Carlos Xuma of
Dating Dynamics author of 'The
Dating Black Book'
Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you
want to know how to counter her tests and games?
Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them
on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret
a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?
Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally
get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results?
It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll
"Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point
never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe
they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing.
It doesn't have to be anymore.
THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from
preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete
strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior
and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most
importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.
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YES - NO - MAYBE?
I was talking the other day with a friend, (a fellow Alpha Male) and he
was joking about the way boys grow up, drawing dicks on desks, and how
they would write the notes to the girls to find out if they liked him or
not.
This really got me thinking again about how we're brought up, and how we
learn to treat women.
Think back to when you were a kid. When you had a crush on a girl, what
did you do?
Sure, you did what most of the boys did (lacking social skills)... You
somehow thought that if you wrote her a note, disclosing your TRUE
feelings for her, that she would somehow jump in your lap.
What did you write her?
Something like: "Do you like me? Check one: Yes No" Then you'd slip it
into her book bag, or on her desk. Or maybe you'd hand it to her as you
ran to your bus.
And what did she do?
Well, some girls would just take it and show it to their friends,
giggling and laughing, crushing our little child egos. Then, many of the
girls would write back.
She'd NEVER check Yes, even if she did like you. Most often, what would
she do?
She'd write in "MAYBE." And the pattern began.
Don't mistake what I'm going to say here as some kind of disguised male
anger, but:
Guys were setup from that point on to always be subject to the whims of
female sexual power and control. They learned that a girl's approval
could make them feel bad or good about themselves. All with a little
check mark.
What we didn't learn was that they couldn't affect our confidence -
unless we LET THEM. Think about that for a minute. Isn't this the SAME
damn pattern we go through as teenagers, and then adults?
A man is interested in a woman. He starts thinking about her all the
time. He wants to know if this is worth pursuing.
So he asks her out, and after the first date, he goes home and thinks
about her some more. He wants to know what's going on. What does she
think about him?
Then he wants to lock it down. He gets impatient and calls her up, and
he tells her his feelings for her.
Then he asks: "Do you like me?" He asks it again with his supplicating
and insecure behavior, even if he never actually says the words. You
see, guys think in black-and-white.
Yes or no. Like me or not. None of that "Maybe" crap.
Guys don't want the drama of riding an emotional rollercoaster. But
girls grow up loving that drama. And what happens the second he tries to
pin her down? To tell him what she thinks of him?
She becomes harder to get. She becomes more elusive and distant. She
stops feeling attraction because it's obvious that he NEEDS her in some
way.
You see, a woman KNOWS that sexuality is her POWER.
A man holds the might, but a woman controls the zipper.
So he must play the Game.
And since guys are not brought up to understand this game very well,
they are unsure of the rules.
Think
about what it's like to learn a new card game. When you
first start playing, your eyes glaze over a bit as the
person starts to explain the rules. Then you realize
that the best way to learn is to just play it.
After a while, you get the hang of it and it becomes
fun. But at first, when you don't know what to do and
when, it's stressful. Not very fun at all.
If I were to tell you that I know a card game where the
rules seem to change every time you play it, and the
only way you can bet is with your heart and emotions,
and that you never really get to see any of the cards
until you've already lost, would you be interested?
HELL NO!
Most guys would laugh and hit the Roulette wheel again
before they'd chance on that losing proposal. But that's
the card game of dating and seduction, guys.
The women have all the cards, and you can only figure
out which is which by learning to read how she's holding
them. The more you don't want to see the cards, the more
she wants you to look at them. The more you try to peek
at the cards, the worse your hand gets.
But that's the game, gentlemen. Like it or not. But this
game is winnable. I do it and see it all the time. The
secret to winning this game is that the CARDS DON'T
MATTER. It's how you PLAY them.
And I wrote a winning rule book that shows you how to do
it, The Dating Black Book.
(The funny part of this card game is that if you play
the game right, your cards actually get better and
better, until you can be holding five or six aces. Screw
it up, and you can actually be holding a fist full of
ZEROS.)
Men and women are different. Don't try to convince
yourself otherwise. I used to say that "men and women
are really the same inside." This was back in my chump
days, when I was getting laid by luck, not by design.
And then my luck dried up.
And so did my sex life.
I even felt wrong every time I said that lame thing
about men and women being the same. I KNEW inside that I
was wrong. But I WANTED it to be right.
That's where most guys go off the path, and almost never
come back. They become addicted to the way they WISH it
was instead of the way it REALLY is. Then, every day,
they invent every justification imaginable to make it
that way. So when they fail to get the woman they want,
they make excuses and claim that women are just too hard
to understand. They don't see that their own egos are
getting in the way.
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