Dating After Divorce: How To Get
Over Your Ex-Wife
Your Guide To Quickly Getting Back Into "The Dating Game" After A Divorce Or
Breakup
By Ken Kennedy
www.Double Your Dating.com
Do you wish you could let go of
the past and free yourself from the emotional ties you still have with your
ex? If you want to make a clean break, move past your divorce, and feel
clear and confident again read on.
Ken Kennedy:
We've all heard the joke about the guy who leaves his 40 year old wife.. and
"trades her in" for two women in their 20's.
This ideal has become so common in our culture that many of us guys have
bought into it. It seems innocent enough - but what happens when our reality
doesn't match up?
What happens when instead of us doing the DUMPING, we're the one who gets
DUMPED? And the woman you loved and hoped you would spend the rest of your
life with instead carves your heart right out of your chest?
What happens to this ideal then?
Read on and you'll discover one of the most important secrets in existence
on the topic of getting over your ex-wife.
BEING "MACHO" IS OUR DOWNFALL
Not to be negative or anything, but the more experience I get the more I
realize how tough us guys have it.
And you know what the toughest part about being a man is?
We're never allowed to share just how TOUGH it really can be. We can't even
TALK about it.
Seriously, if you've got testosterone pumping through your veins, you come
naturally hardwired with the urge to RESIST letting people know you're
having a hard time with things.
We can't even ask for damn directions when we're driving through a new city
- that's how bad we have it.
THEN COMES DIVORCE
Then this little thing called "divorce" enters our lives. Most men try not
to look like it doesn't effect them, but it pretty much turns all of our
lives upside down.
Now, when WOMEN get divorced, they're allowed to spend time crying, getting
consoled by friends, and taking plenty of time to grieve, re-assess, and
move on with their lives.
But us GUYS, oh NO we get stuck with this macho ideal of "trading in the 40
for two 20's."
Where the hell does that leave us when we're not exactly in the right
"mental space" to be thinking about hooking up with two 20 year old little
vixens and even if it's something we THINK ABOUT, we're just not CAPABLE of
putting ourselves out there yet and making it happen.
So what do most guys do?
Yep, that's right - we go and make it HARDER ON OURSELVES by thinking that
we "should" be having an easier time with divorce;
that we "should" have already gotten over it;
and that we "should" be out there dating those damn 20 year olds.
Now, the great thing about being hard on ourselves is that it moves us
closer to what we want, heals our wounds, and helps us get a fresh start on
life.
Yeah right.
Being hard on ourselves helps in NO WAY WHATSOEVER. It only makes things
HARDER. So why the hell do we do it?
It's
because we've been PROGRAMMED this way. "Suck it up, man... and if you can'
suck it up, you're a wimp!"
Now THERE'S some real constructive thinking.
But even if you can SEE that beating yourself up doesn't help you, it's
another thing entirely to get yourself to STOP DOING it.
Like I said, we've been PROGRAMMED as men to think this way.. and realizing
this doesn't make it magically go away all by itself.
It takes time and it takes practice.
But it's well worth it.
Seriously.
If you want to free yourself from the emotional baggage that comes when the
woman you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with breaks your heart,
you need to stop judging yourself and putting pressure on yourself and
buying into the garbage that says you shouldn't have a problem with divorce
because you're a guy.
Don't be so damn hard on yourself.
Recognize that this is unhealthy programming that almost all guys buy into,
and give yourself some time to get over your divorce on your own schedule.
Research shows that many people take about a year after divorce to get out
of negative thought patterns, and more time after that to really synthesize
all their learnings about the divorce process and take their lives to a
level that's even higher than were it was BEFORE their divorce.
That's right it's possible to have your best life ever AFTER your divorce.
It may not feel like it now, but it IS possible - especially if you hang in
there and make a focused effort to learn everything you can about the
process you're going through.
And when the time is right, there's OTHER PROGRAMMING that's you'd be wise
to get over, too.
For one, when you're ready to meet more women than you ever have in your
entire life, it'll be helpful for you to get over the programming that says
there's something "wrong" with approaching women in public places like book
shops, grocery stores, airports, etc.
And when you're ready to cause a woman to feel a deep, gut-level attraction
for you, it'll be helpful for you to get over the programming that says you
need to be "nice" and "polite" and basically give all your power away in
order to win a woman over.
And when you're ready to learn how to take things to a physical level with
almost any woman in a smooth, natural way, it'll be helpful for you to get
over the programming that says you have to wait a certain amount of time
before escalating things.. and that says good girls take a long time to
"give it up"... and that says there's something wrong with seduction and
giving women intense physical pleasure.
So there's the path that's in front of you - recover emotionally from your
divorce, learn the lessons, and come back stronger than ever.
If you want, you can try to do this all by yourself. You might be one of
those "I learn by trial and error damn it!" kind of guys.
If that's you, I respect your independent attitude and wish you the best of
luck.
Now, let's move into a happier area:
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To your success with women,
Ken Kennedy
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