticipating your kiss...
just go here and watch this video

To your success with women,
Ken Kennedy

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