Carlos Xuma of
Dating Dynamics author of 'The
Dating Black Book'
NOT REALLY A QUESTION:
Hey Carlos, listen, you know I'm a great fan and I'm your number #1
student. I read your newsletters religiously and your e-books have
helped me tremendously. It's almost 3am as I'm typing this and I just
got back from a night of sarging. I did 33 approaches, got 3 e-mail
addresses and 2 phone numbers and almost one make-out. My goal is to do
100 approaches per week and this week I've earned a gold star because I
did 123 approaches.
Yes, I get blown off, laughed at, women walk away with a face on them,
some are very rude (funny how the rude ones are not even attractive),
not interested, I have a boyfriend, I'm married, I'm engaged...
And you know what? I LOVE it! I love the game! When I approach a girl
and she's receptive and friendly, beautiful and attractive with high
self-esteem and a great personality. I run my game as usual, I get her
number, we meet up, I seduce her. Excellent!
But I don't learn as much about myself and how to manage my emotions and
how to interact with people and how to bounce from failure like when I
crash and burn and fail miserably.
My wings call me "The Kamikaze Wingman" because of my willingness to
jump on the grenade for them. When my wing closes his target, I feel
terrific. When my wing is happy, I'm happy....
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CARLOS SEES WHAT THIS GUY IS MADE OF:
This guy wrote me to let me know how things were going after getting my
material under his belt. I just had to share it with you. The most
important step you can take in your development as a single guy, and as
an Alpha, is to Check Your Attitude.
There's a saying: "Your Attitude determines your Altitude."
It's so true, my brothers.
I was driving down a highway near where I live yesterday when I saw two
cars speeding excessively by me. I thought to myself, that's reckless,
and it endangers other people. As I turned the bend, I watched in horror
as one of the two cars (doing about 90) lost control and went into a
roll. I watched as this small white Chevy went side over side over side,
about 10 times. The whole time I'm thinking that he'll be lucky to live.
I swear it was more incredible than watching it in a movie. This was
REAL.
I was one of the first people to pull over and make sure he was okay.
This young guy actually crawled out of the wreckage with just a small
cut on the head. He was lucky.
His attitude was that he can pretend he's invincible. The rules of the
world (and inertia and gravity) don't apply to him. What a sobering
wake-up call.
Some guys will never get that harsh slap of reality, or if they do, they
deny it. They pretend everything is all right. They're just fine. They
don't need to grow. They don't need to improve.
They're scared to change for the better. This guy in the letter above
GETS it. He understands the right attitude. And because he does, he's
getting results. And he understands that it's actually EASY.
This whole talk to women and pick up women and date women thing is
really just a game, and it's so easy to play it right and WIN. But the
essence of his success I fear will be lost, so I'm going to replay the
most important part of his email for you to review:
"But I don't learn as much about myself and how to manage my emotions
and how to interact with people and how to bounce from failure like when
I crash and burn and fail miserably."
THAT is what it's all about.
The seeds of his successes are all in his mistakes. And like I've told
you, when you understand this principle and make more of them, you make
less of them.
Because you learn, and you stop making them, and you then learn that
there IS NO SUCH THING AS A MISTAKE OR FAILURE!
It's all part of the same thing.
Did you know that a commercial jet is off course 95%+ of the time? It's
true. The pilot and autopilot are re-adjusting the flight hundreds of
times during the average flight, because of crosswinds and new
locational readings.
But they STILL GET TO THE GOAL. Because they keep making adjustments.
Imagine if the pilot got on the speaker and said, "Well, folks, we
really were hoping to get you to our destination - Los Angeles today,
but due to unforeseen problems, we're going to have to settle for
Deadwood Arizona. I hope you don't mind."
You'd have a rebellion on that flight, wouldn't you?
But the one thing the pilot KNOWS is that if he keeps correcting his
course enough, the plane will - MUST - get to its destination. You must
be just like that pilot.
Your flight number 101 from single and without a woman is leaving now.
How are you going to fly it?
Are you going to give up at the first headwind?
Are you going to hide in your closet when she tells you that she's busy
this weekend?
Or are you going to adjust your flight plan again?
Your destination is THERE, my brothers. You just have to stay on course.
A few more things this guy gets:
- It's a numbers game. The more numbers you run, the more success you
have. PERIOD. End of story.
123 approaches! In a flipping WEEK! Incredible, dude. My hat is off to
you.
You don't even have to do this many to have success, but the fun fact is
that if you do even a portion of this number, and you keep it FUN, 123
is nothing after a while. You won't be able to find ENOUGH women to keep
up with you.
Then the tables turn!
Some other great points:
- He's got goals. That is SO critical to growth. Have a destination in
mind, guys. That same pilot would never get on the loudspeaker and say,
"Well, folks, we're taking off in just a few minutes. We don't know
where we're going, but we're sure we're going somewhere. I just hope we
have enough fuel to make it."
That would be bad.
- He takes care of his wingmen and genuinely invests himself in THEIR
success. Not just his own!
Fantastic! This kind of loyalty is what I wish *I* had.
- And, finally, this guy isn't deterred by women that turn him down. He
understands that there are so many women out there that he can't get to
them all.
I hate to say it, but the simplicity of this formula is already looking
weird to some of you. I can hear a bunch of guys going, "Yeah, sure,
he's just good looking..." or "Yeah, he's just lucky..."
Or a hundred thousand other excuses guys make for themselves. Instead of
following a plan that has worked since the starting of time.
Just DO IT.
Go out
and start talking to women. Start interacting with them
everywhere you can.
I GUARANTEE you success if you do that, and follow the
simple strategies I've got for you.
Ultimately, you're just going to have to learn enough
about what's going on in her head to get that upper
hand.
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Thanks...
Carlos Xuma
www.datingdynamics.com
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