Carlos Xuma of
Dating Dynamics author of 'The
Dating Black Book'
I want to talk to you for a minute on a topic that
I've recently had the joy of researching first-hand.
This goes into the topic of posture (which many of you are familiar with in
the e-book) and I hope this demonstrates what I mean by turning the tables on
a woman and showing her you are not a wimp.
The usual pattern of male interaction (at least for 90% of the "nice guys" out
there) is that they will often start to fear losing a woman far too quickly.
Recently, I had to cut loose one of my low-grade prospects because of her lack
of effort. It wasn't easy at first, but I remembered that my attitude is FIRST
and foremost, and keeping her around, selling off bits of my self-esteem to
keep seeing her would have been more damaging than beneficial.
Here's the message that I gave her:
"Hey, girl... I tried calling you so I could talk to you in person, but no
luck. I've been thinking, and it doesn't seem like a good time for us to be
seeing each other. I really need a little more TLC right now and enthusiasm if
I'm going to keep seeing someone. I think it's better if we can just be
friends. No criticism of you, I just have high standards when it comes to the
level of attention I require. Good luck!"
Yes, that's what I told her, because I could smell her flakiness starting to
come on, and it got to the point where I couldn't reach her in person.
You know that smell, don't you? When a woman starts to hold back on contacting
you, and you can tell that she's either trying to play the old "hard to get"
game (probably after reading The Rules but not knowing how to use them
appropriately) or she's starting to lose interest.
Most guys totally screw it up right here. They will proceed to push down
harder on the gas, not realizing that she's already pulled up on the emergency
brake. They start to panic, and they call her ten times a day to find out what
is wrong, why won't she call?
Cut her off and take the upper hand back.
The bottom line is that I needed that slice of
time back for ME, not wasting it on a woman who wasn't an active and producing
part of my investment portfolio. The other stocks I've chosen deserve my
attention, and they'll get further investments if they keep producing. But
keeping her around is detrimental overall.
I did my part by demonstrating good faith in making the first installment
investment, which every guy should do. That initial investment is your effort
to get to that first date or meeting with her (introducing yourself, getting
the phone number, calling her, setting the date). Everything after this point
MUST have a return on your investment.
What kind of "return" are you looking for?
If she fails to kiss you on your first date (after a COMPETENT attempt by you)
then she's dropped.
If she does not keep returning energy, affection, or any of the needs you have
from her, GET RID OF HER.
If she's more of a liability or a drain to be around than uplifting and fun -
she's better off playing for another team!
Drop her.
How many times have YOU told a woman you
would "rather just be friends"?
When I told a friend of mine that I had used that line on her, he
thought it was the most original thing he'd heard and couldn't stop
chuckling at the irony. (I'll bet HE has never used that on a woman
himself.)
Why haven't you done that to HER for a change? Why haven't you dropped a
bomb in her lap by telling her you'd rather just be friends?
Because you were always more scared of losing out on potential pussy
than you were at keeping your self-esteem high. Until you value your own
sense of confidence and self-esteem more than a piece of ass, SHE will
always CONTROL YOU.
(Whoah... this guy is to the point...)
Does that thought sound appealing to you? Giving up your manhood to a
woman just to satisfy your sexual urge?
Here's an alternative: Cultivate the attitude and inner-strength of a
man who does not NEED women at all. He understands that 50% of the
population (actually slightly more) are women, and that once he
understands the essentials - the FUNDAMENTALS - of female attraction, he
need never trade his balls for anything again. Women are always out
there waiting for him (yes, WAITING for you, guys - women almost never
initiate, so they're WAITING for YOU.)
WE have the power, my friends. Not them. And only you can do something
with that power by taking the upper hand from time to time.
And there are many ways to display this power of personality.
Ultimately, you're going to have to learn enough about what's going on
in her head to get that upper hand.
**
Every man wants options when it comes to dating. We're sick and tired of
taking it as it comes and having to feel good about the crumbs.
It's easy to start falling into traps of thought when you're a guy, and
you don't have the same social support system a woman has. It's easy to
fall prey to thinking about women, dating, and sex in a "logical" way.
You start to believe the "Men are from Mars" hype, and you start to
suffer in your dating because you THINK you're giving women what they
want, but it's not working. (Like security, for instance.)
You want and need to know the secrets to making a woman feel attracted
to you, to start that PASSION drive inside her.
For years, you've been programmed by bad television, bad movies, bad
dating advice from men who aren't getting laid - you name it. It's time
to end this pattern once and for all.
I think a lot of guys are stuck in their own thought patterns,
self-reinforcing all their responses to women and are not able to get
out of these learned patterns. The first step in the process of
improving your success with women is knowing the game. Learn the rules
so you can play it without getting thrown in the penalty box on every
meeting with a gal.
Aren't you tired of going out on dates with that knotted feeling in your
stomach? You know, the sensation that things could go either way with a
woman, and you're flipping a coin. You feel like the chances of having
it work out with her are due to probability, not ability.
It doesn't have to be this way.
***
Imagine what it will feel like to wake up each morning, with or without
a woman in bed with you, but knowing that whatever situation you walk
into with a woman that you're going to feel comfortable and confident?
Wouldn't that be incredible? Isn't that the way you want to live your
life? Can you imagine that deep-in-the-bones kind of satisfaction and
confidence? Haven't you always wanted that?
You CAN have it. THE DATING BLACK BOOK will point you to a better way
with women, where you become the skilled hunter instead of the pack
hyena. Every man deserves to get his game together and have the women he
wants in his life. Period.
And now you can download all these priceless strategies right now at:
www.datingdynamics.com/ebookstore.htm
Carlos Xuma
www.datingdynamics.com
Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you
want to know how to counter her tests and games?
Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them
on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret
a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?
Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally
get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results?
It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll
"Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point
never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe
they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing.
It doesn't have to be anymore.
THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from
preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete
strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior
and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most
importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.
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