Carlos Xuma: Flaky Chicks And Dumb Dudes

Carlos Xuma of Dating Dynamics author of 'The Dating Black Book'

Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you want to know how to counter her tests and games? Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?

QUESTION:

Background:
this chick was suppose to go on a date w/ me this past Tuesday and we agreed on this the previous Friday, but she did not return my call, which I made Monday eve to confirm. Anyway, she lates me. It's been 3+ days since I left that voice mail and she has not called back. Also, she has my email address and never wrote me to get in touch (she knows she can get a hold of me at work via email any time). I sent her this email(read mine at the bottom first) at 2:50 today, Thursday and she wrote back w/in 5 minutes (WOW QUICK RESPONSE!!)..... then read hers, which is full of BS.
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I'll write back tomorrow saying I took someone else and it was the best party in a long time, some celebrities were there, it was rockin, etc.....HER GAME IS UP and I'm taking another girl-----

ENJOY GUYS!!!!and thanks again for your advice and help.-AM

EMAIL:
Alex, I'm sorry I didn't get back to you, I really meant to call you back, you know what was weird was that I didn't get your voice mail until the next day after you called so that was bizarre? I hope you don't take it the wrong way because I certainly did not mean to not return your call and it didn't even show up as a missed call. But I don't know if the offer is still open but I'd love to go if you're still interested in taking me

Pauline;)
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There really wasn't a question in this letter, but I thought it would be good to publish as an example of female behavior. Classical.

SURE she's sorry she didn't get back to you. Sorry now that she's missing out on this party.

BIZARRE that she didn't get your voice mail? Nope. Just shows that she's a LIAR.

DIDN'T SHOW UP AS A MISSED CALL?

SURE it didn't. Right. Uh-huh.

What planet does she think you were born on?

If she emails, calls back, or re-contacts you later, she might actually still be interested. If she doesn't (which is what I suspect will happen) she was only interested in using you to get to the party. If you had taken her, she would have left with some other guy.

The moral of this story? Chicks are flaky.

But if you can give them a good enough reason to respond, they will.

Remember: Her radio is tuned into WIIFM - What's in it for me?

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QUESTION:

Why is it so astronomically difficult to meet any females, let alone form any kind of relationship. I was reading through some of the do's and don'ts:
Don't ring in the evening, she may be on a date?? - Call me old-fashioned, but I've always believed in monogamous relationships!!! I thought it was only guys who could be slimy, not women as well!!! :/

Ok so here's the thing. I'm 32 this year and still haven't had my first relationship. After reading through the rest of the do's and don'ts (which all assume we already know someone by the way), it seems us guys have to jump through flaming hoops just to get noticed!! Whatever happened to just meeting someone, falling in love and living happily ever after? How do I go about doing that? Isn't it every girl's dream? Or am I living in the distant past and every female sees themselves as a cast member from Se*x in the City?

J

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You know, I could have sent out another question where some guy was praising all the things he learned from my e-books, telling me how great this stuff is, blah-blah-blah.

But you know what? It's not nearly as interesting as when I get a letter like this. A guy that just doesn't have a friggin' CLUE.

Just so you guys know, I was forwarded this particular letter from an affiliated column that I publish. I know that the guys who have my ebooks and audio aren't this lost.

You can obviously tell that this guy has had no real experience in the Dating Dynamic, especially as I teach it.

Class!!!!
School is now in session...

J, let's start with the short answer: YES, you are living in the PAST (also known as a "dream world") where you ARE old fashioned.

Have you ever stopped to think that maybe the reason you're 32 and haven't had a relationship is that what you believe is WRONG???

(Amazing how we humans can totally delude ourselves.)

Tell me something, why does "not being monogamous" = SLIMY?

Dude, even when you think it was "in" for guys and girls to date only one person, they almost NEVER DID. You've gotten a bunch of fallacies from storybooks confused with the reality of the world.

To be perfectly honest, this is a common complaint. It's the tired old, "Hey, I'm a nice guy! I deserve to have a woman notice me and love me for WHO I AM! And it should be as easy as meeting someone, falling in love, and living happily ever after! Women should just fall for me because I'm some noble Nice Guy."

