Carlos Xuma of
Dating Dynamics author of 'The
Dating Black Book'
Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you
want to know how to counter her tests and games?
Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them
on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret
a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?
Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally
get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results?
It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll
"Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point
never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe
they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing.
It doesn't have to be anymore.
THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from
preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete
strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior
and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most
importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.
QUESTION:
hey man whats up, ussually when you get a girls number you jus call
her up have a lil conversation and ask her to meet you somwhere, is it
any diffrent with internet girls? im gussing it is but I wanted to ask
you and ''when'' do you ask a internet girl out? and ''how'' do you?
if your wonderin why Im askin you this it's because I got like 10
internet girl #'s and most like me (whenever i go online they message
me right away) they also say they're having boring summers, but as
soon as I ask them to meet me like at a mall they get turned off so
fast and they stop talking to me? so how and when do you ask a
internet girl out so you two can meet up?
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So, you're asking women out in a chat room? Or is this email?
Forget I asked that.
Either way, THAT is your problem, dude.
What kind of girl would meet a guy after only seeing his typed letters
on a computer screen?
ANSWER: Only a girl as desperate and insecure as you are crazy.
Remember, you have to gain her TRUST. To her, you're just another
freak that's trying to get laid online. You have to develop RAPPORT
with her.
You have to move up to getting her phone number and TALKING to her
before you can just expect to meet her somewhere. (Newsflash - the
mall is pretty lame. I realize you're probably in high school, but
aren't there any other interesting places around than that?)
These women will stay your online girls because that's very SAFE for
them. They get attention and popularity in a way that never requires
them to RISK.
My advice? Start getting rid of some of these girls by taking it to
the next step. The ones that stick around are the ones you want to
pursue. The others you never had anyway. You were just a collection of
screen names on her AOL screen. If you can't get them to talk to you
on a phone, you never had them to begin with.
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"Carlos, I must say that the usefulness and completeness of the Dating
Black Book is a QUANTUM LEAP over anything else I have ever read. I
now have gone from approaching a woman every few weeks to exuding
confidence with every woman I want to meet, every one of which I now
approach.
"I now know how not only to spark their interest, but also how to hit
their curveballs out of the park. I would definitely recommend The
Dating Black Book to any guy who is looking to improve his
understanding of women, and at the same time keep his balls." - A.C.
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SUCCESS STORY:
Carlos,
I've written before about certain problems and I've read both the
Dating Black Book and the Seduction Method which is why I'm writing to
thank you for the advice in it, which last night helped me to attract
a girl that I though I was in danger of being just friends with.
Anyway, we had been flirting on and off by text message and she (like
I) is at University (or College as you might better know it) and she
had come back up to graduate yesterday. We met up in a pub with a
group of her friends, some I knew and some I didn't, and me and her
began to catch up.
Anyway she looked at me during a break in the
conversation and said I was "nice" and I thought I was losing her (as
in the "ahh, your nice and sweet and such a good friend" routine), but
she then went on to say that I was funny. I told her that this was
good but it didn't get me a girlfriend, and she looked me dead in the
eye and said "I'd be your girlfriend". At this point ashamedly I
froze, having never expected to hear those words from her and the
moment passed.
Anyway we then moved
onto a nearby club and she had become rather drunk (think Irishman in
a Guinness factory on St Patrick's day) and so I offered to walk her
to a taxi, to which she agreed, and on to way out I put my arm round
her and her then moved to hold my hand, which was nice.
We then walked to the taxi and stopped to say goodbye. Anyway I
thought that the handholding and the girlfriend comment were fairtly
safe indicators (much better than dilated pupils or a flushing of her
cheeks) so I moved in for the kiss. Carlos man, it was fantastic, for
many different reasons... but mostly because I haven't had that level
of intimacy in a while (since before I bought the books anyway), and
and it was a great end to a good evening.
Anyway after we kissed (I pulled away
first... see I'm learning already) I walked her to the taxi door and
she said thankyou for a grat evening and (word perfect) "If I didn't
have a boyfriend, I'd go out with you". Which is of course a
compliment, but I honestly didn't know she was involved and didn't
press the issue for tfear of ruining the mood. I don't believe in
breaking up relationships, because I believe in the sanctity of them
(maybe this makes me too much of a Nice Guy, but that's what comes
from having parents who were married 25 years unitl death did do them
apart)
So anyway, I'm just writing to say THANKYOU!!!!!!! because you gave me
the confidence to go out and get, and like you say in the Confidence
Treadmill part of the book, the best way to get confidence is go out
and do it, and that should get me on an upward spiral leading all the
way to the top baby, yeah!!! (sorry, Austin Powers moment there... too
much sugar I think).
That's all for now, but again thank you because as you
also say "every girl is preparation for the next", and now I know I
can do it once, its given me such a boost this morning, and I'm
smiling like the Cheshire Cat!
You Rock
M.S.P., England. ON TOP OF THE WORLD!!
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Excellent work! I appreciate your mail. This is the kind of example
that the guys out there need to hear about. And all the way from
across the pond...
You are learning and applying the material, and that, my man, is about
99% of this game. You see that if you actually DO this stuff, you get
results.
Sniff ... sniff... It does me proud.
Great work!
As for her line "If I didn't have a boyfriend...", here's how you
handle that:
First, don't panic. Recognize that if she didn't want this to go any
further, she wouldn't have gone as far as she did. She's testing the
waters. Women are often like monkeys: they don't let go of the last
vine until they've got a good grip on the next one.
Second Ignore the comment as if you didn't even hear it. She will be
attracted to a man who doesn't worry about being an Alpha and stealing
her away from someone who obviously isn't turning her gears the way
you are.
Third, say something like this: "Whoah, we hang out for a while and
already you're telling me your problems. :) Obviously he's not giving
you the attention you need. We'll talk."
And leave. Don't appear as if her comment has shot you down. Then call
her back after a few days (probably at least 4 or 5, maybe even a
week.) In fact, I'd be amazed if she didn't call YOU. Tell her
you're going out for more fun and you thought she wasn't too shabby a
friend to hang out with. You'll pick her up on Friday at 7:00. (Don't
ask her. TELL her.)
She might give you more of that "I've got a boyfriend" nonsense, but
ignore it. Be a little pushy, but not obnoxious. The key is how
ASSERTIVE you are, and whether or not you want to go after what you
want in life. She looks at this trait as an Alpha trait. And she's not
married to this dork, so 'til death does she part doesn't apply. Don't
be afraid to go after what YOU want and deserve in this life. No one
else will make that happen for you but YOU.
Remember that the only dishonorable thing about going after a woman
that's already seeing someone is if your goal is to hurt the other
guy. You can't wait around for the woman you want to be single,
because she will often be shopping for Mr. NextGuy while she's still
dating the last one.
Someone will get her... And it might as well be you, right?
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