Carlos Xuma of
Dating Dynamics author of 'The
Dating Black Book'
Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you
want to know how to counter her tests and games?
Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them
on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret
a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?
Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally
get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results?
It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll
"Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point
never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe
they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing.
It doesn't have to be anymore.
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preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete
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and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most
importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.
Question:
There is this girl who is two years younger then me and is a blonde
bombshell. For two weeks she was feeling the vibes I was giving off we
were really flirty and everything seemed fun. I started sorting out my
priorities and started to think that this girl could be a worthy girl of
dating.
See my situation is I am getting alot of attention from girls my $e*x
life is great and I can't complain. But I am sick of random hook ups I
am ready to set my cast out and reel a girl in. I have had many girls I
just have never really had a real girlfriend for more then 5 weeks. It
just never seems to work out.
Anyways this girl was definitely into me and I knew that she was a hard
to get gal so i played it cool. well this last weekend her and I hooked
up (no $e*x just alittle four play) it was alittle unclassy the way
things worked out but it was still fun.
Now this week she is telling her friends that she doesn't know about the
whole thing and about me. now I want to continue hooking up with her b/c
she is cool and all but these games are annoying. My plan was to tell
her that she can play games with the other guys that obsesses over her
but I am not one of those guys and you can't do that to me.
I am going to say that if knew all of this was going to happen that i
wouldn't have hooked up with her in the first place. I really don't know
if those are some of the right things to say. My plan is to come off
angry, but not too angry - to show her that I am better then that, and
then make her feel guilty or make her realize what she could have but
might be out of her reach.
What do you suggest?
-I
CARLOS TALKS ABOUT A FAMILIAR SITUATION:
So your love life is great and you're sick of it?
Oh, dude. We're all playing the world's smallest violin for you out
here...
:)
You want to cast a line out and reel a girl in, but isn't that what
you've been doing?
What you're really saying is that the women you've been meeting aren't
what you want for something long term. And that's going to be the case
for a while, I may add.
But consider this. You think that to get a woman that you will stick
with for the long term, you need to do something different than what
you're already doing, and that's a BIG mistake.
You are already doing what you need to so that you can "reel" in a girl
for dating. Only now, you may have to be a little more choosier. Maybe
you can't keep them around for as long, but it's accomplishing the same
task.
You're screening for the right chick to make you happy.
And of course that girl is telling her friends that. She's immature and
scared that you'll be talking about her and telling everyone she's a
s-l-u-t. It's not a "game," it's a survival mechanism.
Instead of TELLING her something with words, you should be telling her
with your actions. Your words are contradicting your attitude. If you
really felt this way, why wouldn't you just WALK right NOW?
There's a saying: "What you are speaks so loudly I can't hear you."
Now, I'm going to warn you of another danger I see in what you're
saying. You're planning out this elaborate scenario of how to make her
feel a certain way, but you're neglecting the obvious.
Think about it for a second...
Still not coming to you?
Here, let me help.
You said that "if you knew all this, you'd never have gotten involved
with her." And yet, now that you DO know, you are still going forward.
You say that you want to hang with her because she is cool, but you want
to tell her that you don't like all the games and you would not have
gotten with her if you knew?
Does something seem a little
C
R
A
Z
Y
here?
What
difference does it make???
You know NOW!
Ditch this bee-otch!
She's obviously not what you want, yet you're convincing
yourself that if you keep pursuing her (because she's
gotten difficult and knows how to play
you) you'll get some kind of satisfaction out of the
situation.
The reality is that you need to walk away. Drop her
faster than first-period French, my man.
She's got you plotting and contemplating. You're even
thinking of saying things that aren't CONGRUENT.
They don't match your attitude. And they won't work
because of this.
She's winning the Game.
(And I cover why this happens in the latest Audio
Coaching. It's called the "near miss" syndrome. I also
explain why chicks weird-out on you like this.)
You see, the guy with the most CHOICES is the one that
inevitably comes out ahead. You have the choices when
you keep moving FORWARD, not backwards.
If you have this great love life, then dump this chick
and get going on some new prospects. You'll never hook
the big catch if you're wasting your time indulging her
"hard to get" mechanism like this.
I GUARANTEE you success if you do that, and follow the
simple strategies I've got for you.
Ultimately, you're just going to have to learn enough
about what's going on in her head to get that upper
hand.
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