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How Many Times Do You Fail With Women?

Carlos Xuma Says... How's your self-esteem these days? Pick-up advice for men by Carlos Xuma based on 'The Dating Black Book'

Do you know about the RULES for women? Do you want to know how to counter her tests and games? Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them on to you?

Continue reading and you will.

*** Question from a Reader ***

Dear Carlos,
I have been reading your letters for some time now, and I must say they are extremely interesting and factual.

I was interested in finding a girlfriend when I turned 18 last year November. I have made a few mistakes where I was rejected and I did not know why. I did some research and read many of these books including your letters but am still unsuccessful (this is really messing up my self esteem).

I am very good looking (not that I'm bragging but am told by many of my sisters friends who are 26 years of age and over.) To get to the point, I feel that reading these books makes me feel insecure as if I require help, like a crazy person seeing a psychiatrist. and as a result girls can sense it SOMEHOW.

How many mistakes do I have to make (roughly) until I get a girl?


Yes, these articles are factual. They deal in REALITY. I went out and made every mistake imaginable, all so you guys wouldn't have to. Not that I really WANTED to make them all, but it so happened that it was necessary to get to a point of understanding with women. And the funny thing is that most guys out there assume that if you're good looking, you've got it made with women.

As you can tell, this just isn't so. This guy writing in is having some problems. He asked me: How many mistakes do you need to make?
Here you go. The answer is ...
Okay, maybe it's 7.
How about 1,346?

Here's a good way for you to look at it ...
QUESTION: How many mistakes do you need to make?

You can't quantify this stuff. You can't make it an easy prescription that I can write you and tell you that if you make exactly X number of approaches, you'll get 1 girlfriend.

It may take 1 mistake. It might take 500 mistakes. (It would take a lot less if you got busy and got my e-books, I'll tell you that right now.)

WHO CARES how many it takes?
All that REALLY matters is that you MAKE them and get them out of the way now, so that you can get to that warm, moist place we all want to get to. All that REALLY matters is the kind of MAN you become in the process!

That warm, moist place that I speak of ...
It's called SUCCESS, my brothers.
If I told you it takes 340 mistakes, would that be more than you could handle?
Would you give up?
Run off and cry, just forget figuring this out?

An Alpha Man would NEVER give up until he got it. Never! EVER!

Remember the motto from Apollo 13:
"Failure is NOT an option!"

I don't know what books you're reading that make you feel insecure, but I do know that they're not mine. What you are doing, though, is making the wrong assumption.

You assume that if there's something you don't know about yet, or don't have in your tool belt, that means that you have a reason to feel inadequate. You're reading things that point out what you need to work on, and you're looking on the negative side of things.

You're getting down on yourself. Should you be unhappy in this knowledge?

You should feel INVIGORATED. Energized! F'ing excited!

That means you've still got more life to live, dude!

I'm going to write you a very strong prescription, Mr. Good looking friend without a woman.

FIRST: You need to stop looking at this all as work, and relax. I can tell from your letter that you're taking it too seriously. You're discouraged, and that alone is something that women can smell on you like fermented cabbage.


You seem to be mystified when you say that they can sense this "Somehow." Hell, all I talk about here is how refined and heightened a woman's radar is to guys who are insecure and lack confidence.

They grew up interacting in very complex and intricate social situations with their friends, all while you were getting Nintendo-thumb, or Blister-palm.

Of COURSE she can sense it. And THAT is how she keeps from getting hooked up with the real turkeys out there.

SECOND: Get my dang Secrets of the Alpha Man course RIGHT AWAY. No joke, dude.

Why do I think you need it?

Because I created that program to help guys who are WAY too into the "I need to get a woman" part of the game and not enough into the "I need to get a life" part of the game. I'm not just throwing you guys a lame promo here. I really know when something I've created can help, and this is one area I created this program to help.

Having a woman will never fulfill you if you aren't a whole man in the first place. You'll just slip into more and more self-defeating beliefs and behaviors.

Stop the landslide! Dig in and get some traction.

THIRD: You need to make a COMMITMENT to yourself to DO this thing and do it right.
Make mistakes.

Last week I got a letter from a guy that said:
"... I don't learn as much about myself and how to manage my emotions and how to interact with people and how to bounce from failure like when I crash and burn and fail miserably."

Read that again about twenty times. No, wait, that's giving you a number.

Read it until you GET IT. Until you slap your head and realize that it's not how many mistakes you make. It's how many times you make a mistake and KEEP ON TRYING.

I GUARANTEE you success if you do that, and follow the simple strategies I've got for you. Ultimately, you're just going to have to learn enough about what's going on in her head to get that upper hand.

Go out and start talking to women. Start interacting with them everywhere you can.

I GUARANTEE you success if you do that, and follow the simple strategies I've got for you.

Ultimately, you're just going to have to learn enough about what's going on in her head to get that upper hand.

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