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Your Attitude Determines Your Altitude

Carlos Xuma Says... Pick-up advice for men by Carlos Xuma based on 'The Dating Black Book'

Do you know about the RULES for women? Do you want to know how to counter her tests and games? Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them on to you?

Continue reading and you will.


Hey Carlos, listen, you know I'm a great fan and I'm your number #1 student. I read your newsletters religiously and your e-books have helped me tremendously. It's almost 3am as I'm typing this and I just got back from a night of sarging. I did 33 approaches, got 3 e-mail addresses and 2 phone numbers and almost one make-out. My goal is to do 100 approaches per week and this week I've earned a gold star because I did 123 approaches.

Yes, I get blown off, laughed at, women walk away with a face on them, some are very rude (funny how the rude ones are not even attractive), not interested, I have a boyfriend, I'm married, I'm engaged...

And you know what? I LOVE it! I love the game! When I approach a girl and she's receptive and friendly, beautiful and attractive with high self-esteem and a great personality. I run my game as usual, I get her number, we meet up, I seduce her. Excellent!

But I don't learn as much about myself and how to manage my emotions and how to interact with people and how to bounce from failure like when I crash and burn and fail miserably.

My wings call me "The Kamikaze Wingman" because of my willingness to jump on the grenade for them. When my wing closes his target, I feel terrific. When my wing is happy, I'm happy....


This guy wrote me to let me know how things were going after getting my material under his belt. I just had to share it with you. The most important step you can take in your development as a single guy, and as an Alpha, is to Check Your Attitude.

There's a saying: "Your Attitude Determines Your Altitude."

It's so true, my brothers.

I was driving down a highway near where I live yesterday when I saw two cars speeding excessively by me. I thought to myself, that's reckless, and it endangers other people. As I turned the bend, I watched in horror as one of the two cars (doing about 90) lost control and went into a roll. I watched as this small white Chevy went side over side over side, about 10 times. The whole time I'm thinking that he'll be lucky to live. I swear it was more incredible than watching it in a movie. This was REAL.

I was one of the first people to pull over and make sure he was okay. This young guy actually crawled out of the wreckage with just a small cut on the head. He was lucky.

His attitude was that he can pretend he's invincible. The rules of the world (and inertia and gravity) don't apply to him. What a sobering wake-up call.

Some guys will never get that harsh slap of reality, or if they do, they deny it. They pretend everything is all right. They're just fine. They don't need to grow. They don't need to improve.

They're scared to change for the better. This guy in the letter above GETS it. He understands the right attitude. And because he does, he's getting results. And he understands that it's actually EASY.

This whole talk to women and pick up women and date women thing is really just a game, and it's so easy to play it right and WIN. But the essence of his success I fear will be lost, so I'm going to replay the most important part of his email for you to review:

"But I don't learn as much about myself and how to manage my emotions and how to interact with people and how to bounce from failure like when I crash and burn and fail miserably."

THAT is what it's all about.

The seeds of his successes are all in his mistakes. And like I've told you, when you understand this principle and make more of them, you make less of them.

Because you learn, and you stop making them, and you then learn that there IS NO SUCH THING AS A MISTAKE OR FAILURE!

It's all part of the same thing.

Did you know that a commercial jet is off course 95%+ of the time? It's true. The pilot and autopilot are re-adjusting the flight hundreds of times during the average flight, because of crosswinds and new locational readings.

But they STILL GET TO THE GOAL. Because they keep making adjustments.

Imagine if the pilot got on the speaker and said, "Well, folks, we really were hoping to get you to our destination - Los Angeles today, but due to unforeseen problems, we're going to have to settle for Deadwood Arizona. I hope you don't mind."

You'd have a rebellion on that flight, wouldn't you?

But the one thing the pilot KNOWS is that if he keeps correcting his course enough, the plane will - MUST - get to its destination. You must be just like that pilot.

Your flight number 101 from single and without a woman is leaving now. How are you going to fly it?
Are you going to give up at the first headwind?
Are you going to hide in your closet when she tells you that she's busy this weekend?
Or are you going to adjust your flight plan again?
Your destination is THERE, my brothers. You just have to stay on course.

A few more things this guy gets:
- It's a numbers game. The more numbers you run, the more success you have. PERIOD. End of story.

123 approaches! In a flipping WEEK! Incredible, dude. My hat is off to you.

You don't even have to do this many to have success, but the fun fact is that if you do even a portion of this number, and you keep it FUN, 123 is nothing after a while. You won't be able to find ENOUGH women to keep up with you.

Then the tables turn!

Some other great points:
- He's got goals. That is SO critical to growth. Have a destination in mind, guys. That same pilot would never get on the loudspeaker and say, "Well, folks, we're taking off in just a few minutes. We don't know where we're going, but we're sure we're going somewhere. I just hope we have enough fuel to make it."

That would be bad.
- He takes care of his wingmen and genuinely invests himself in THEIR success. Not just his own!

Fantastic! This kind of loyalty is what I wish *I* had.
- And, finally, this guy isn't deterred by women that turn him down. He understands that there are so many women out there that he can't get to them all.

I hate to say it, but the simplicity of this formula is already looking weird to some of you. I can hear a bunch of guys going, "Yeah, sure, he's just good looking..." or "Yeah, he's just lucky..."

Or a hundred thousand other excuses guys make for themselves. Instead of following a plan that has worked since the starting of time.

Just DO IT.

Go out and start talking to women. Start interacting with them everywhere you can.

I GUARANTEE you success if you do that, and follow the simple strategies I've got for you.

Ultimately, you're just going to have to learn enough about what's going on in her head to get that upper hand.

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