Someone stop the Disney movie marathon for this guy. Please... hit pause on his DVD player right now.

Let's start out by clearing something up: As much as I love the show, "S*ex and the City" is nothing more than an amusing TELEVISION PROGRAM.

I've interviewed dozens and dozens of women about that show, and they all agree that while every woman bears some resemblance to at least one of the women on the show, the situations are mostly horsesh*t. Women aren't running around getting laid like this. These 4 women are just a bunch of crazy chicks that represent general neurotic female behavior.

My point here?
I think you understand that the show isn't reality, but I don't think you understand enough about REAL women to conjure up a REAL solution for your problem.

Okay, now let's get back to that thing you said about monogamy.

I realize that a lot of religions out there have brainwashed us into believing that we should pair bond for life with one person, but that's NOT realistic. I'm not going to go off on a rant about the crazy repression in these "religions," but I will tell you that NOT shopping around is the most lethal thing you can do.

It's especially dangerous for YOU, because the first woman you land in bed with is going to seem like the be-all, end-all for you, and you'll be on your knees proposing in two weeks, thus scaring her off.

It's NOT WRONG to see many people. It's ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY.

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In fact, if you've witnessed some of the INSANE people I've seen who got married too young, or TOO SOON, or just because they were SUPPOSED TO, you'll see a MISERABLE situation.

You'll also know that the one thing EVERY person I've EVER talked to who has ever screwed up a lot and finally found a good relationship says they wished they had done differently was that they had WAITED and gotten more experience in dating so they could figure out what they wanted.

You lose your clarity when you're all wrapped up in one person. You become a mindless, lust driven tool with no balance or perspective because you have no basis of comparison.

Oh, and you really know how to stand my hair up on end with that last bit about guys being slimy and not women. Another successfully brainwashed SHE-MALE that honestly believes that men are all bad and women are pure and clean entities of goodness sent to us to save our wicked souls.

Wow, I managed to not projectile vomit all over the computer. That's a first.

Dude, women are capable of just as much devious, slimy, underhanded behavior as men. Witness the first letter I printed.

I don't like to be so mean, but you're in desperate need of a bee-otch slap that will wake you up and set you straight, before you wind up marrying some nagging fat broad.

You want to know how to go about getting a woman? First of all, recognize that if you've been single your whole life, and you've been unsuccessful this whole time, WHAT YOU'RE DOING ISN'T WORKING. It's time to do something DIFFERENT.

Then, get off your ass and get out in the real world. I'll bet any amount of money that you haven't interacted with women in anything more than friendly talk ... if that. Get out and start meeting women in romantic situations.
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I used to be that poor tool, by the way. I used to be the Nice Guy who thought he could just be a really swell guy and all the women would just want him. And then I found out that I was constantly turned down.

I got sick of it. Totally flipping sick of it. And I knew I had to change things.

Have you ever felt like this? That women were somehow so hard to understand that you almost felt like giving up? That you're this great guy, but you don't know how to show them?

If you get burned, you don't stop playing with matches ... you TAME THE FIRE.

I've talked to guys the world over who have made a REAL difference in their lives by taking the first step on the right path - learning. Once you understand, your world opens up.

Ask yourself:

Wouldn't it be great to learn how women REALLY think and work?

Wouldn't it be fantastic to finally put aside your fears once and for all? Approach women anywhere and anytime?

And GET RESULTS with women.

And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of seduction and dating.

I can show you the way to better results and success with women, and it's all in my e-book - THE DATING BLACK BOOK. You need to download it from here. www.datingdynamics.com/ebookstore.htm

You'll get answers to questions like:

... When is a woman playing you or REALLY interested?
... How do you stop being strung along for weeks and weeks by women, and how do you turn them on to you instead of you being turned into another girlfriend? ... How do you meet MORE hot women? ... How do you get them attracted to you right from the start? ... How do you stop paying for dates that go NOWHERE?

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Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results? It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll "Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing. It doesn't have to be anymore. THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.

Carlos Xuma
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