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Carlos Xuma Says... Know When To Dump Her Ass Pick-up advice for men by Carlos Xuma based on 'The Dating Black Book'

Do you know about the RULES for women? Do you want to know how to counter her tests and games? Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them on to you?

Continue reading and you will.


There is this girl who is two years younger then me and is a blonde bombshell. For two weeks she was feeling the vibes I was giving off we were really flirty and everything seemed fun. I started sorting out my priorities and started to think that this girl could be a worthy girl of dating.

See my situation is I am getting alot of attention from girls my $e*x life is great and I can't complain. But I am sick of random hook ups I am ready to set my cast out and reel a girl in. I have had many girls I just have never really had a real girlfriend for more then 5 weeks. It just never seems to work out.

Anyways this girl was definitely into me and I knew that she was a hard to get gal so i played it cool. well this last weekend her and I hooked up (no $e*x just alittle four play) it was alittle unclassy the way things worked out but it was still fun.

Now this week she is telling her friends that she doesn't know about the whole thing and about me. now I want to continue hooking up with her b/c she is cool and all but these games are annoying. My plan was to tell her that she can play games with the other guys that obsesses over her but I am not one of those guys and you can't do that to me.

I am going to say that if knew all of this was going to happen that i wouldn't have hooked up with her in the first place. I really don't know if those are some of the right things to say. My plan is to come off angry, but not too angry - to show her that I am better then that, and then make her feel guilty or make her realize what she could have but might be out of her reach.

What do you suggest?


So your love life is great and you're sick of it?

Oh, dude. We're all playing the world's smallest violin for you out here...

You want to cast a line out and reel a girl in, but isn't that what you've been doing?

What you're really saying is that the women you've been meeting aren't what you want for something long term. And that's going to be the case for a while, I may add.

But consider this. You think that to get a woman that you will stick with for the long term, you need to do something different than what you're already doing, and that's a BIG mistake.

You are already doing what you need to so that you can "reel" in a girl for dating. Only now, you may have to be a little more choosier. Maybe you can't keep them around for as long, but it's accomplishing the same task.

You're screening for the right chick to make you happy.

And of course that girl is telling her friends that. She's immature and scared that you'll be talking about her and telling everyone she's a s-l-u-t. It's not a "game," it's a survival mechanism.

Instead of TELLING her something with words, you should be telling her with your actions. Your words are contradicting your attitude. If you really felt this way, why wouldn't you just WALK right NOW?

There's a saying: "What you are speaks so loudly I can't hear you."

Now, I'm going to warn you of another danger I see in what you're saying. You're planning out this elaborate scenario of how to make her feel a certain way, but you're neglecting the obvious.

Think about it for a second...

Still not coming to you?

Here, let me help.

You said that "if you knew all this, you'd never have gotten involved with her." And yet, now that you DO know, you are still going forward.

You say that you want to hang with her because she is cool, but you want to tell her that you don't like all the games and you would not have gotten with her if you knew?

Does something seem a little

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What difference does it make???

You know NOW!

Ditch this bee-otch!

She's obviously not what you want, yet you're convincing yourself that if you keep pursuing her (because she's gotten difficult and knows how to play
you) you'll get some kind of satisfaction out of the situation.

The reality is that you need to walk away. Drop her faster than first-period French, my man.

She's got you plotting and contemplating. You're even thinking of saying things that aren't CONGRUENT.

They don't match your attitude. And they won't work because of this.

She's winning the Game.

(And I cover why this happens in the latest Audio Coaching. It's called the "near miss" syndrome. I also explain why chicks weird-out on you like this.)

You see, the guy with the most CHOICES is the one that inevitably comes out ahead. You have the choices when you keep moving FORWARD, not backwards.

If you have this great love life, then dump this chick and get going on some new prospects. You'll never hook the big catch if you're wasting your time indulging her "hard to get" mechanism like this.

I GUARANTEE you success if you do that, and follow the simple strategies I've got for you.

Ultimately, you're just going to have to learn enough about what's going on in her head to get that upper hand.

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