Carlos Xuma of
Dating Dynamics author of 'The
Dating Black Book'
Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you
want to know how to counter her tests and games?
Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them
on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret
a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?
Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally
get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results?
It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll
"Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point
never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe
they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing.
It doesn't have to be anymore.
THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from
preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete
strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior
and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most
importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.
Click here!
QUESTION:
Hi
I am a recent subscriber of your E Book, Really Interesting and Useful
and also give me confidence and Positive thinking, Thanks a lot...
I am a Clerk in an independent Convenient store in Fl and I have a lot
of Chances to meet girls in the stores until now I've been a very nice
person thinking that that will attract them and I can find someone
good, but It lead me to Disappointment and I am tired of trying that I
have Implemented your Advise and working on which is Really working ,
But I don't have the proper words or Ideas to Flirt with them. Everyone
comes to the C store are good and I have a good chance to meet and I
don't wanna loose it, Please give me some Ideas , suggestions to flirt
and how to talk to them.
And also I am New to this Country and State and Culture So kindly give
me your valuable advise.
S from FL
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Here's what you do:
Sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. (Or do this on your
computer, if you want to feel "high-tech").
Take 5 minutes to list all the situations you find yourself in with a
woman on the job.
Examples:
1) Buying a coffee
2) Buying gas
3) Using the restroom
Etc.
Now what could you say in each situation that would be "flirtatious"?
(Or, as I preach, teasing...)
1) Coffee: "Hey, you know I heard that drinking too much coffee in the
morning could make you drive too fast. Do I need to alert the highway
patrol?"
2) Gas: "Are you the one driving the Ferrari? The Porsche? The
Lamborghini? What? You don't have an expensive sports car that breaks
down every 10 miles? I'm afraid I can't serve you." With a smile.
3) Restroom: "Watch out for the monkey," you say as you hand her the
key. She'll either look at you weird or say "huh?" You say, "Yeah,
just ignore my pet monkey. I keep him in there to keep the bathrooms
clean, but he usually just sits in there and reads comic books." (If
she doesn't laugh, pause quietly and say, "I was kidding. Lighten
up.") With a smirk.
I just made those up in a couple minutes. Freebies.
Also, watch a little of the trashy television programming we have here
in this country. I don't usually recommend this, but since you're new
here, it will allow you to pick up on the quirks and humor in our
culture. Consider it a graduate class in American pop culture.
Pick up a few of the magazines on the shelf there and use the
headlines as flirt tools. "Do you think Ben Affleck should just drown
Jennifer Lopez and get it over with? Aren't you tired of hearing about
them all the time?"
Now you do the work you need to and memorize them, and invent at least
a few of your own. Try them. If they work, keep 'em. If they don't,
chuck 'em. Your words will always work better when you're not afraid
to use them in a way to get her attention and to attract her.
Trial and error, and you'll get to the goal.
But do the work you must to get there.
Click here!
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QUESTION:
I may have gotten your ebooks too late, I have already made some
mistakes. I have an emotional investment (I know, mistake, I got the
ebooks too late!) with this girl I met online back in december and
we've been on 4 dates now recently, the past 4 weekends. But I am
fearing becoming a "best friend."
She was doing the "I think it was meant to be that our paths have
crossed" thing but things aren't moving along during dates, physical
contact has been limited to minor hand holding a just hugs. I think
she's starting to see me as her best friend, and I have no interest in
this. I need to somehow send her the message that I'm not interested
in being friends, I only want a relationship.
I think I'm going to take a significant risk soon and do the first
kiss thing, I think that's the only way I can send this message of I
don't want to be best friends, do you agree? Can you think of another
approach or test?
I am having a very
difficult time being "funny" for her. She has a typical female "silly"
type sense of humor that is politically correct and doesn't cut
someone down. I'm a corporate america type humor guy, which is male
dominated and completely based on cutting people down, ripping on
other people, and humor at the expense of others.
I know from your audio coaching and just common sense so I bite my lip
anytime I think of something funny to say because its always a "slam"
joke and girls hate that. The net result is that I'm not funny for
her, the silly thing doesn't come naturally for me but I can learn
quickly. Are there some books you could recommend for me that have
tips or can advise me on how to be "clean/silly' funny for girls?
Thank you for any of your suggestions in advance.
-R
My reply:
First of all, it's NEVER too late. It's only too late if you never
LEARNED anything from the books.
"Too late" thinking is scarcity thinking. And I'll caution you the way
I would any other guy - don't place too much importance on ONE woman.
It's distorted thinking, and it perpetuates the belief that there are
only so many women in the world you'd be able to be with. There are
MANY, and that will open up for you now that you have the e-books.
I think you're right that you didn't amp up the charge between you two
at the start. You're in danger of becoming terminal "friends."
If she's talking romantically, but not taking any action or there's a
lack of fire and heat, this is usually the case.
If you haven't done so, you need to start increasing the charge
between you right away. Start with some nice teasing and joking with
her. Get her out someplace fun and non-standard. (Drop the dinner and
flowers thing if you've even gone there.)
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